i know that it should be special between you and your spouse and all, but wat if u marry the person? is it still bad?
2007-08-16 13:43:50 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Most of the answers for this question are all from people who think it's ok to tell people how to run others' lives.
Sex is something that should be shared by two people who genuinely LOVE each other. A piece of paper and a couple of words from a preacher aren't going to make the LOVE even stronger...like magic or something.
Sex should only happen when you're ready and willing to let it happen. It all depends on how YOU feel. If you think you can wait for marriage, then good for you. If you feel you're ready to share something so special with someone you care for, who are we to say otherwise. I say, think about what you want, and decide from there.
2007-08-16 14:00:38 · answer #1 · answered by Brit 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well I believe that many couples will ingage in sexuall activities before marriege. But i believe their is a very distinct difference between sex and making love. And i believe many people grow up mistaking the two. Sex usually has no sentimental feeling. Usually their is no love between the two people. And many people choose theis route because they dont want to get emationally attached to the person. And making love is an act performed by two people that have strong love for each other. Making love is such a beautifull thing and its only achieved if the love is there. Most people never reach that point and the reason beeing that they dont let others in, which causes a major problem. To answer your question sex before marriage is not a bad thing because in the end sex is only a small factor in love and marriage.
Hope ur relationship goes well..
2007-08-16 20:58:48 · answer #2 · answered by fromdahood 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
NO!
God says no and, no means no.
Besides disobeying the Word of God many things may happen-
-unplanned pregnancy
-a decision not to marry that person after all and then your virginity would not be saved for your marriage partner
-you are both at risk for the many horrendous sexually transmitted diseases- since you feel it is ok to have sex before marriage, what makes you think your partner will save themselves just for you?
- etc...
If you are a Christian and want to live by the Bible, JUST SAY NO until marriage.
2007-08-16 21:04:07 · answer #3 · answered by redeemed 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is opening up your Christmas gift ok, even if it is way before Christmas?
I mean some say yes, and many say no. God has designed sex to be between a husband and wife- it states this in Genesis, the very first book of the Bible.
We all fall short- and sin when it comes to this- it is a hard thing to learn- but with God all things are possible and we must continue to rely on HIS strength to see us through. A marriage with God as the center will definately be blessed~
2007-08-16 21:35:08 · answer #4 · answered by Mandolyn Monkey Munch 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sex is an animal trait that all life has, as for us humans man has created all of this moral stuff like no sex before marriage, how can sex be bad at anytime if it is between to consenting adults, a man and a woman, I do not buy into homosexuality.
2007-08-16 20:54:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What if you didn't marry that person ?? If you really love each other it's worth the wait . Proverbs 15:3 " The eyes of the Lord are everywhere beholding the evil and the good ".
2007-08-16 20:51:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty, the whole concept of saving yourself for marriage was to make sure that the kid born in the marriage was of the fathers sperm. Othewise, men get all mad and go beat each other up and well Jerry springer time.
Now that we have these wonderful inventions such as condoms....
It really shoud be up to you. Do you feel read? Why or why not?Why are you nervous? What do you think will happen if you do have sex before marriage? What makes you think you'll actually marry this guy?
How long have you known this guy? What type of woman are you? What do I mean by this... Well, think of it in terms of sex in the city. ARe you a charlotte, samantha, miranda, or carrie? I know they all had sex before marriage, but.... I want you to think about their personalities and not get hung up on the technicalities.
Charlotte needs to be emotionally involved and feel the relationship has a future. Kinda prudish, does see shame in the naked body.
Samantha, well makes sure she wears protection but otherwise, what the hey. Very intune with her body, sees no shame in the act
Carrie, not as loose as samantha but can go either way.
Miranda, very cerebral. need to make sure her partner is a equal. Not quite as girl rule heavy as Charlotte but not ready to give it up anytime that samantha does.
How important is it to you to be a "good " /Christian? Are you always going to resent yourself for giving it up before marriage?
It really all depends on you.
I'm 32 and never felt saving myself before marriage was that big of a deal. My husband doesn't care. Would he have been a good person to loose my virginity to, yes. ON the other hand, I feel no shame on it, because my sexual experience lets me be able to give him pleasure.
I also never dated anyone that "lost respect for me the next morning". So you have to take into account the guy your going or may not have sex or make love with.
I've personally never understood this adamant need to "save yourself" for marriage.
2007-08-16 21:16:17 · answer #7 · answered by growlymomma 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Veritas is right. Sex before marriage is not right in God's eyes. Of course if you don't care about God then you don't care what He thinks either.
If you want to have sex with him now and can't contain yourself why don't you have a justice of the peace marry you now and then have a big wedding later if you're planning one. There is nothing wrong with this and it will allow you the closeness you want with your loved one.
2007-08-16 20:52:22 · answer #8 · answered by Ellen J 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
According to the Holy Bible, any sex outside of marriage (one man and one woman) is a sin. It's called fornication and it falls under sexual sin.
Gal. 5:19 The wrong things the sinful self does are clear: being sexually unfaithful, not being pure, taking part in sexual sins,20 worshiping gods, doing witchcraft, hating, making trouble, being jealous, being angry, being selfish, making people angry with each other, causing divisions among people,21 feeling envy, being drunk, having wild and wasteful parties, and doing other things like these. I warn you now as I warned you before: Those who do these things will not inherit God's kingdom.22 But the Spirit produces the fruit of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,23 gentleness, self-control.
Colossians 3:5
So put all evil things out of your life: sexual sinning, doing evil, letting evil thoughts control you, wanting things that are evil, and greed. This is really serving a false god.
Colossians 3:4-6
Revelation 21:8
But cowards, those who refuse to believe, who do evil things, who kill, who sin sexually, who do evil magic, who worship idols, and who tell lies—all these will have a place in the lake of burning sulfur. This is the second death."
Revelation 21:7-9
2007-08-16 21:48:58 · answer #9 · answered by Salvation is a gift, Eph 2:8-9 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
According to what God has told us, it is a sin if done outside of marriage. Period.
Loving the person or "intending to marry them" doesn't suddenly make premarital sex ok. It was meant for husband and wife ONLY.
If you are having sex with someone you are not married to, you are taking something that does not belong to you yet. Wait until God gives them to you in marriage. Be patient.
2007-08-16 20:46:56 · answer #10 · answered by Veritas 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋