Yesterday I was shopping at Mervyns. I've lost alot of weight, finally able to shop in the juniors section. I'm very excited about my weight loss and found a new love of shopping. I found two pairs of jeans that I wanted to try on. I went to the dressing room and there were 2 little girls (about 18 or 19 years old. They gave me a room, and a few moments later, I heard them completely laughing at me and saying, "OMG she is so fat!!" I was completely mortifiied. I didn't even try on the other pair of jeans. I just walked out and they looked at me and laughed. I so wanted to just be real ghetto and go off on them, but I was too upset. Yes, I've lost ALOT of weight (over 100lbs), and I'm certainly not skinny, but I'm not OVER WEIGHT either. I had severe self esteem issues before and I must say my self esteem has gotten better, but those kids brought me right back to the old me before I lost weight. Mean words hurt! How would you have handled this? I won't shop there again.
2007-08-16 18:52:25 · 14 answers · asked by yadal 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
First of all, I want to congratulate you on your weight loss. Losing weight is a struggle that millions of people battle each and every day. You should be very proud of yourself and shouldn't let some immature little girls bring you down. Those girls should lose their job because obviously they don't know a damn thing about customer service or respect. They really do need an eye opener. One day they will mess with the wrong person, not everyone will just walk away from the situation. If it was me, I would have said something to them and then went to their manager about their behavior. I was always a thin person until after high school, I gained 30 pounds and now am on the thicker side, I, myself can't shop at some stores. One day I went into Guess and they looked at me like what was I doing in there, you have to be like a size 4 to shop there and I am a 10 so a little big to be in there, but I like their sequence tank tops, so what I have to by a size large...lol. I try not to let it get to me because I know who I am and what I have. Just remember they are making minimum wage and folding clothes for a living. Being skinny isn't the only thing that gets you somewhere in life. Having a good head on your shoulder and being a strong person does. I rather be a little thick and have my health, family and happiness then be 110 pounds. It's just a shame that today's society judges everyone from the outside. ****, look at Bill Gates, he looks like he doesn't even comb his hair half the time, but he is one smart and RICH man.
Anyways, getting back to you, keep your head up and know in your heart you’re a beautiful person. Inside and out, no matter who you are, you'll never be able to impress everyone. Somebody will always find a flaw whether it's your weight, make up, hair or just wearing the wrong earings...and most of the time it's because they have self esteem issues themselves. Whatever you do don't allow them to get the best of you. I'm sure you have your family and friends behind you and that's all that matters.
I wish you luck, health and happiness!!
Faith~Hope~Love
2007-08-18 20:12:35 · answer #1 · answered by Lynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not shopping there is a good place to start. Talking to their manager and explaining WHY you're not going to shop there again is another place to start.
I'm sorry that you had to go through that, and congratulations on your impressive weight loss! :-) You should be very proud of yourself and just do your best to ignore the things these little witches say. Because in the end, what does it really matter what they say?
People are mean sometimes just for the sake of being mean. It's rude, it's useless, and it's just plain inexcusable. If you had seen only one of these girls without the other, she probably wouldn't have said anything at all. When they have the power of someone else to back them up, they have the largest backbone in the world. Alone, though, they're just as scared and insecure as the rest of us.
2007-08-17 03:06:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First were the two girls employees of Mervyns? If they are I would call the store and ask to speak to the store manager. Inform him or her what occurred and that you are seriously considering terminating any business with this store.
If they were not employees you have lost your chance. I know you say your self esteem is low but you didn't stop to think how low their self esteem is. It would have to be low for them to make fun of anyone else. It has been my experience when someone says nasty things about you they are usually jealous of you.
I would also like to say WOW what an accomplishment you have achieved in losing over 100 pounds. I am struggling just to lose 30. Keep up the great work.
2007-08-17 03:56:57 · answer #3 · answered by D and G Gifts Etc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I knew for sure that they were in fact talking about me, I would have stopped and said to them "One day, you will be older and fatter and some young thing will look at you and think you are fat too. When that happens, I want you to remember this moment when the fat lady got you fired".
Then I would go find the manager and report their skinny butts.
Since you've already left, I would email Mervyn's corporate headquarters. Give them all the details including the date, and time and what store you were at. I would also describe the girls and give them all the details of what they did and said. Then tell them that you will not shop there anymore because of it. Then wait and see what happens. I will be willing to be you get an apology at least from corporate, if not from the store manager.
YOu need to speak up about this. Unprofessional behavior is not excusable. But it will continue if people do not speak up.
2007-08-17 02:08:03 · answer #4 · answered by teacherintheroom 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well done, both for losing the weight and for not going off at those stupid girls. They don't know what achievement is. They are children who one day will have to watch their weight too, then young girls will laugh at them.
I would however write to the Human Resource department of that store and explain to them that sales were lost due to the attitude of their staff towards a customer. State what the girls said and hopefully (if they are a good store) they will do something about retraining staff to respect all customers.
2007-08-17 02:23:42 · answer #5 · answered by yutu34 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To bad you didn't have a picture of yourself before the weight loss you could have shown them. I work with a woman that lost well over a 100 pounds. She keeps a picture of herself with her at all times as a reminder how far she has come. Congratulations!
2007-08-18 01:11:26 · answer #6 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So...you are letting all the self esteem you have about your body (and rightly earned I might add) crumble because of some teenage kids that you don't even know?
If you think this low of yourself, you should really seek out some therapy. It's not normal to feel so terrible about yourself just because of strangers.
2007-08-17 02:01:30 · answer #7 · answered by missbeans 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have complained to there boss and gotten there butts fired. No one deserves to be treated that way.
Congratulations on the weight loss. Try not to let other rude people bring you down.
2007-08-17 02:08:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is symptomatic of the society that we live in to today. As much as I feel bad about the hurt that it caused you, I hurt because those sociopathic, narcissists are tomorrow's leaders.
2007-08-17 02:00:39 · answer #9 · answered by Brer Buffalo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the Teacher!!!!!!!! but if it that had happend to me... i would have put my foot up their a$$ ...i know that wont solve anything but im just a very violent person :)
but anyways congrats on losing all that weight... !!!
2007-08-17 02:21:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋