After being in a relationship with this man for roughly 4 months, I received this email from another woman suspecting she and I were seeing the same person. She was right; we confronted him and he got a massive shock.
But.. Anne (the other woman) had access to his little black book and phone and we now have a large number of girls contact details.
My question is, should we send out a brief message warning these women of this creep?
(And creep he is. He literally would leave my place after a shower and head straight to her's. He also sent us exactly the same sms messages and talked with both of us about marriage and children). I also have a child that he was getting to know before we found his sorry ar$e out.
What is the right thing to do here?
Thanks :)
PS: I should add that both Anne and I are highly decent and attractive women.
2007-08-16 14:37:59 · 16 answers · asked by MaryMaryMary 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh yes I left him straight away!
2007-08-16 14:56:27 · update #1
Yes tell every woman you can find about his ways. I certainly would & you know me! Post his name on here & we'll spread the word.
2007-08-16 18:07:06 · answer #1 · answered by Mishell 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have only one thing to do. To either chose to stay with him or chose to leave him. Sounds blunt but the fact you both know the truth makes the decision that more clear to me. Of course you both could do some serious damage to him reputation-wise. But honestly, after the initial blast is over, what do you gain from it? We have all been in this situation in some time in our lives. We have only the choice to be better or bitter about the reality brought to bear.
I am pretty sure you have gotten more of the answers you wanted to hear. Since I am an unbiased and unknown third party, I hope what I said gives you another avenue to consider. Doing nothing to him and moving on with your life and close the chapter on this book for better days just might be the best revenge you could gain. Besides, you will be better respected for it too. As far as him, he sounds like he is going through a phase where he thinks the world revolves around him. You leaving him might just makes him realize the world does not shine as brightly for him as it once thought. The fact both of you know this only confirms what he never thought to understand. Running around playing games only gets you left out in the cold in the end.
2007-08-16 14:49:31 · answer #2 · answered by DeepThinker7...Last Black Renaissance Man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slam him on the Internet. Don't let that little worm off too easy make him squirm & sweat & lose some time thinking about how really evil women can be when they are crossed.
When you send it try and not sound hurt & down instead go for juggler start a real good rumor put a doubt in their heads doesn't have to be a rumor but most definetly seed a doubt.
2007-08-16 14:52:14 · answer #3 · answered by theladygeorge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to take the high road, dump him and let it be. Don't call the people in his little black book, it's only going to make you seem petty and jealous. Besides most of them probably already know what kind of person he is. Also, calling all of these people is not going to prevent him from scamming new girls that aren't in his book.
If you want to take the low road, do it in style. Throw a party at a club and invite all the girls in his little black book. Trick him into coming. He'll probably leave 30 seconds after walking in the door, but at least you'll have fun talking crap about him to all the other girls in his little black book.
2007-08-16 14:59:10 · answer #4 · answered by medulla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you believe in Karma (universal law) then you'll have faith he's got it coming to him - big time, for what he did to both of you. However, going with that same philosophy, if you did something in return out of revenge, it would make you no better than him and you would have to be punished also. I say walk away and let nature take it's course. Free yourself of this guy's energy and regain your mojo. Good luck!
2007-08-16 14:46:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a good person, you deserve a good life. There is no winner in this one. Either person who stays will have to deal with the same thing again sometime in the future. Move on.
2007-08-16 14:44:30 · answer #6 · answered by LaraLara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was me, I would immediately dump him and cut all ties! This person was using you and others to his benefit, not caring about anyone Else's feelings. From personal experience if you forgive, he will only gain your trust and do it again. Be grateful you only had 4 months invested in this relationship, cut your loses and get away!
2007-08-16 14:51:37 · answer #7 · answered by wayne b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them. It's possible it was more than a double life. Some of them may have no clue what kind of scumbag he is and would appreciate the heads up.
And then - like said before - dump his sorry butt and move on.
2007-08-16 14:44:07 · answer #8 · answered by Scrapper 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's a good idea to warn the other women about him. You should be glad you were only with him for four months and didn't wasted too much time on him.
2007-08-16 14:44:06 · answer #9 · answered by furious but whatever 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you should tell the other women. It's only fair if they know the truth. You should just forget about him after and move on. Make sure not to have resentments. :] good luck.
2007-08-16 14:42:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋