It's been 5 months, & I still keep obsessing over, "What did I do to make him cheat on me or leave me?" "What did I do wrong?" I keep blaming myself.
2007-08-16 19:27:19 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It did not take me long at all. I was just lucky though. He cheated because he is a cheater and that is what they do. It had nothing to do with you. My ex-husband even admitted to me that it really had nothing to do with me or anything I had done.
To answer your question: it took me about five seconds after the cheating SOB left to get over him.
Please don't give the cheater the power to make you blame yourself. YOU ARE TOO GOOD FOR HIM. YOU ARE TOO GOOD FOR HIM. YOU ARE TOO GOOD FOR HIM.
2007-08-17 12:28:58 · answer #1 · answered by Patti C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I usually don't have much of a down time with ex's but there's the "one that got away". I was in a hot relationship with the girl for almost two years then I started feeling pressured that my Independence might be going out the window so I started hanging out with the guys more often and in my wake of close mindedness she met up with a person I thought was my friend and she moved on. After it sank in that she was gone I felt horrible and realizing what I done drove me insane. Nothing I could do could convince her to come back to me and now she's married with children and long since moved on. Lesson learned I guess but I still miss having her around to hold. O'well my fault.
2007-08-16 19:46:13 · answer #2 · answered by Just keep breathin' 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They say its supposed to take half the amount of time you were together to get over him and not be in "rebound" mode.
I dated this guy for 14 months. He cheated, I dumped him. Three months later I rebounded and I'm still with that guy 17 months later...so I dont' know...it all depends.
But just so you know...its never your fault. Its not your fault that he couldn't keep his d*ck in his pants. You didn't do anything wrong. Don't ever doubt that..
2007-08-16 19:38:39 · answer #3 · answered by mlove1307 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It took 1 year and 1/2 from the time I met him. 8 months from the time he broke up with me (the second time).
SOOOOOO, I just thought of how he told me there was this girl it took him 11 years to get over. I thought that was pathethic.
Luckily it only took me 1 1/2 years or 8 mos. depending on how I look at it. I wouldn't like to be pathethic like him.
Jenny Holzer said, "Expiring for love is beautiful, but stupid."
2007-08-17 02:20:52 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Celebrity Hotline♥ (Thumbs up!) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah still havet here either 2 years i think :'( when u find some 1 else "hopefully a caring person" ull feel more comfortable, the memories dont leave , there are lots of fish in the sea next time dont go for the nasty ones that cling on to the little fish for life :)
2007-08-16 19:39:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
over a year and still counting... he cheated on you because he wanted to, no you did nothing wrong.. he left you because he didn't want to be with you anymore... he is a straight up nasty man, stop blaming yourself and blame him... then go through all the feelings and find a better man...
2007-08-16 19:33:44 · answer #6 · answered by I Heart 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please listen to me...sometimes in life you never have closure. I know it hurts. I have been there. Ouch it hurts so badly but life continues. Trust me.Pls move on with your life. Not everything has closure dear. It is not you!! People cheat , I wish it were simple for you, but it is not. My father taught me a very good lesson...In one year you will not remember the pain and heart ache that is hurting so badly..it's a speed bump in life...lol..:-) trust me ..he is right...
2007-08-16 19:48:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey your not alone..it took me a long time to get over my ex..though it still hurts when i think about it..that's life..just leave it to destiny and fate..
2007-08-16 19:56:31 · answer #8 · answered by Gelo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋