I told a guy I love him and I know he loves me too but why did he turn into a mute? He won't talk now but I know he cares! I love you doesn't always mean a commitment it just means I love you! He is from Taiwan so I can't understand him!
2007-08-16 23:12:45 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
language isn't the problem!
2007-08-16 23:22:17 · update #1
He's afraid of commitment. They get scared...
Is kid of sad, but I have proved the least interest you show in caring on a relationship, the more they become interested in being with you all the time. Just like bees to sweets...
2007-08-16 23:20:11 · answer #1 · answered by Izzie My Blueberry Nights 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two things that I can think of.
Commitment, plain and simple.
How do I know for sure if I am in love (or just infatuated.)
I'm 50 and never married, but I still trip over both of these issues!
The idea of commitment can scare the strongest willed person out of their wits, male or female. This is natural, and not an insult. It would be nice, however, if your guy said "I love you so much that I am afraid I'm not worthy to share your future." Or something along those lines! Meanwhile, don't worry if he doesn't, he may well be thinking about you and not himself. It is extremely difficult to tell the difference and not worth worrying over. Be thankful his is your friend and drop some hints from time to time, he'll either jump in the deep end or piddle in the kiddy pool, but you will know.
One thing for sure is from birth to death and death to birth, love is rewardingly painful. Enjoy every moment of it, love is the one and only thing that we truly have in common and if it was a physical item it would be a fiery hot piece of metal that when tasted would be the sweetest and creamiest ice cream of your favorite flavor!
Just love for love's sake. You get loved back, I promise!
2007-08-17 06:45:56 · answer #2 · answered by Dopey E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing frightening about the words, it is just the people who say them. We say 'I love you' to our friends and family all the time and no one minds, but when we say it to the opposite sex it is suddenly a big thing. It seems that you both see those words as meaning different things. How long have you known this guy? If you haven't known him for very long, maybe he takes it to mean a commitment thing. Try explaining to him, that you didn't mean it that way. If you have been dating him for a long time, maybe you should rethink about whether he is as into the relationship as you are.
2007-08-17 06:20:22 · answer #3 · answered by monkeylikesbanana 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think to alot of ppl, guys and girls alike that are commitment shy(does not neccessarily mean they don't love a person, just means they have a problem w/saying something they may want to change their mind about in the future) have a problem w/those words. it complicates what they might see as a "here and now, let's let tommrrow take care of itsself bc i don't wanna hurt you" situation. he may genuinely care about and love you as well. but let me ask you this. would u rather him be caucious now and mean it when he says it later, or say it now and not mean it, just to make you happy for the moment? personally, i'd rather it be the first option.besides, "i love you" or "i'm in love w/you" have become so widely used as to have lost a great deal of sincerity for a lot of ppl.
2007-08-17 06:19:54 · answer #4 · answered by kelleygaither2000 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe that guy likes to say "I love you" only when he is ready for commitment. Maybe he is not the type of person who will just say a word for the sake of pleasing somebody. Or maybe you are just in fantazising that he likes you also. Bec. if he really likes or loves you, he will definitely say that magic word.
2007-08-17 06:26:00 · answer #5 · answered by Gem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The words are hard for some to say, some use it like the are drinking water, i love you the words scare some men and some woman some feel that when you say the words that they are stuck, some use it to get what they want. give him time let him be ready to say i love you don't rush him.
2007-08-17 06:22:27 · answer #6 · answered by Gifty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't mean that he's afraid of a commitment. He's just still weirded out of your admission. Now that he knows you feel the same way too, he's unsure of how he should act around you because you're probably his first gf or something.
2007-08-17 06:22:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nothing is frightening in it. He turned into a mute because he didn't expect it from you first. Now you better be with him and mend things.
2007-08-17 06:18:33 · answer #8 · answered by sv 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Researchers have found that guys are afraid of touchy words, such as, yes, "I love you".
2007-08-17 06:16:29 · answer #9 · answered by MyOhMy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its the lowering of a person's guard to say "i love you" because it leaves that person open to rejection. to some its a sign of weakness to lower their guard.
2007-08-17 06:29:58 · answer #10 · answered by oldguy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋