I’m a vary guarded person I don’t trust guy’s fast{ hurt a lot in the past) How do I let my self open up more but still protract my self? How do I open up completely I’m still scared too ( I liked him for a year in he was like best friend) We've only dated 4 weeks! Is it to fast for that as well?
Will give10
2007-08-16 12:29:54 · 5 answers · asked by Sara D 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know that a friendship and relationship are different.
2007-08-16 12:50:33 · update #1
look.. just give a little at a time.. open up a small part... and just keep doing so.. little at a time.. reason why I say that is.. you open up all the way.. and if in your mind he betrays that... any part of it.. even a little.. it will send you hurling backwards again... so.. you open up a little... and so forth.... realize that you need to see things from an outside persepective before you can see if he's betrayed your trust on something... your eyes are looking through jaded glasses...
2007-08-16 12:35:12 · answer #1 · answered by Kevin c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ait a bit longer until you are truly comfortable with opening up more, otherwise you might regret it and this will make it even harder to open-up to someone next time.
you might have been friends for a year but that was a friendship which is a very different level of intimacy to a relationship, no matter how good friends you were. I say wait until you are more comfortable,and you can't put a time limit on that, only you will know when it is.
2007-08-16 19:43:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You open up by accepting the fact that you are taking a risk. So you had your heart broken before. So what! What makes you think you are so unique that you can get through life without getting your feelings hurt. Everything you do entails risk. You don't worry about driving to work, yet you are more likely to die driving to work than anything else you do. The difference is you have accepted that risk, and moved past it.
Go out and live and love you life despite the risks. You will be happy you did so when those risks pay off.
2007-08-16 19:37:47 · answer #3 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahaha...lols!wow!girl!good question...i'm in the same situation here too.but it's the other way around.this guy likes me like FOREVER and i finally gave him a chance during our 8th grade year together..we broke up twice and i knew it's not going to work out but sometimes i feel like i'm not even opening up for him...i guess i'm just saying the words but i can't even explain it to myself either...at least don't make the same mistake that i made...just move slowly and see how things go okay?good luck!
2007-08-17 11:32:12 · answer #4 · answered by Gorgeous. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its only been four weeks. calm down. wait a year, then let him get closer.
tell him what is going on.
2007-08-16 19:34:40 · answer #5 · answered by Jr. is angry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋