3yrs old and a bad attitude!!!?

Question

Well my little boy seems to thinks he's the Man of the house.(Yes, Daddy's here) Bossy, rude at times; and very interuptive. Normal to most? I've seen it in other Kids too!! But I want my Boy to be sweet and innocent all the time.He talks just like an Adult. I try to give him time with kids his own age but for some reason he dosen't fit in.He get's along with kids a few years older better.He is very bright, smart and Funny too!I just don't want him to grow up and be a loner because of his attidude. Any advice on making him more a kid his age and not so grown up? Thanks (Serious answers only)

Answer 1

At 3 yrs. of age, he has learned to copy what he sees and hears. Be sure you both make the "corrections" of your child in harmony, meaning you both agree on how to correct his bad habits and how to raise him. Becareful that there isn't loud adult talk for him to copy! Remember, he may seem 'smart' but he isn't a little adult, he's only 3! :-)
At 3, he needs things to do! Toys are one thing, but other entertainment might be the thing. Let him play with colors and paper, supervised modelling clay, or supervised crafts for his age. Things such as simple 'crafts' will let him develop individuality and creativity and have some time by himself. [although supervised] If possible, napping after long walks or playing might be in order to give everyone a needed 'time out'.
Playing with older kids is 'ok', but becareful of what he learns and how hard the others are playing with him; he might get hurt trying to keep up with them and be like them.
The idea is to have him learn, keep him busy and let him get tired out too! LOL.
There are lots of books for him to look at and, mom, lots of helpful hints from books and other mothers. I raised 3, you can do it! Just make sure you get your 'time outs' too! Good luck!

Answer 2

Sweet and innocent is out of the question. (They died out about 1973.) If he's the oldest/only, that "little adult" thing is with him forever. Maybe you should have had him second LOL.

Smart kids like older children because they have more in common with them, vocabulary, interests, etc. If that's what going on, he won't fit in with people his own age until 18--at college.

Some bossy and rude is age-related. All little kids are that way some. Make sure that you and Dad exert authority as needed--he needs this to feel secure as well as for other reasons. Let him make decisions he can, like what to wear, and take responsibility for some things--setting the table, putting his folded clothes away, helping to match his socks. You decide if/when he watches TV, how often he brushes his teeth, etc.

Answer 3

He's getting the attitude from somewhere...maybe tv?
Being bossy and rude though is behaviour you need to teach is wrong. Acting like that isn't being grown up. It's possible he needs more stimulation as he's bright. Maybe take him to more places where he can really explore. He could be frusterated that he's not getting what he needs in that area. But of course take him to the park where he can play with kids his age.
Definitely teach him right from wrong behaviours though. Otherwise he'll grow up thinking that because he's bright he can treat others poorly (I have seen this happen). Don't emphasize his being bright to him though, just take the steps to stimulate him more.
I hope something I said was helpful. Good luck, it sounds like you'll do the right thing.

Answer 4

He's behavior is due to the fact that YOUR not consistent with his manners. You or your spouse think it funny or cute. #1 thing when raising a kids is consistency. You need to let him know that's not the appropriate behavior and change it. Place him in a good pre-school so many days a week would also be good for him. It might help he's attitude and social skills with kids his age. I hope this helps. The worst thing we do to our kids is not be consistent.

Answer 5

your reactions to his attitude might make him feel mor uncomfortable than other kids his age, kids dont usually notice things like that, i have a 4 yr old that is the same she just wants to be with older kids, i always hear her correcting kids at the playground, sometimes kids act alot older than what they are, as far as the bossyness join the club what kid isnt

Answer 6

your said he speaks like an adult, which adult? he is mimicking someone. for instance, when my children were small i tried not to say no, if they asked for something they could not have I would explain why in a nice calm way.
Please, remember to look at his good points, it sounds as thought he has many. some three year olds can barely carry on a conversation. be grateful that he is articulate

Answer 7

With all due respect, madam, I believe that you are the one with somewhat of a bad attitude, and a degree of a lack of tolerance for what might be a good thing.

I believe that your concern over his being a "loner" is misguided.

You mention his becoming "man of the house," and I question if you have contempt for "men of the house" altogether. Who actually is the man of the house? Does he have a father? If not, this is a heatlhy role for him as he's growing up, and it might be that you're threatened by this somehow, or just don't like it. This is what I'm picking up on, and it might be happening subconsciously.

Answer 8

He is three for God's sake! He doesn't know any better. Just help him. Don't ne on here wasting your time trying to get advice. And if you want serious answers, this isn't the place to get a lot of them.

Answer 9

Hes only 3, what I suggest is don't try to force him to act like what you want. Instead make sure he dosn't get any bad influence from music or tv shows.