Be carefull?

Question

Does this mean that he wants to get married?Should I be carefull?
I'm torn. I have been dating this man for about two months now.Lately he has been telling me that he wants me to go to Arizona in November to meet his family,friends,everyone.H... and I live here in California and he wants to move to New York with him next year.He asked me last weekend if I can have children.I'm a little hesitant because he has a really BADDD temper.He got mad at me and punched the wall.We went on an outing to the park. I told him that I needed to go to the bathroom.When I got back from the bathroom he showed me his camera.He had followed me and took pictures of me as I went to the bathroom aal the way until I went inside.I remember stopping to talk to a lady about her dog,he took pictures of that too.Am I jumping to conclusions or should I be carefull?

Answer 1

Listen to your gut. Obviously you wrote out this question because you are concerned. When someone is as violent as he sounds, I'd be very alarmed by him. I'd not want someone to follow me around by a camera because it seems so surreal. I'd get very careful but you don't want this man to hurt you either. Oh be careful hunni, it just sounds like a dangerous relationship.

Answer 2

Yes, I think you should be careful. Has he ever hit you? I hope he never did that. If he hit you before you need to leave him right this moment. Nobody, male or female, has any right to hit anybody. It seems like he is a controlling person plus you said he has a bad temper. Why does he want you to meet with his family, friends, etc after dating for only 2 months? That is way too soon. And why did he follow you all the way to the bathroom? That sounds weird. Anyway, take a good care of yourself because if you don't then nobody else would.

Answer 3

Sorry, I must say this...he is obseessive. Look deep before u leap, meaning get to know him a little but more but it seems that you know him more thatn you think u do, you've witnessed his explosive temper and attitude and irrational and questionable behavior. It seesm that he is hurting you mentally and emotionally if at any time u don't feel safe or if the realtionship is making u unhealthy or itself is unhealthy essintally, let him go. Besides, don't u think in marriage and living together....he could control u more than he is doing now? Think hard, my personal opinion is to let go of him and his attitude...its not worht it, if it was a true realtionship u wouldn't even have to ask a question like this. Let go and let live. You're way better than that.

Answer 4

I hope that you go back and read the things that your writing , and get some common sense. If you can't see the things that are right in front of you. Than your problem isn't with him it's you. I would never think twice, no let me re-phrase that. I would never think about a man who treated me like that. Do you know why he treats you like that!!

Because you let him. You can always get him out of your life, but for some reason you have let him stay. So I hope that you can get some common sense and do the right thing, for YOURSELF!

Answer 5

My best advise is to end this relationship now, not unless you like to be in abusive relationships, just joking of course. I was married to a very abusive man but it didnt start as soon as yours has, mine actually took awhile before he started showing his bad temper. What he is showing you now is nothing compared to what it will be in a year or two. It will only get worse so leave him now while you can and do please be carefull

Hope this helps

:-))

Answer 6

I would be careful and safe. It sounds like this guy has no trust anger issues and is jealous. its only been 2 months and look what you saw in him already? Those are major red flag and I would be very careful. It might be time to re-evaluate this situation for your own safety and welfare.

Answer 7

No your seeing a red flag, be careful....only 2 months and he has mentioned all this...I think he has your life planned out, problem is , you have a life of your own but I don't think he will allow it.

Answer 8

STALKER with a capital S im serious. you need to get out of this relationship because next thing you know hell be hitting you instead of the wall

Answer 9

Get Out, sounds like he is very controling! I would be very careful and i bet any one of you girlfriends would tell you the same, good luck and be safe!

Answer 10

This man sounds like a freak. Don't marry him. In fact dump him.