...every time someone brings up your mistake / discrepancy / shortcoming?
2007-08-16 17:16:05 · 11 answers · asked by LadyRebecca 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If you say you're sorry and you mean it, that should be it. IF the other person keeps bringing it up, then they have not FORGIVEN you.
Next time they bring it up, you need to take them aside privately and say "obviously you have not forgiven me for this since this is not the first time you've brought it up since I apologized. Is there something I can do to help you find a way to forgive me?"
Saying this might just bring it to their attention that they can't "let it go".
But, also, they will probably deny that they havn't forgiven you. In that case you need to point out that when you really forgive someone, you don't bring up the incident over and over again. Bringing it up means that you haven't really gotten over it.
That is their problem, not yours.
If this person can't accept your apology, you have two choices: deal with them talking about this for the rest of their life, or ditch them and find new friends.
2007-08-16 17:27:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If someone keeps bringing it up, they cannot let it go. Maybe that's because whatever it is is not forgivable by them, or maybe too short a time has gone by and they will eventually get over it, but just not yet.
Sometimes that happens. If you feel you have done all you can, next time they bring it up, ask them why they keep mentioning it, and if there is anything you can do to make it right.
If there isn't you will have to decide whether the relationship is worth continuing, or whether the lesson learned is that the two of you won't really ever suit as friends or anything else.
Good luck and best wishes :-)
2007-08-16 20:33:37 · answer #2 · answered by thing55000 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you say sorry once or twice and prove it by your actions.
If someone is doing that to you, wave bye bye. That gets annoying someone always bringing up stuff like that.
2007-08-16 17:25:06 · answer #3 · answered by paperpenandtea 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you should not have to. It is rude for someone to have accepted your apology and then keep bringing it up.
2007-08-16 17:27:48 · answer #4 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't think so.....you apologized,end of Story.
People who keep bring up old s..t are insecure.
2007-08-16 17:26:45 · answer #5 · answered by devilish1965 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
to err is human forgive divine.....I say throw it in the sea of forgetfulness..unless they keep doing it over and over that means they really are not sorry
2007-08-16 19:01:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. The next time they do it, it negates the apology. This is especially true if the person is hits you.
2016-05-20 19:03:09 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope one sorry is suffient, if you dont like it stuff it... I am only appologising once, if that is not enought then i retract my appology stuff it... lol
2007-08-16 18:09:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. only people with self-esteem issues do this.
2007-08-16 17:35:14 · answer #9 · answered by JESSICA G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no just drop the subject
2007-08-16 17:23:09 · answer #10 · answered by ♥David♫Archuleta♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋