I was just getting out of school today and I had missed my bus. I called my mom and asked her to come get me. When she picked me up we started home and I was telling her about my day. She hit the breaks to stop and she reended another car while I was talking. I told her to tell the police that I was the one driving and to tell the insurance company that it was me that was driving not her. Now I feel guilty and that it was all my fault. Why am I feeling this way
Now I feel like I dont deserve to ride in a car. I dont deserve my permit, and I dont deserve to get a red 4x4 red four door truck.
2007-08-16 11:36:40 · 9 answers · asked by Megan H 2 in Cars & Transportation ➔ Insurance & Registration
It's the drivers business to pay attention.
Talking isn't enough to distract a good driver.
If she wasn't looking, it's her fault, not yours.
Don't go buying someone elses guilt.
There'll be enough that you do deserve later.
Enjoy the red 4x4.
2007-08-16 20:49:18 · answer #1 · answered by Irv S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Car accidents can be very stressful. It's normal to think afterwards what we could have done differntly to change the circumstances of the loss. What if I was doing this? Maybe I shouldn't have done that. A vehicle striking another vehicle is very emotional. Remember that this was an accident. No one intended to hit anyone. Even the best of us, mothers, fathers, friends, cousins, who ever you are, have moments they wish they could take back. The fact is, you can't. Don't try to. Move forward with the feeling that no one was injured and that it could have been a lot worse and thanfully you are around to post the question to us so that we can try and help you feel better. These are life's challenges. If you really want to get deep, I think these challenges make us stronger and better people. From this point forward, you'll be more cautious when driving a car. You may look at your family differently and your friends. Be thankful for what you have and that both you and your mom and okay. I've been in the insurance industry long enough and I've seen far worse accidents that I wished I hadn't. I wish you luck and safe driving.
Good luck.
Steven Gross
2007-08-16 23:56:41 · answer #2 · answered by LDS4LIFE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what the point was of you mentioning the truck but I'll tell you this... your moms insurance would go up if it was you or her driving, & just because you were talking does NOT make you responsible for the accident. As an adult driving becomes second nature. You do things with out thinking about them. Now there may have been some reason that your mother wasn't as keen as she probably normally is but none of that had to do with you & we all make mistakes. Just be thankful no one got hurt, and you had insurance. It wont be the last time something in life gets screwed up so its better you learn now not to obsess.
2007-08-16 22:08:59 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its clear that you feel that if you wouldn't have missed the bus, your mother wouldn't have had to come and get you. Then you further contributed it with the fact that you were a possible distraction at the time of the accident. However, there is no reason to feel guilty, you didn't get in a purpose, you got into an accident. They happen, its all a part of life. Its better that you take this into consideration for the day when you actually get to drive by yourself and remember to not be distracted while driving, specially by friends that maybe in the car. Don't fret don't worry all things will be fine, accidents happen, and all things happen for a reason.
2007-08-16 22:36:00 · answer #4 · answered by schr91 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother was driving, it is her fault for hitting another car. Lying to the insurance company will not change anythng, in fact it makes both of you guilty of insurance fraud. Now concerning the red truck, I cannot see how you deserve that. Don't take it personally. No newly-licensed kid does.
2007-08-16 18:45:16 · answer #5 · answered by Me again 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many accidents are caused by too much stuff going on in a car while driving...talking, goofing off, etc.
Take this as a lesson learned...driving is a serious business that requires your full attention.
I just hope your mom didn't take your advice and lie to the police.
2007-08-16 18:44:36 · answer #6 · answered by krooser2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Megan, don't feel guilty. If your mother was driving and not paying attention to what she was doing, that's NOT YOUR FAULT!! It is HER responsibility to pay attention to what the car and others around her were doing.
It is natural to assume that because you were nattering away about your day and she was listening to you to feel that somehow YOU were at fault. As I said, it is her total responsibility that she had an accident.
Get over it; go see a psychiatrist if you feel that guilty, but again- IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT!!! Good luck!
2007-08-16 18:46:11 · answer #7 · answered by Kiffin # 1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom failed to control the car, not you. If she was having a hard time concentrating, she should have asked you to stop talking to her. You need to learn not to blame yourself for other people's mistakes. Just remember this accident when you start driving. Let it be a reminder that you should not let anything break your concentration when you are behind the wheel.
2007-08-16 19:13:12 · answer #8 · answered by lj1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why it was ma that wasn't paying attention to what she was doing
2007-08-16 18:46:04 · answer #9 · answered by goat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋