2007-08-16 13:47:25 · 11 answers · asked by cheryl s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You start by figuring out how to be yourself again. You do the things you've always wanted to do. Go back to college. Take a wild vacation. Visit your children or other family. Switch jobs. Take up a new hobby or craft or sport. Read all the books you always wanted to and never had time for. Re-connect with your girlfriends and take a girls only vacation to someplace exotic. Join a new religion.
You fall in love with yourself, and one day you'll wake up and it won't hurt so much anymore. And you'll discover that you're the kind of woman that commands the attention of sweet, intelligent men.
2007-08-16 13:57:32 · answer #1 · answered by kyeri y 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there. First thing is to feel good about yourself. You may not be 20 anymore but you can still party and enjoy life. Get yourself healthy. If you've been putting your family and/or spouse first now you have to spend time on yourself. Its okay to be a little selfish right now. Start taking vitamins and try to eat right, you'll feel better. Get some exercise even if it is just a walk around the block. When you smile you will attract people. Find some other woman and go out for dinner or drinks. Find something to do that makes you meet new people, maybe volunteer someplace. Get rid of the mommy jeans and think young (not too young though). Keep taking one day at a time and if it gets overwhelming take just one hour at a time. Time does heal you but there will be many days you'll wonder if that is true. Just remember, you are not the only one out there struggling. Those of us that have been there are all wanting you to be happy again.
2007-08-16 14:01:25 · answer #2 · answered by raven754 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is an adage that says "wine tastes better with age". Hence, I think you have a great future in the dating arena.The following steps may help you as you start to find your way back after 21years of being in a relationship:1)take it nice and slow;some men may see you as easy prey2)decide on the qualities you are looking for in the man you want to be with, make a list and write them down if you like3)ask questions from any man you are dating and insist on honest and complete answers4)tell them the truth about yourself, what you are bringing to the romance, answer their questions honestly and completely.5) discuss what you are both looking for in a partner and the ideals of your relationship.You can use any and/or all of these suggestions to help you worm your way into the romance department again.After such an enormous amount in your last relationship, I can't begin to comprehend your pain, confusion, disappointment, loneliness, and fear. However, I sense you are a strong woman who wants to move on with her life rather than remain stagnant.Besides, you are just a young mid 40s woman with a world in front of her waiting for her to knock.So go get them tiger and I am rooting for you.Keep us posted on your progress.
2007-08-16 14:11:54 · answer #3 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be best to be only with yourself for a while. Reflect, go on a retreat type trip, do nothing different in your everyday routine until you find some peace. It may take a year or more. I presume you have a job to concentrate on so thats good. Focus on achievements, not relationships for now. Dont date.
2007-08-16 13:55:09 · answer #4 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One day at a time. Im also 46 I have found that a lot of guys are into women in there 40.
2007-08-16 13:52:07 · answer #5 · answered by regina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One step at a time. Lots of friends and family support. Get involved in fun things, not to meet anyone, but for self gratification. Keep yourself busy, and make sure you learn to make yourself happy being independent. Then everything else can follow from there.
2007-08-16 13:54:38 · answer #6 · answered by ♥mama♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Joyfully - enjoy - be with friends - move into a new place - have quiet time - read books - love yourself - have a boyfriend - live.
2007-08-16 13:53:22 · answer #7 · answered by emily day 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A little time and help from the right people. Think positive. You can do it!
2007-08-16 13:50:38 · answer #8 · answered by JackO07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get outside the house. Do anything. Just be sure you don't sit at home
2007-08-16 13:55:54 · answer #9 · answered by Robert K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No reason not to. Just open your mind to it, and do it.
2007-08-16 13:53:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋