I Just started to date this wonderful guy. and he found out he had leukemia. I didnt know what to say to him. Im still very shock and i would love help him what can i do. i dont want to lose him. Help!!!!
2007-08-16 17:41:44 · 10 answers · asked by Angie 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
Let him know that you are 100% there in support of him. He is probably scared to death - don't push him to discuss & don't try to anticipate how he is going to react. Just be a friend to him - listen a whole lot & you will be able to figure out what he needs. I am so sorry that he is having to go through this - I am praying that they caught it early and are able to kick it quickly into remission for a really, really long time (like forever). In the old days, cancer was a certain death sentence. Things have changed and there are so many new advances - there are a lot of cancer "survivors" out there. Hopefully he will join them - I sure hope so.
2007-08-16 17:51:52 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Goddess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him know you're thee for him, if he needs to talk or anything, but don't push him to because most people don't like it when the cancer becomes such a main part of what people see in them. Also, make sure your emotional needs are being met, because it can be very hard to see someone you love dealing with medical problems.
Keep in mind that there are several different types and stages of leukemia, and most can be treated and cured these days. One type [CML] has a medication that has been very effective, so many people don't even need to go through high-dose chemo or radiation for it.
2007-08-19 09:21:30 · answer #2 · answered by Raine Carraway - NC Real Estate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, decide how much you are prepared to accept and deal with.
Don't make any promices you aren't prepared to carry out.
If you are prepared to deal with the worst, then let him take the lead, after you have told him this.
Some people need to have someone to discuss the blackest thoughts, others need someone to help them live each day to the full, others need someone to pretend nothing is wrong.
I have been there with a friend and sometimes lover who appreciated that I accepted he was facing death, when everyone in his family were in denial! And I didn't meet him until he had lived 2 years past the time the Dr's gave him!!
He is still going strong 6 years further down the track! So NEVER give up hope. And remember, any one of us could be killed in an accident tomorrow.
2007-08-16 18:26:50 · answer #3 · answered by Tarkarri 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
leukemia is very hard on adults. try to be there for him through the chemo and hair loss. get ur blood tested because he will need blood and if u are a match it will be like he's getting apart of u. Pray and just hope for the best
2007-08-16 20:44:20 · answer #4 · answered by Water's Away 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear that. I think the best thing you can do is be his source of hope and strength. You will be the shoulder that he will rest his head on. Its going to be tough and I will keep you guys in my prayers. God bless
2007-08-16 17:52:08 · answer #5 · answered by thedim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I'm sorry about it but it doesn't matter even if he is suffering the way to help is that do not lose hope just continue with your heart to love him if you have to stop love to him he may end to lose him, you may known what God has plan to you
2007-08-16 17:53:44 · answer #6 · answered by Jhn 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is its the guy from LFO and now Mission Man Band?
Just be there for him is the only way.
2007-08-16 17:51:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is where you'll find the best info:
http://www.leukemia-lymphoma.org/hm_lls
Best wishes
2007-08-17 01:58:01 · answer #8 · answered by Char 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do what he says and help him
2007-08-16 19:44:06 · answer #9 · answered by Fredo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some times, u hafta let go
2007-08-16 17:52:24 · answer #10 · answered by bottlecapgrrl 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋