My husband is in iraq no letter or phone call in 3 weeks?

Question

I got 3 letters so far from my husband who is in iraq. The last letter was 4 pages long and it was a good letter saying how much he misses me and loves me. i havent got a letter or phone call since. I mean how can you not call your wife im starting to get worried like he dosnt care about me anymore its been 3 weeks. Well hes only been over there a month but i still should get phone calls from him its been awhile

Hes a marine thats in infantry

Answer 1

some of the wives in my husband's unit will go a month without hearing from their husbands, because they are out doing missions...its not a vacation over there..he misses and loves you he just needs to do his job and think of his safety first

Answer 2

Relax, Nikki...

I am not a grunt, but I too am a Marine. I am not an infantry expert, but I know what it is like to be out there; been there, done that.

Chances are, he is OK. He is probably very busy and unable to write or use the phone. It happens when Marines are out there. The work "schedule" is erratic, the heat is intense, and the stress level is high. It makes Marines go to sleep whenever they can, because it is a very tiring process.

Believe me, he cares. I promise you that you are all he is thinking about. Stay supportive, stay strong. Remember the sticker: Marine Wife, Toughest Job in the Corps.

No, don't call all kinds of people, because they might tell you someting false and get you needlessly upset. If anything happened to him, the chain of command will ensure that anyone in REDs (spouses, etc.) is notified. It is part of pre-deployment to verify REDs (Record of Emergency Data).

To: LoveMuffins, AceProceed, and NGDBILL...
You are ignorant trash. Renounce your citizenship and leave my Country. I will give you the cash for a one-way plane ticket to the ashtray of your choice, hippie scum.

Answer 3

My husband is infantry too. When he was in Iraq I got a phone call everyday. I talked to him online everyday, except for when the phones were shut down of course! But there are people who don't get phone calls for weeks at a time. I wouldn't stress about it. Maybe he is just on a really long mission. I know guys in my husband's unit that would go on week long missions and would come back once a week to shower and make a phone call. Don't worry, I am sure he is fine.

Answer 4

I'm proud that your husband is doing this for our country, I'm also sorry that those three and I'm sure there will be more that has to cut at you when you have plenty to be concerned with now. I was in the corps also done my 20 and very proud of it. They do get plenty to do even thought it doesn't seam like it at times. Rest assure he is thinking about you as much as you are think about him. My wife used to give me a letter to open each day I was out, just to have something from home it did help. But one has to keep his head in the game and when you have that chance you make the call or write the letters you can.
I had family in WWII and they never told him anything bad that was going on at home, somethings he did not know about until he came home almost 3 yrs later, they just never or any family ever brought it up. They felt he was in a war and needed to deal with that and what ever was going on at home they could handle. Thanks to you and your husband.

Answer 5

I been where you are, my advice is to live your life for yourself, and you kids atm, i dont mean totally forget about your man but you cant just sit around being sad all the time you need to keep yourself occupied with things so you dont worry all the time. You said he tells you he is bord when he calls, just cause he may say that may not mean he is just sitting there bord, most of the time they can not tell you what there doing over there so they just say things like "nothing much" cause they cant get into details. Also depending on his rank he may not be able to call alot, my husband was not able to call hardly any at times, emails were sometimes slow because it was shut down, as well as the out going mail, however my step brother who is way up in rank calls his wife alot more then I got from my husband. There is no reason to feel unloved, i know thats easy to say but truth is im sure he is doing this for his family to support them so you should feel proud. Main thing is you cant live by the phone waiting on him to call, you have to live for you and the kids right now. Keep sending the care packages, emailing, sending letters. Oh and there should be a support group for your husbands group that the wives have, I myself never went because I always felt like the ones in my husbands group were all stuck up but you may like it, they do fun things togeather, play dates for the kids, also you can get info about maybe why he has not called from the head wife sometimes. If you dont know the groups number or wife that is head of it call the base and they should know or online. Good luck.

Answer 6

Your answer is right here: "Hes a marine that's in infantry". He is in a war zone. They aren't in the camp every day. He may very well be deployed to an area where he can't get to a phone. When I was in the Navy and at sea we could not send a letter or make a phone call for two months at a time and we didn't even have a war going on.

I know it's hard, but just be patient. Write him and tell him how much you love him and how much you miss him. Leave out the obsessing about his not writing.

Answer 7

Hey:

It's pretty common to have that occur. My source below pretty much explains how I know that.

The guys are really, really busy over there right now. Many (like my son) are out in the boonies chasing down the bad guys and phones are few to be found. In some instances, he won't even be authorized to use one if it was available.

If you are still concerned, here's what I suggest. Go talk to the Chaplain. He will truly help you and he has lines of communication to check on status of your husband. Doesn't matter whether you attend church regularly or are not very religious. The Chaplain is there to help and I promise you he will.

Thank you for being the partner of an American hero.

Answer 8

He is fine. If he were hurt you would be notified within 24 hrs. That is MC policy. He is very busy there. Mail is slow and the phones are satellite. They go down a lot, or he has to share with many other Marines. If you want call your key wife and tell here you haven't heard from him in a while. Word will get to him.

Answer 9

I know its hard but try to stay possitive. You are his wife and I am sure that as soon as he can he will send a letter or call. If anything , you would have been contacted. Try your best not to worry. Just keep sending him your letters and emails. Don't listen to cowards posting rude lameness. Be strong sweetie.

To the pencil d*ck um let see of the 400,000 iraqi people you are talking about and blaming Bush and our soldiers, those civilians were being killed by their own people long before we got there, while we are there now and we are there trying to help them and catch the dingholes that are doing it to them. Why don't you make yourself busy by sitting on a fat one. A*s*S* ALERT!!!!!

Answer 10

Hey hun, who's he with? My husband's over there too and has been gone for a month. Dont be to hard on him... It takes two weeks for a letter to get to you, and infantry really does not have time to call. It has nothing to do with you. If you need anything email me. God Bless and Semper Fi.

Edit: how funny it is our husbands are not only in the same Company, but the same Platoon! I'm glad a I met you, and you know you can rely on me for anything! Keep your head up girl, we're in this together!

Answer 11

You need to understand if his unit is actively participating in an operation he is not allowed to mail letters or make phone calls. Second even if he is allowed to write letters they are screened by the military before they are forwarded to you. Finally the military is not known for the quickest mail service. In fact there have been hundreds of stories of loved ones returning home from deployments before there letters arrive. So do not take it so personal and realize you freaking out at home over minor things like this will not help him concentrate on the difficult job he has to do.