So my guy friend and I were "dating", but he broke up with me because I was in a "bad state of life", meaning I was depressed and unhappy and he couldn't deal with it at the time. He had a lot going on, his grandmother had died, he quit football, his dad thought he "was a failure". I talked to him the other day and he said that "**** had settled down finally". I know he still likes me because a few weeks before he had said "there is no way to express how I feel about you, how much I love you". I really want to ask him for another chance, and promise him that I will not try to control him if we do get back together. I really love him. I also want to tell him I've changed. Should I ask him now? I don't want to wait until it's too late.
2007-08-16 13:25:53 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In a case like this, if you know for sure he feels the same way or that a possibility of you two getting back together than I say don't hesitate and tell him how you feel. Just say it how you said it here: to promise him that you will not try to control him if he gives you a chance. Just don't push him tho, especially that things in his life are beginning to "settle down". But, for sure, if this is how you truly feel and desire, I say don't hesitate and seize that chance before it's too late.
Good Luck!
2007-08-16 13:37:45 · answer #1 · answered by johnny101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being depressed and sad are not justifiable reasons to end a romance with someone you love.But he did.Granted, he was dealing with some issues which might have clouded his judgment. However, I would have thought that all of these adverse situations would have brought you both together.It is not too late though if you guys truly love and care for each other.Start with sitting down, talk about the mistakes each of you made the first time around, decide on how you are going to correct those mistakes and other problems you guys might identify,renew your commitment to the romance and the guiding goals that you hope to achieve, then remain true to those ideals.Love is a two way street and requires two people to make it work.Unless you did something outrageous to him which you did not mention in your piece, there is no reason for you to ask for another chance. If you are sure of his current affection and feelings for you, and you are sure of yours for him ,then have a talk with him. May the force be with you.
2007-08-16 13:50:11 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure. You should ask. Look, believe me that if it's going to happen, nothing like this is going to stop it. So many times, relationships sour when one or both people get reclusive and shut out the other, which is what sounds as though happened. My advice is to start small again, cup of coffee, movie, etc. and let things develop on their own schedule.
It sure seems like you genuinely care, so I'd say that if he cares about you the same, then given time, you two will figure out how to make things better and work.
Good luck, and just take a few deep breaths, be yourself, and confidently ask him to do something.
2007-08-16 13:38:08 · answer #3 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All we can do in life is try. Nobody can ask more from us than that. Tell him your feelings and hope for the best. If its meant to be it will be and if its not meant to be it wont. Another thing to consider is friendship. If you had to make a choice between friendship or nothing. Another words if asking to get back together is going to make him back off then maybe that's not the strategy you want to use. Just a thought. I wish you all the happiness in the world.
2007-08-16 13:41:07 · answer #4 · answered by Smarty Pants™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend some time with him first. Lunches, movies, bike rides... all will give you a chance to see if you do want to date him again. IF after a lunch or 2 you still want to give him a kiss on the cheek before the goodbye and see how he responds. Just don't tie yourself to a "fix it up " project or jerk.
Good Luck
Todd
2007-08-16 13:49:32 · answer #5 · answered by Pilgrim in the land of the lost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him then tell him what is on your mind and what you feel in your heart before its too late.
2007-08-16 13:33:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're sure he still likes you... then say exactly what you said in the question.
2007-08-16 13:28:58 · answer #7 · answered by Like a Cat. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the break up really was his fault, yes, you should ask him for one more. If it was yours and you change your mind, yes, you should ask for one more.
2007-08-16 13:32:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think you should because if he gets a new girlfriend later on, you're going to regret it.
2007-08-16 13:29:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well then go ask him
2007-08-16 13:30:48 · answer #10 · answered by BOOMER SOONER FAN!!! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋