Ok Im japanese and I`ve been datting this guy for almost 9month. He is an American.
He is going back to States in 2month :( I really love him and I wanted to go with him but I guess its not gonna happen.
Well my question is since I know I can`t be with him after he left, should I still be with him until the end (the day he leaves) or I should break off this relationship now???
I really don`t know...... I know either way my heart is going to be break. I just wanna know which is more painless???
Its really hard for me right now cause every time I see him all my emotion comes up and starting to think about losing him from my life. I don`t know I can handle all about this.
Please give me some advice.
Thank you for your time to read this.
2007-08-16 15:04:42 · 9 answers · asked by livemybe2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The break up of a relationship especially when it isn't what you want is very painful. I don't know an easy way to deal with this. Do you have close friends to talk to (and cry when you need to)? It is a loss and is bound to hurt for quite a while. If you have other people in your life and activities, it helps to deal with this. If you are more isolated, you will have a harder time. Just recognize that you will have pain with this and that it is not abnormal. The issue is how you take care of yourself during this time.
2007-08-16 15:14:55 · answer #1 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Welcome Hun,but to be honest long distance relationships usually don't work,but with you and him it could be different. I've tried the long distance thing,and it didn't work.The more painless way would be to just break up with him (I know sad)
The thing I had to constantly worry about was if he was cheating on me or not,or what was he doing where was he at,or if he was okay or not.The stress,worry,and jealousy was taking over my life, so I just decided to break up with him,and even though I cried for days deep down under all of those tears,and heartache,I realized I was making the right decision.
Just follow what your heart tells you always follow your first mind too.It's always the right one.
2007-08-16 22:18:25 · answer #2 · answered by QueenOfNoWhereLand ?? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can try and get rid of the emotional aspect of it and still see him till he leaves, it is always so much easier if you part on great terms. Sometimes your heart just does these things to you and I know it is so not fair! You just have to try and for get about him when he is gone and try and find someone who makes you feel good and is here and staying. probably won't be the same but it will make you feel better.
2007-08-16 22:13:33 · answer #3 · answered by Sammie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say if you know he is not the one you are going to spend forever with then move on. How can you find Mr. Right if you are with Mr. Wrong? If he is going away and the two of you cannot handle a long distance relationship then don't waste your time.
2007-08-16 22:18:52 · answer #4 · answered by K H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably you guys should visit each other. mybe 1 visit could be remembered for a long time. people may say that long distanced relationships could kill you(emotionally) but it's just a saying. if you 2 really love each other. then the both of you will be in touch for a long time. men come and go. but if you love him you guys can think of a way to be together. im in texas and my boyfiend is in reynosa but we still IM everynight. so maybe you guys could still be together by heart. but maybe your eyes don't see each other, but your hearts will be strong and you will servive this relationship if you think of a way to contact each other.
2007-08-16 22:17:17 · answer #5 · answered by girl_of_the_shadows 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he feel the same about you? how old are the two of you? if adults why cant you be together? if you are minors, then just be together until he has to leave and once he is gone, give some time for your heart to heal, when you are ready to move on your heart will tell you.
2007-08-16 22:12:51 · answer #6 · answered by Mary D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its hard...I know. But dont wait till the end..But dont do it now..Maybe wait until like a week before...Or something..But live out the next couple of weeks with him..
2007-08-16 22:12:10 · answer #7 · answered by chelsea =] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be with him till he leave , either way its gonna hurt when he leave, theres no less painfull way, just try a savour every last moment with each other as you can
2007-08-16 22:14:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
was he like the first white guy you met in japan? don't be so white-washed. stick with japanese men.
2007-08-16 22:12:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋