We're on a "break" but he's online, should I just say hey?!?

Question

We've been dating over 1.5 years and for the past 2 weeks we've been unhappy mostly my issues I suppose. Anyways he's moving up here to go to college and so i think it's stress, financies, family, etc. We kept fighting and i asked him what he wanted. We love each other so much and he wanted a break. Not a sleep with other people but not talk or see each other break to reasses everything. I said no but then said do it because it's important to him. Now I can't seem to get on. I'm still crying hours later and I want to contact him. What should I do? I don't want a break and just want to see him and help him move into his apartment! It sounded like a good idea until now and I'm clueless, is a break the right thing to do, should I call and disagree? Our current deal is I won't do anything and he'll call when he's ready but I can't do that. ....HELP!

Answer 1

I would NOT and respect the break

Answer 2

Not sure how old you are, but if he said "break" until he says OK... that's childish,and is probably already sleeping with some one else. SORRY! I know not all guys are jerks, but Break means my eye got diverted, and I am looking around first before I actually break it off. That way if he finds nothing or no one, then he still has you hanging in the wake.

I would ask him either were on or were off.. be prepared for a bad answer, but don't accept "break" that's a cop out and dragging out the heartache. sorry again.. truly. but there are tons of good guys out there, and you will find the right one.

Be Strong, get a true answer, and be true to yourself.

Good Luck..

PS if you say "no he really isn't getting with anyone else" you are in denial.. look at the episode of friends, Break meant date others, even though Ross and Rachel didn't tell each other.. It's on friends it's true. lol JK, hopefully that made you smile instead of ruining any credibility I had from above. Trust me on this.. get a straight answer.

Answer 3

If you're on a break solely to not talk or see each other than why would you talk to him?? If he means that much to you then you should respect him and his feelings and needs for a break. If this goes on for a long period of time then you can contact him. But right now he is stressed out and probably nervous and anxious and he just needs his own time to think. Give him his space at least for a little while. If he really does love you then he will do what he said and come back to you.

Answer 4

I say talk to him. how long has it been since you have talked to him? You guys have been together for 1.5 years so should be at the stage you dont need much time. He sounds like he needs to grow up a bit... Just say hey that you were worried and you missed him. Why play games and pretend your not thinking about him and your crying. Crying is no good.. and if he loves you dear hes not going to want that to happen. Just tell him you want to resolve the matter - like adults or just simply you want to sort this out together if you guys are going to be a couple.

Him waiting to call is great for him.. but it IS a 2 sided relationship.. he may need time.. and when men are stressed they go into their caves and dont want to talk... so tel him he can have time..

Look your already in pain.. just say look if you want to end the relationship as it appears its too much for you, than fine. You dont want to lose him, but you feel too much pain with the current situation. You just want to resolve it or get an answer... Best of luck.. Dont hold back ur feelings.. or be damn afraid to talk to ur boyfriend.. its silly..

Answer 5

Oh man! I feel ya. My man said he wanted a "break" only to tell everyone else we "broke up"...if he's online then he can tell your online too...let him contact you. In the meantime, focus on your girls, your family, yourself (workout a lot) and school/work...you two have been together a long time and he may be starting to have commitment issues. If he's starting school he may be feeling that he wants to explore other options. I know that sucks to hear, but at least that's what happened to me....

best wishes hon, and stay strong. Everyone here knows how you feel....I hope things work out for you the way you want them too...

Answer 6

just say, i know we are on a break. i had you on my mind and i really miss you alot. i hope you are well.
send a beautiful ecard to him. don't say much more, \
basically the ecard will speak for itself.
it will show him that you are still thinking of him.
then let the rest take its toll. ppl need breaks and need time to sift through things. per say it doesnt have to be something you specifically 'did'. everyone is entitled to some type of break. i find if you take a break, when you do finally get back together the bond is three times as stronger than it was before. and if he needs space, give it to him.
he will contact you when he is ready. dont rush him'
good luck~ if you guys are meant to be, you have nada to worry about. =)

Answer 7

I wouldn't talk to him. He was the one that said he needed a break so hes the one that needs to end it. Try to relax and chill out with the girls. Don't let him see you sad either! He will find you much more desirable if he saw you happy. Guy are just like this, they need time away to just breathe and find out what they want. It may not be fun but its just the way it is i guess. Hes obvi going through something so don't be hard on him. when he comes around what he will need most is your support and to comfort him! soo take it easy he'll come around!

Answer 8

I know its hard but try and wait it out. You both sound like your stressed out and need some time apart. He is missing you too I am sure. Find something to do like exercising or just anything to keep yourself busy for the next couple of days. Good Luck!

Answer 9

Let him be online..don't bother him. Let him know you know what a break means. The more you pressure the more irritating he will become with you and not feel like this break thing is for real or bothering him. Give it some time, then just drop him a Hi when hes online, but its too soon...you will end up pushing him away.

Answer 10

me and my girl are on a break right now cause of me and as much as i tell her to leave me alone i would love for her to contact me. I have too much pride to contact her first. So i say go for it just dont nag and be all casual like hey hows everything goin and such

Answer 11

didnt i just answer this question? a break is a break?!!!!!! ignore him. doesnt matter if he is online. if he wants a break and you are constantly bothering him sweating him you might make matters worse..a break means he doesnt want to be bothered with you! wake up! theres plenty fish in the sea. NO dont say hey let him make the first move!