I'm invited to a wedding of a co-worker and the invitation only had my name on it. Can i still bring a date?

Question

My co-worker is getting married and i'm invited, along with other peole we work with. I always thought that if it's just your name on the invitation, if it doesn't say + guest, the only person invited is you. But another co-worker of ours told me today that it's standard fare to come to a wedding with someone, whether or not their name was on your invitation. The wedding is this Sunday and i don't want to stress out the bride by bringing this up to her last minute like this. What should i do? Is it generally assumed that you're bringing a guest to a wedding? I already sent out my rsvp card with only my name on it. Is it too late to change that? Help!!!

Answer 1

you were right with your first thinking. an invite is only for the people ON the invite. if they wanted you to bring a guest it would have said AND guest. plans have already been made and dinners been ordered. i would tell your other co-worker this is not how it works, just in case they think they can bring a person(if they are invited to this wedding too). just bring yourself unless you really want to bring a date and are comfy asking your co-worker what is up. i would not, but i do not know how you feel about going to weddings alone.

Answer 2

Yes unfortunately it is too late, the head count has already been sent in especially if the wedding is this Sunday. Besides, if your name was the only one on the invitation that means that only you were invited. If the bride and groom had sent an invite with your name and 'guest' then you could have brought someone. You are going with co-workers, you at least will know some other people there.

Answer 3

You're the one in the right here. If your name is the only one on the invitation and it doesn't specify 'and guest', then you are the only one invited and it would be unpardonably rude to bring another person along.

Even if it had said 'and guest,' it would still be too late to add a date, since you already responded that you were coming alone.

Don't try to add guests at this point. And good for you understanding that a guest does not invite further guests unless specifically invited to do so!

Answer 4

I would not bring a guest. Weddings are paid for by person and if you did ask at the time of rsvp then it is too late to ask, especially if you are not close enough to her to feel comfortable asking. She invited her co-workers out of respect and would have put + guest if she wanted guests there. She probably figured all the co-workers would sit together since they all know each other

Answer 5

You should speak with your coworker. Just ask matter of factly. There are no hard and fast rules. Did the invitation ask about meals? If so then it would be likely that additional guests are not invited. It may be a budgetary thing. Weddings are expensive, especially the food. If your coworkers are going then you might not need to bring a guest because you will have people to talk to that you already know.

Answer 6

You are right and co-worker is totally wrong. If the invitation says "and guest" you may bring a date. If you are the only one listed you are the only person who is invited.

Yes bringing a guest is common but not always allowed, especially in these times when finances and rough. Your co-worker is the one who will look rude showing up with an uninvited guest. I highly reccomend you correct her mistake or quickly contact the bride so that she may correct it before she gets stuck with an unexpectedly large bill from added guests.

Answer 7

you could ask your co worker if it is OK to bring someone but if the invitation only had your name and did not make mention of a guest then only you were invited and the invitation does not extend to a guest. I know many a wedding plan ruined by people bringing uninvited guests. Many weddings are planned out by the head and here is an extra expense inccurred for extra guests.

Do not embarrasses yourself, your guest, and the bride and groom by bringing an unscheduled and uninvited guest to the wedding reception

Answer 8

If the couple wanted to open the invitation up to and guests it would have given you that option. If it didn't, then you should not bring a guest.

When you have your invitations printed the default is to have a place to put how many are coming if they did not have that done then they did it consciously. Most likely because they are on a tight budget so it would be out of order to bring a guest.

The fact that you have already rsvp'd the invitation means, it's too late unless you phone them and ask, because they use that to tell the caterers how many meals to prepare and place settings to put up.

If it's important to you to bring a guest then phone them and ask, all caterers make at minimum 5 extra meals for an unexpected guest with no additional fee to the couple. It's built into the price.

Answer 9

Well before you sent the card in with just your name on it you should of asked the person getting married if you could bring a date? I have been told time and time again that if it is only your name on the invite it is just for you. Sorry you have to fly solo on this one unless she ask why your not bringing a date then explain to her that you thought you couldnt because of the invite was only address to you and that is the proper thing to do. Then you can say Oh Well I will bring one if you would like me to? Hope it helps.

Answer 10

unfortunately considering the wedding is on Sunday it is honestly too late to change it..

you did the right thing by just putting your name because being a new bride myself it made a little uncomfortable when people would call me up and ask me if they could bring someone.. remember that other person has to be fed.. feeding them cost money.

never assume that you can bring a guest. if its not written then you don't bring a guest.

good luck.