My boyfriend and I have been together for a year. And he was with his ex gf for about 2-3 months. He says that that was his first real love and that he still cares/loves her. They never talk anymore..but I am just a little scared. I am scared of losing him. Is it normal for him to feel that way??? What do I do??
2007-08-16 17:48:26 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
RELAX, girl. My boyfriend did that too. All I did was listen patiently to him. His feeling, How they spend wonderful time together etc. And the greatest advantage was that I got to know him better. And knowing his likes and dislikes, I changed myself a bit. As time went on, he forgot about her. Don’t worry, as time passes on, he will forget about her. me and my guy are together for 2 yrs now, still sometimes he drifts back to old memories... but I trust him and I keep telling him I trust him and that I know, he will never leave me... so he gets a feeling in his heart... he doesn’t want to break this deep trust I have in him... I love him. Also, talking about your insecurity you feel for him will help. He will understand and will do something about this problem All the best !!!
2007-08-16 18:16:23 · answer #1 · answered by goddess_of_fame 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be suspicious and feel insecure too. I believe most people would because no one wishes to imagine their lover loving their ex still. Since they're not talking, I wouldn't worry about it. It's just one of those things that will always stick with him. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you just as much or more so. It just means that she is very special to him because she was his first love and he'll always care/love her even though they're not together. They're not together anymore for a reason hun! Keep that in mind! It's like a married couple divorcing; there is still going to be a different sort of love between them. I still love/care about you, but we didn't and will never work out.
2007-08-16 18:04:56 · answer #2 · answered by SuperFox 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for people to care for/love their first love and exes as well. I'm sure he will feel the same about you if you ever break up. The concern I would have is if he is constantly talking about her. That's a huge red flag that he might still be hung up on her.
2007-08-16 18:01:18 · answer #3 · answered by crazylady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal for you to feel that way but whether you or he realize it or not he still loves her but it has changed. He is with you because that is where he wants to be. So do not get hung up on it women do not realize what men mean by these kinds of statements. You need to tell him how you feel and let him explain it out to you.
-NmD!
2007-08-16 17:57:00 · answer #4 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being with a girl 2 or 3 months i dont understand how he loved her he really didn't know everything about the girl yet... i would talk to him and see what the deal is between you two....
2007-08-16 18:02:25 · answer #5 · answered by tjsacuttie224 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is normal for the guy to love his ex-girlfriend still. if that's the case, your boyfriend has not moved on yet. yes, it's really hard to forget your first love. what you should do is to give him a little time to think or give him some space.
2007-08-16 17:56:48 · answer #6 · answered by Donald Duck 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just try not to be insecure. my bf still love his ex my situations worse they have a child. she always wants him.try to make him have sex with her and everything. we been together 5 years now. 5 years of feelin insecure.but he prove to me over time he love her but not in love with her. we have two kids now. you just have to kinda deal with it cause u cant do nothin about it. it was before you. after awhile you'll feel more confident. now i know my bf not in love with her im cool about his feelings toward her cause i know he loves me more. just hang in there give it time you'll stop feelin insecure.
2007-08-16 17:58:00 · answer #7 · answered by jordynorr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea i would, its nothing wrong with having feelings for an ex but i would keep an eye on him but don't become overbearing(men hate that) you will lose him. keep an eye on him, w/o him knowing but still be the best gf u could be
2007-08-16 17:56:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me like he is not over his ex!!!
I hope your strong enough to leave him to show him what life is like w/out you!!!!!
Sometimes a little break helps the two of you appreciate each other!! Its happened to me b 4!!! Live and let learn!!!
good luck
2007-08-16 17:56:51 · answer #9 · answered by Kendra420 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All I know is he's not being fare to you. Why would he even tell you such a thing. Don't waste any more time with this guy. Obviously... Your relationship isn't worth a damn if he still loves another girl. In my opinion... Get rid of him!
2007-08-16 17:54:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋