My boyfriend broke up with me on saturday aug 11th.
and I miss him a lot
I love him more then I have anyone else it just feels so real with him.
we where together for 4 months and I guess his love was different because he told me he just isn't happy anymore the wednesday before he said a lot of things that anoy him such as how i've been complaining and how he thinks he might be better off single. theres a lot of things going on in my life that are leading me to depression such as being unable to obtain enough money to go back to school this up coming semester which is why I think i've been like that but he also thinks I have an excuse for everything. . .
I want to write him an e-mail telling him how I feel and what's been going on but am unsure what to say and if I should do it a all.
he has been IM'ing me at night and we talk about nothing to do with us just like small talk like what did y do today oh that's cool stuff. . .
what should I do?
2007-08-16 18:44:32 · 14 answers · asked by saralove31888 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, don't write an email. If he broke up with you you do not want to seem desparate by not letting go.You two should distance yourselves for a little while to see what you really want. He is however sending mixed signals by IMing you every night, maybe you should not be available to talk every night. He may be having his cake and eating it too.
2007-08-16 18:55:38 · answer #1 · answered by crazylady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not write that e-mail. There is no point to it and it will only serve to weaken your self esteem. You need to focus on your future and this guy is a part of your past. It is painful when any relationship ends but you will move beyond this present hurt and depression. You need to take action, get out and do something fun, make plans even if you cannot go back to school you will have to do something with your time. Put your thoughts to what you will be doing instead of thinking about him. Just stop yourself when you feel thoughts of him and how it used to be coming on. Do not keep IMing him it will just prolong the pain. Make a clean break and go start getting to work on your future
2007-08-17 01:51:03 · answer #2 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If IM keeps rubbing salt in your wounds then stop it and let him go...... If he wants out let him go and let him have a chance of seeing what life without you is like. In the meantime hang out with friends and get control back of your life. If he comes back and says he has made a mistake and has remained faithful, then talk it over and decide what you want and what is best for you. That is not being shallow, he was the one who wanted out. You may find that after some time goes by that you may have met someone else or found that you really do feel that he was not right for you.
2007-08-17 01:53:48 · answer #3 · answered by TC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop talking to him! it's only hurting you, and he obviously doesn't care about you or your feelings, or he would have left you alone so you can heal. stop talking to him, and give yourself room and time to heal. I know how you feel about the school thing, I have the same problem, but, don't let it get you down, just work hard and take a semester off if you have to, and use that time to heal from his breakup, and to get your spirits up.
2007-08-17 01:49:42 · answer #4 · answered by Mary Liz 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your IM's are not so different than an email. You have already said what you wanted to. An email is not necessary in your case. Let him go or wait for him to contact you.
2007-08-17 01:49:04 · answer #5 · answered by Boomer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he might be using that as an excuse but still tell him how u feel. see if he will give ya'll another chance. if he love he would at least consider it. and he must understand ALL women nag whoever he's with. he cant exscape it.
2007-08-17 01:51:44 · answer #6 · answered by jordynorr 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know. Just follow your heart I guess. But if you e-mail him and he really doesn't want to hear from you, it will just push him further away. Good luck.
2007-08-17 01:52:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
be patient its a virtue in any relationship you'll earn more respect if u leave him alone for awhile . god will help you get over the hurt if u call on him.
2007-08-17 01:53:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LET HIM GO!!! we are QUEENS!!! respect yourself and treat yourself as such......Love yourself, respect yourself, and make yourself HAPPY first...... Maybe he.... is that EXCUSE!!!!Don't ever let anyone bring you down. Deep inside you already made up your heart and your mind.!!!!.......Just Go with it!!!......HNK!!!
2007-08-17 03:34:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is telling you that you have a excuse for everything then he is not understanding.. let him go..find someone who will be understanding..if you email you will only embarsse your self
2007-08-17 01:53:47 · answer #10 · answered by vis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋