I cannot for the life of me understand why this lady I work with acts so hateful towards me. We have worked together for over 3 years, and within the past year, she has just become very antagonistic towards me. The only thing is, I never said or did anything to her that would make her feel hateful towards me. I am much younger than her (she is 63, I am 28) so I was wondering if that may have something to do with it. Either way, it really bothers me because other co-workers have noticed it and are baffled as well.
2007-08-16 17:28:17 · 10 answers · asked by Lori T 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I can't imagine why she is treating you this way. I would confront her and ask her.
2007-08-16 17:33:58 · answer #1 · answered by Patti C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Has she been there longer than you? Does she feel threatened by you or your skills? Perhaps she's jealous of you or your job potential.
You should ask her about it, but do so in a nonconfrontational manner. Mention that others have noticed as well, and you are concerned because you thought things were fine prior to the last year. If she freaks out on you, immediately speak with a manager about the problem.
Maybe she's having personal issues and doesn't realize she's being this way. If it is work related, maybe you can still solve the problem without managerial intervention by having a simple conversation.
Work sucks enough without this childish crap making it worse. Good luck.
2007-08-16 17:42:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than likely, she has fallen victim to the rumor mill. Somewhere along the lines, she has heard something negative about you. Either that you said or did something about her or something that offends her.
The only way you're going to get to the bottom of it is to ask her. Invite her to lunch (your treat) and ask her outright. Either she will tell you OR, she will deny it and start acting nicer toward you.
But the only way this is going to get better is if you ask HER.
Otherwise, start looking for a new job.
2007-08-16 17:36:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she's married her husband may have seen you and made a comment about your attractiveness and she's jealous. You may have said or done something to her without realizing that you had offended her. If you REALLY want answers, ASK HER what the problem is and if it can be rectified. Not saying anything and letting the situation continue isn't helping the work environment. You're both adults so talk about it.
2007-08-16 17:36:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-10 09:53:58 · answer #5 · answered by earles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could either:
A) Just kill her with kindness :)
B) During a break or non-stressful time try to connect with her on something personal that she enjoys. Like crafting if you both do that or whatever. Get to know her a little on the personal side and find a connection. Sometimes that changes things. :)
2007-08-16 18:53:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might have very little to do with you and more to do with what you represent to her. Perhaps she feels threatened by your youth, your attractiveness, your job performance, or something else about you. I wouldn't waste more time and energy worrying about what's causing it. Perhaps you can approach this person and say something like, "Judy, I've noticed that you don't seem to have completely positive feelings about me. If there's anything I can do to help resolve this, please let me know." Otherwise just continue being nice to her and doing your job and you'll be fine.
2007-08-17 19:07:33 · answer #7 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her if you have said or done anything to offend her. Sometimes we say or do things that bother other people without realizing it.
2007-08-16 17:38:26 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its probably something you DIDNT do or said. People get pissed at everything, sometimes its what you did(or who) and sometimes its what you didnt do(or who you didnt do). Plus shes old so Im not surprised.
2007-08-16 17:36:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's going through menopause.
2007-08-16 17:35:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋