we clicked quite quickly and met up. Got on great and have been emailing & texting constantly since. He told me he is separated and doesnt want a one on one relationship just now, but would like us casually see each other i.e. we both have the option to see others if we wish, and in time if we really click then our relationship would become more. I met him again 2 weeks ago and we spent the evening looking into each others eyes - he told me that he felt a deep connection between us. The thing that worries me is that on the 2 occasions we met up, we met somewhere over an hour away from where we both live (I live 20 mins from him)...We had planned to meet last nite but when I suggested we meet near where he lives he went quiet and suggested we meet up next week instead. We have never spoken on the phone, and I am worried that he is either A) Still married or B) has a girlfriend.
If he did really fancy me he would want us to meet up anywhere would he? Am I being taken for a fool? Help!!
2007-08-16 22:49:42 · 20 answers · asked by emeraldsue 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you're right to be cautious. It definitely looks as if he is hiding something, doesn't it? And his way of reinforcing his wishes by denying you this week's meeting just shows he is good at it!
You agreed to a casual relationship, on the basis that he is not attached. It sounds as if you have developed strong feelings for him, though. You need to pull back a little bit, let the rational side of you watch what is happening, if you do continue to see him.
I don't know if you feel able to challenge him on the truth of his "separation". At least ask why he is so insistent about meeting outside the area which is easiest for both of you to get to!
It may be that there is no relationship being concealed from you - or at least, not one with a woman - perhaps he has kids who live and/or go to school near you both. If that was the case, he would probably prefer not to have to explain who "that lady he was with" was, if they saw him, given that there is no commitment between you at the moment.
Whatever you decide, remember that you don't really know a lot about this man yet. Part of growing together is sharing the stories of our lives, sharing secrets. See if you can get him to do this. If he is always evasive, ask yourself why.
Trust your instincts, honey. But don't get paranoid, either.
2007-08-16 23:08:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
SCAM If this person were a successful business man with a financial advisor, then there is no reason why he cannot either open his own Paypal account or have his financial advisor do so. Your aunt cannot receive money as she is not a corporate employee -- this is embezzlement and tax evasion and your aunt can go to prison for this. The man is not coming to marry her - he is using her to launder stolen money. She won't keep that $60k, they will then ask her to wire it to another bank account. When the real person whose $60k was stolen and contacts the police, the trail will lead right to her bank account and she is going to prison for a minimum of 10 years if not longer. Because the transaction is over $10,000 it will be reported to the Treasury and IRS which could upgrade this from a first degree felony to a federal offense I would call your local police and explain to them what is happening and see if they can send an officer to your aunt's house to tell her she is being used to commit financial fraud and will be caught if she follows through with this I don't understand how anyone could even consider marrying a person they have never met. With all the psychos, perverts, stalkers, scammers, etc online you can never trust anyone until you have met face to face
2016-05-20 20:25:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you say it does sound as though he's playing away and the alarm bells that are ringing in your head are there for a reason. As it is still very early I reackon you should just be direct with him and get the answers you need so that you can either walk away or decide to stick it out. It does seem very odd that he would want to meet so far away. Also if he doesn't want anything serious then why post a profile on an internet dating site?
Good luck but I think you should walk away now before you get to attached and he really hurts you.
2007-08-16 22:55:19 · answer #3 · answered by Estrella Brillante 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here is an interesting fact for you:
Thirty-five percent of the people who use personal ads for dating are already married.
Good thing you are smart enough to notice the situation. You can't imagine how many girls are dating married guys without knowledge of it.
Better luck next time!!
2007-08-16 23:07:29 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Red light!!! I believe your instinct is on the money here. He is either still married(which I would bet on)or maybe a girlfriend , but my money is he is still married.
Kick him to the curb. There are more fish in the sea than him.
2007-08-16 23:03:19 · answer #5 · answered by firefly06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be very carefull of him sounds a little shadey to me,i think you answered your own question,,i am betting his either married or has i girlfriend ,and his out looking for a little strange..and will end up dying of aids,,good luck n finding someone you can trust,,thats what loves all about..
2007-08-16 22:59:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he really love u, he will ask u out for a date and swear he will love u forever...
If he just ignore u and then u just stop be his friend!!!
You are girl, so is your right to choose ur right guy not he choose u, ok?
If he is not the one u love, please stop...
This world still got so many good guys awaiting for ur love...
Wish u founded ur true love soon...
Cheers....
2007-08-16 22:54:56 · answer #7 · answered by WindWalker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally is with someone! With the gas prices these days! No brain-er as the FAGS like to say!
2007-08-16 22:56:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is taking you for a ride all those things you suggested one of it is right so get out before you hurt yourself Lol.
2007-08-16 23:06:02 · answer #9 · answered by Maphondo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he may be playing you be carefull, if you are seeing red flags then lisen to the voice in you that is telling you to move on if it feels wrong to you then it is wrong, don't be anthoer woman to him be your own woman. Good luck
2007-08-16 22:56:46 · answer #10 · answered by Gifty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋