This guy I like ( ya i know you've all heard this b4) acted like he liked me. he did it all, staring, everything. He denied it though, then we didnt see each other for awhile. We came back to camp and he was there, flirting with me, but i felt a vulnerableness about him...... like he was holding back. He has changed so much, he still watches me, but he is with all these girls, but doesnt seem to really care about anything or anyof them, yet when it comes to me, he seems too, but he pushes himself away.....Why is this? Why wont he let me in?
2007-08-16 17:37:14 · 22 answers · asked by funstuff7 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe its just nerves. or hes waiting for you to move. he probably does like you...
lots of guys prefer the girls to make the first step, but if you personally don't want to, then dont. just flirt back, hint at it.
dont be too strong. you dont want to push him away. try cat & mouse. always be out of reach, but not too far (be creative. see where it takes you)
flirt with other guys and see if it gets him jealous.
just wait for it. follow your gut. if he really likes you, he'll come around.
2007-08-16 17:43:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to give yourself a mental hernia trying to lift this guy's intentions to meet your expectations. It doesn't matter if he's sending signals. I'm the first to admit that GUY signals aren't an indicator of what you might think.
For example, when I'm at the gym, and the woman in front of me is doing toe touches, I glance. It's so embarrassing because there are these mirrors, and they know when you're "glancing."
I tend to glance more when I'm, shall we say, have been stimulation-challenged for a while.
When the woman I'm barely glancing at has postage stamp-sized black shorts on, ohmygawd. I get dizzy. My neck kills me later from straining not to look directly into the light. It makes my workouts great though cause I do twice as many reps.
Think of a guy like a bank. Images get stored up all day long. Then, later that day when we have time to recall, a guy will pick out his most titillating image and review the creases, shadows and crevices.
Wear blah tomorrow and see if he still stares.
2007-08-17 00:59:31 · answer #2 · answered by CHARLES T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be that he's not sure of what he wants, so he's just sort of playing the field with all of you girls. He may want to see who he likes best without actually having to commit to a relationship right now. And that's okay judging from the fact that you're young enough to be at camp. This is what happens at this age. Don't fall victim to his looking at you. Be happy that you know the truth--that he's hanging around with other girls as well.
2007-08-17 00:41:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He may have been hurt in a past relationship, causing him to hold back. When you say 'he pushes himself away', he's probably too scared to allow himself to care, because he doesnt want to get hurt. Hope this helps =]
2007-08-17 00:43:36 · answer #4 · answered by mfnPrincess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he won't let you in because he doesn't want to hurt you. Sounds like he likes the attention of many girls, and wouldn't be able to handle or isn't ready for just one good one. Your day will come with him, or someone else who is willing to give you what you deserve.
2007-08-17 00:43:19 · answer #5 · answered by Nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has been hurt and is scared to get hurt again. Dont overthink! Its that simple. My advice would be to get him to talk about anything and guide him into what you wanna know. He will tell....we always do. We are still BASIC!!!
2007-08-17 00:43:47 · answer #6 · answered by johnny b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should read the book He's Just Not Into You, by Greg Behrendt....it's from a male point of view....short book, but so true....you will never look at a man the same......I say don't waste your time on him.
2007-08-17 00:42:21 · answer #7 · answered by Mel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fear and insecurity. It holds all of us back sometimes.
I think you should tell him you like him and then guage his reaction. Ask him to go to the movies with you.
2007-08-17 00:41:44 · answer #8 · answered by Puss in Boots 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He found some better girls. And, because he can only choose one, therefore has no more time for you... Bite the bullet, and find someone else.
2007-08-17 00:42:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're at camp? Maybe he just wants to have fun with people, but senses you're looking for a relationship.
2007-08-17 00:41:41 · answer #10 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋