Bee-otch Needs Help: Is My Boyfriend...?

Question

upset or losing interest? A month agoe, he unloaded his hidden feelings (thought I would be hurt). He "basically" said I'm too clingy, dependent, and controlling. After this, I read the book, "Why Men LOVE B!tche$: From Doormat to Dreamgirl." I agreed I was a "Doormat" and revamped myself--I'm a bee-otch. He loves the new me (me too)! I acted like I could care less if I talked to or saw him. I didn't pouted if he chose to see his friends on the weekend; I encouraged it. I really cut down the time we talked and saw each other, saying "I don't care. What's the big deal?" This made him miss me tons; he fought for my attention! I went too far; I became unreliable. I told him I would see him if my friends weren't doing anything. I wasn't online two nights in a row and never messaged him to tell him. I missed his calls purposely. When I talked to him again, he wasn't the same; he didn't care. Is he upset and denying it or losing interest?

We're 20 yrs. old--dating for 9 mos.

Grammatical Errors:

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Pout*

Answer 1

yeah, you took it way to far. clingy, dependant and controling is definatly bad, but so is not caring and not trying for his attention. men may love when women do that, but the relationships almost never work. try for middle. don't be clingy and dependent, his friends are important to him to, but acknowledge that, and let him know that if he is with them, you trust him, and know he needs that time, but you still feel the same. and that you need time with your friends too. tell him you don't want to fight for his attention, and he shouldn't have to fight for yours. you should both give in the relationship, and that goes for time. he can give up some guy time to be with you, and you can give up some girl time to be with him. but you are both independent people, with lives of your own, you don't need each other, you love each other. working for the relationship together could be the best thing you do.

and while men may love beeotches, a real guy doesn't last long with one. a guy can only stand clingy for so long, and he can only stand withdrawn and aloof for so long.

a side note, while not being clingy or dependent is a good thing, those aren't a part of your personality, they show that you are attatched in the wrong way, but changing any part of your personality for this guy is wrong. if he asks that, then he doesn't deserve you.

Answer 2

you ACTED, you are not being yourself, he probably sees that, i think you took it too far, if i did that to my bf, im sure he would lose interest as well, i dont think guys like mind games, it makes them angry. you were suppose to act cool when he wanted to go out with friends, not push him away. I use to get extremely upset when my bf's friends asked him out without me, it made him upset as well, so i just let him go for the night, and made sure he came home to a cool girlfriend, not a screamning tyrant, you dont know when to draw the line, thats your problem.

Answer 3

You went too far. You have to find something in the middle. Don't be too clingy and controlling, but you have to show you care. Push him too far away, he'll leave. You can't blame him.

Answer 4

sounds like you went a little too far with the "i could care less" act and made him care less. oops. you need a healthy balance between clinging and pushing away.

Answer 5

Just let loose. He could be either/or. But whatever it is, change yourself. Sacrifices. you know, in India.. the woman's life BELONGS to the man. On both sides, each person is taught to respect one another.

Answer 6

Instead of revamping yourself, why didn't you just loosen up a bit? Maybe you changed what it was he saw interesting about you.

Answer 7

playing games suck!