hi folks i need to know am i over weight am 5 ft 3 and i weigh 09 stones 13 my fiance said yesterday am fat but not that fat i think am a good weight for my height i have curves in the right places so why does he keep pulling me down and saying am fat it's really getting me down?
2007-08-16 23:28:17 · 10 answers · asked by baby dust for me 5 in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
i never asked him if i was fat when i first met him i was slightly over weight then i lost the weight over a couple of months after that he told be that he prefers slim woman and that he detests fat woman he slags fat people of as though they have the plague or something.
2007-08-17 00:19:53 · update #1
Honestly, if your fiance is saying these sort of things to you, then you should be asking yourself whether this is the right man for you, not the question of am I fat?
The answer to you being fat is no. Curvy women are a great role model for society these days, as lots of women are put under pressure by celebrities, pop stars and size zero models!
Tell your fiance, that you are happy with how you are. And say if he doesnt like it then he knows where the door is.
Take care
2007-08-16 23:52:10 · answer #1 · answered by Lucy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stampy Skunk she is 9stone 13 not 9 stone, she is 139lbs (not 126) or 24.6 bmi that is within health range however is not far off being overweight.
Your fiance is just being very mean since if he actually wanted you to lose weight thats not the right way to go about it instead he should suggest physical activities and give another reason i.e like going for a romantic walk.
Negative comments are just hurtful and don't actually encorage people to lose weight.
If you do decide to lose weight dropping 9lbs to 130 gives you a 23.0 bmi. 9lbs is not actually a great amount so take it slowly a 3 month time span is good 3lbs in a month is fairly easy only thing to keep in mind is after 3 moths say you only lost 4lbs don't consider it a faliure since the goal is to lose weight and you have.
On the other hand if you are 9 stone or 126lbs tell him to get lost because their is nothing wrong with that weight
2007-08-17 00:09:55 · answer #2 · answered by nurgle69 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had to do a little calculating (but now I know how much a stone is in pounds!): you weigh about 130 lb., which makes your BMI (body mass index, a measure of whether your weight is healthy) about 23.
This is very healthy.
It sounds like you like how your body feels and looks.
I think the only weight you need to lose is that boyfriend. At the very least he has a vision problem if he thinks you are fat. More likely he does not appreciate you--find someone who likes you and spend your time with him.
But dump this guy. He's bad for your health.
2007-08-17 00:50:58 · answer #3 · answered by chris_at_lucas 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont' think you need to be asking the audience if you are overweight. You need to ask your fiance why he wants to marry you/does he realise his comments hurt you/does he realise your shape/weight/looks will change over the next 50+ years?
Ask yourself where your self-esteem will be after 50+ years of being put down? You may find yourself asking other questions.
I am getting married soon. I weigh 19 stone and have not been in great health recently. I fully intend to loose weight for health reasons. I have the full support of my fiance but know his love is unconditional. I feel pitty for you - this should be an exciting time in your life full of hopes and dreams for the future x Good luck
2007-08-16 23:42:15 · answer #4 · answered by megane 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just to play devil's advocate; did you ask your fiancee if you are fat? If so, did you want him to lie or did you want the truth. Questions like that should be kept for the doctor. If you can't tell just by looking in the mirror, how is your boyfriend going to know any better.
Men are a lot of things but if you will resort to emotional blackmail you deserve everything you get.
2007-08-16 23:45:25 · answer #5 · answered by xenobyte72 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Crikey, I dont think the problem here is with your weight!
The problem is your fiance.
Dont put up with him telling you you are fat!! Your fiance should have more respect for you, and NEVER make rude comments like that.
This is the man you are going to marry, he shouldn't be putting you down.
2007-08-16 23:33:25 · answer #6 · answered by sally 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The only weight you need to lose is the deadweight you call your fiance.
In other words:
DUMP HIM
2007-08-16 23:47:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are just perfect!!!!
Did you know that being put down is a form of abuse?
Trust me!!
I've been trained to know ABUSE...in all forms!
I think your fiance is very insecure and a big IDIOT to tell you that...
Are you sure he loves you???
I am bloody huge!!! at 13 stones and my man still loves me and NEVER told me anything like that....he says I am beautiful, sexy, etc....
Is not you, darling is your boyfriend who has a problem...
2007-08-16 23:42:03 · answer #8 · answered by AlinutaUK 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are about 10 pounds over weight. Stay in control or weight sneaks on and the next thing you know is that you are actually FAT.
2007-08-16 23:36:40 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋
So you 126 pounds..... not fat at all..... why does your fiance call you fat? That isnt nice... tell him it bothers you.... maybe he will stop then... but your not fat... :)
2007-08-16 23:44:40 · answer #10 · answered by Stampy Skunk 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋