He calls me like every two minutes checking up on me and making sure Im not with another guy. He drives by my house every two hours and makes me call him before I go to bed. Once when I didnt he wouldnt talk to me for a week! At first when we started going out he was so normal and funny. Now he just talks about how I wear slutty clothes (even if its just capris or shorts in the summer or a beater) and how "lucky I am to have him.". He's getting like those creepy stalkers you see on TV and it's annoying and I want to dump him but i dont want to hurt him too badly. so what should i say to dump him and where?
2007-08-16 18:17:07 · 21 answers · asked by lolz 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is too controlling. Let him go before he turns violent. Break up with him over the phone or in a very public crowded place. Lie, tell him you're busy with other obligations and that you aren't able to devote to him the time he needs, so its best you part ways. Good Luck, sounds like you may need a restraining order though.
2007-08-16 18:24:37 · answer #1 · answered by ctelly22 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about hurting him! Think of yourself first - you are starting to feel very uncomfortable so break it off as soon as you are able to. If you have good friends get them to be with you when you break it off so nothing can be mistaken on his part. Do it at home with friends or family around OR at a busy place like a mall. Some phone companies offer for free (or small fee) a call blocking number so do it asap for your sanity. Tell him you are not ready for a serious relationship at this time of your life. Good luck on your decision.
2007-08-17 01:27:15 · answer #2 · answered by Izzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What an insecure little man. How can he 'make' you call him?
He is showing the classic signs of being an abuser. Get out. Get out now while you are in one piece. Please, for your own safety, take action now.
Who cares if his feelings get hurt. He is trying to put you in the frame of mind that you could not do any better. He will also try to make you believe that you are worthless to anyone.
You can tell him that you no longer want to be his gf because of the way he treats you. If he persists in driving by your house every 2 hours, you will need a restraining order. Unfortunately, you need to prove to the courts why you need one. That means, you would have to file a complaint with the police.
Please. PLEASE get out of that relationship.
2007-08-17 01:33:18 · answer #3 · answered by Diana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that he is becoming too possessive and it is making you feel uncomfortable. Tell him that you don't dress to please anyone else but yourself, and that you don't tell him what to wear, so lay off. Tell him that you feel like he is putting you in a cage, and you will not let that happen. The next thing you know, he will be choosing your friends, or keeping you from even having any. He is way too insecure, and you deserve better. It will only get worse!! He is supposed to love you as you are, not what he wants to change you into. Tell him that what you see is what you get, and you are not going to change.
2007-08-17 01:27:02 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems controlling to me..! Does it hurt you when he does that though? Or it just really bothers you and more like it's making you mad? But either way, dump him honey! You don't deserve a guy who doesn't trust you! Witch for a fact, he doesn't! Or else, he wouldn't be checking up on you that way making sure you're not with any other guy! His reason for doing that is maybe because "he cares & he loves you". Well, if he really does love you, he'd be able to TRUST YOU! But seems like he can't, and you needa not be with a guy like that! It'll hurt him if you dump him, but that's okay! Because he's hurting by doing that to you, and he didnt seem to care whether it'll hurt you or not! So don't be afraid to hurt him. Because if you don't break it off, you'll just be hurting from yourself and you'll be hurting for keeping up with his behaviors like that!
2007-08-17 01:29:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, those are the type of men who "love" so much the can't "live" with out you and someone gets hurt!!! Get out. Don't worry about hurting his feeling, ok.......if he tells you your clothes are slutty then he isn't too worried about yours. Make up ANY excuse, just break it off. If your young enough, tell him your parents are making you, if not.....then tell him something....make it in public so he can't intimidate you or even hurt you. I've been thru this............please heed my warning!!! It is serious when they act like that!!!
2007-08-17 01:26:12 · answer #6 · answered by zekemarie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds creepy...dump him!! It'll only get worse...he obviously is paranoid and for some reason doesn't trust you. Don't worry about hurting him too much...he's already hurting you by acting like such a child.
2007-08-17 01:23:34 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutly. he's beginging to act not only obsessive, but abusive. and if he suspects you of cheating, either he's trying to control you, or he's cheating himself. dump him in a place where you can quickly get away and be with a lot of people. and be careful, and if he starts following you around, get a restraining order immediatly. but above all be safe, his type is violent. when you break up with him, make sure that you are not only where you can get to a lot of people, but where you can get to a lot of people and find a friend to be with, so that he won't chase you, or hurt you, because of the crowd.
2007-08-17 01:29:43 · answer #8 · answered by Mary Liz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
boy i would run the other way and fast.just tell him you need your space for a while to figure out what you want from life. tell him your to young to be tied down to one guy. live life before you settle with one .if hes like that now hell only get worse. some get to be to domineering.run
2007-08-17 01:24:29 · answer #9 · answered by Fran J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl i only read the first two sentences of your question and knew the answer. dump him YESTERDAY. he actin like that now the longer ya'll together the worse it will get. and show dont let ya'll get married you will be sorry and heading to divorce court or in the grave behind him. seen it too many times. dont waster ur time with him find someone that aint CRAZY. PLEASE TAKE OUR ADVICE.if you questioning it then in your heart you know.
2007-08-17 01:26:59 · answer #10 · answered by jordynorr 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋