i just picked out the design for the bridesmaids dresses and i was wondering who pays for them, me or them? i wouldnt mind but if it could save me money i want to know definately....
2007-08-16 14:47:04 · 25 answers · asked by lilruby052001 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Traditionally, the bridesmaids pay for their own dresses. If you could offer some financial support I am sure they would appreciate it, but you have no obligation to do so. Congratulations on your upcoming wedding and marriage!
2007-08-16 14:49:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I would have loved if the bride paid for my bridesmaid dress. But she didn't pay a dime for anything yet made us have expensive dresses, host and fund an engagement party, bachelorette party, bridal shower, nail, makeup and hair appointments before the wedding, 2 nights at a hotel, breakfast party, after party drinks, not to mention a wedding gift. To "thank" us we got some fake jewelry from clairs. She seemed very ungrateful for all the money we had to spend on the wedding. If you can afford to pay for the dresses I think that would be very kind and gracious of you. If not, you won't be the first bride to require the bridesmaids to foot the bill themselves. I personally felt like a "number" and that she could care less about how much we had to sacrifice for her day. Follow what your gut tells you to do. All I know, is if I could go back to the day when she asked me "will you be a bridesmaid" I would have said no and that is pretty sad. Because of how greedy and unappreciative she was I have not sought contact with her since the big day and I don't plan on talking to her anytime soon. You, on the other hand might be a totally different type of bride than she was and the fact that you are even considering footing the bill for the dresses proves that. But if you think your maids have some disposable money then it doesn't matter. I do know that my fellow bridesmaids had car notes, mortgages, and bills to worry about so they were torked off as well. It is one thing if you want someone to be involved on your special day b/c you love them and can't imagine having it without them, but it is an entirely different thing if you just want a bunch of ladies up there to create the perfect picture. I am sure you will make a good choice.
2007-08-16 15:09:53 · answer #2 · answered by shortdaylongnight 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Generally the bridesmaids pay for the dresses; however, it can be a real burden on them. I personally would rather not be a bridesmaid than have to buy a dress etc... I would rather just be around my dear friend and participate, but not stand up on stage as a decoration.
I asked my friends to wear little black dresses at our wedding for this reason.
I think the bride should buy the dress... but I understand it's expensive -- that's why I think the whole pink or purple or yellow or red or teal dresses should be let go out of love and respect for your closest, dearest, friends.
Congratulations...
2007-08-16 14:54:08 · answer #3 · answered by mj 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In most Western countries -- and certainly in the U.S. and Britain -- adult bridesmaids pay for their own dresses. If the adult bridesmaids are still financially dependent on their parents, as college students often are, their parents do as your parents did, and pick up the bill. Parents of child attendants similarly buy the outfits for the children.
2007-08-16 15:01:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, since I am getting married, I asked the girls to pay for them, but I put 50 dollars on all the dresses. I bought their flip flops too. So if you can help in a small way, that is great. IF not that is their responsibility by accepting the role. Hope this helps!
2007-08-16 14:54:44 · answer #5 · answered by Peek A Boo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The bridesmaids definitely pay for their own dresses. It would be a nice gesture if you could, but it is not something expected of you.
Good luck!
2007-08-16 14:52:18 · answer #6 · answered by Reba 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Usually the bridesmaids pay for their own, but it would be an amazingly generous gesture for you to pay for them, and they would always remember it. This would be a particularly nice gesture if you know that one or more of your gals is on a limited income or has to travel cross-country to be at the wedding. Congrats on your wedding!
2007-08-16 16:30:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They do.
My bridesmaids and I had a compromise-I picked the store, they got 20 bucks off their dress, but they got to pick the style they liked best (as long as it was the right color), which seemed fair to me since they were spending their own money.
2007-08-16 14:56:33 · answer #8 · answered by mixpix777 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well normaly today the brides maids do but if you are going to pick out a dress that is over 150.00 i say you pay for it becouse once you tax on that shoes they might have to buy a special bra hair makeup nails they will be spending over 300.00 easy and you dont want to make all your bridesmaids poor on your day so make sure the dresses are affordable and makesure you look out for your friends you might have a friend that might only be able to afford 100.00 or 200.00 due to they are single moms ec if you really want them in your party sit them down and talk to them and on how you might be able to help
2007-08-16 19:42:38 · answer #9 · answered by rodeogirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to pay for them, the bridesmaid do..It is all part of the burden or privledge of being a bridesmaid! Usually the bride thanks everyone w/gifts at the rehearsal dinner! I gave all my bridesmaids jewerly, flip flops and paid for there hair to get done the next day.
2007-08-16 14:53:10 · answer #10 · answered by Kelly 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋