Can I get your opinions on something? I know this is long but please read it through. I need your help.?

Question

I know this isn’t religion and spirituality but I also know that I’ll get an answer fast here and this greatly impacts both our lives.

Today part of the company my husband works for was bought out. He’s very nervous about whats going to happen, and frankly, so am I. I honestly don’t know what to say to him when we talk after he finishes work tonight.

Both companies are vying for him to work for them. They are both offering him the wage he’s receiving now.

The new company would offer a more prestigious title, and better benefits as well as future movement to a higher position. However, its unknown in a way that’s difficult to deal with. We don’t know how stable the company is, and he would lose all seniority and influence he has with his current company.

The current company will give him a lesser title with the same wage doing something he doesn’t really want to do but definitely has the training and skill for. However, with this company he has influence, respect, and an extensive

network of contacts that will allow him to get things he needs done very easily with the likely chance of excellent future opportunities because they desperately want to keep him. He knows that with this company he is guaranteed to have a steady job for many years to come, while the other company is a complete unknown.

There is an added complication…

I’m Canadian. We’ve been working on the Visa to bring me down to the US to finally be by his side. His former departmental boss will be his boss if he stays with his current company. She has guaranteed me a job in her department whenever I finally get down to the US. The problem is that if he stays with this company and works in that department, the company will not hire me because we’d be working in the same department and it would be a conflict of interest. Its also better to stay with this company because it looks better to the government if he’s in a stable guaranteed job and stays there until the paperwork goes through for the Visa

The thing is, I know I could get a job in any hotel I want to (that’s what both he and I do for a living. We work in hotels), but it would make things harder once I get down there because we no longer have that guarantee.

I’m leaning toward suggesting he stay with this company and we’ll just deal with what comes when I finally get down there but the new companies opportunity is a good one.

I hope this isn’t too convoluted but I really do need help.

What do you think?

Answer 1

Man this is hard. I always say that it is best to go with your gut, and your gut should direct you toward the one where the actual day to day WORK is what he wants to do. If the work itself was more or less the same, I can't see risking what he has for an unknown quantity. But you say that the work is different and is what he wants to do at the new company.

I am leaning toward saying he should go for it, but a word of caution first. Think of how your situation would be if it didn't pan out. Ask yourself, what would there be to gain by risking what you have. If the gain would be worth the risk, then I would risk it. I am sensing from your letter that you want to play it safe. Well, that is an understandable feeling.

Just how unreliable is the new company? Is there any chance of getting some financial reassurances that they are solvent and seeing how great the risk is?

I don't know, but my feeling is that if the actual day to day work at the new place would be more interesting, stimulating, challenging and rewarding than the work at the old company, and if the risk was within acceptable limits, I would go for it. You only live once! As far as I know......

Let us know what happens, I think we'd all like to know which way things go.

Bright Blessings, and good luck!
Lady Morgana )0(

Answer 2

There are too many variables to make a suggestion based on the information you've given. However, I would recommend the following:

Speak to your immigration attorney to ask what he/she recommends. This could give you more educated guidance.

Consider your ages: How much longer do you both intend to be working in the industries that you are currently in? Do you plan to open a hotel of your own, or branch out in a similar venture, or do you intend to remain employees until retirement?

Are you both leaning in the same direction? This could mean your intuition is moving you together in values and expectations. If you're leaning in opposite directions, you should both set forth why you are drawn to that particular choice. That discussion could bear some fruit that would be useful.

Predicting the future is difficult at best, and impossible much of the time. Much of this decision will come down to luck, but you can at least consider the things that are known, discoverable, and unknowable as a part of the decision process.

Good luck!

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Answer 3

Honestly, what do you want? It sounds like you are torn between playing it safe and taking a risk. If you take the risk, you could gain or lose depending on what happens with this company (if it goes south could you go back to the other company?) If you play it safe, then you will most likely stay where you are and be safe. Is it as risky as you portray it? It sounds to me like your husband's job will be a little boring for him with the present company. How does he feel about staying with his present company? Is it saddening or exciting to him? It sounds like he doesn't like it. I have worked several jobs that I did not like and I do not recommend it for anyone. If you have an opportunity for something invigorating, I'd say go for it. Honestly, you need to talk about how you both feel about the options on the table. Do not just pick the safest choice. Good luck.

Answer 4

From what you've said, staying with the same company sounds good to me, too. The only advantage to the other job is the higher wage and better title -- everything else is a disadvantage or unknown.

Answer 5

That's a hard one...choosing between the devil you know and the one you don't. Ultimately, you both need to go with your gut. It will not lead you astray, and it works in your highest good. My read on the situation is that he should stay with the old company.

Answer 6

flip a coin heads or tails 50/50 luv dad pray also one side pro other side cons like you just did good things bad things one side will be bigger then the other go with that it came from benjamin franklin.luv dad stick to the bread and butter loyelty goes a long way and you cant buy respect its earn .

Answer 7

Tuff one, but I his loyalty to his current company will be better, and it will be secure. I'm sure either way it will work out for you guys, just make sure the keep all considerations opened and balance them out. But I would stick to the same company.

Answer 8

The profit &loss.life &death,fame & defame etc depend upon Almighty. Thereby,you can carry on your duty with your internal voice as you receive from your inside. The rest things you should leave on Almighty and you believe that He will protect you provided that you are carrying on your work truthfully and honesty. My all good wishes are with you.

Answer 9

hey sweetie
my thoughts are staying with the current one.... there seems to be more security there for both you and hubby
you can get a job down there as easily as where you are ... if you are qualified enough to do so
just my tuppence worth .. hope it helps