I broke up with this guy last month. And the last time I talked to him was at the end of July. He had his number changed. Ok fine, that was the end of that. I had no other way of contacting him. I did not know where he lived ( and that's a long story behind that ) or what office he worked at. So I had no way of contacting him. But yesterday I receive a restraining order summons to appear in court from him, that was filed on the 8th of August. It said that I was threatening to pay his wife and kids a visit, and that I threatened to slash his tires and was sending letters to his job. And threatening text messages. Which are all not true. Once he had his number changed that was it. I literally had no way of contacting him and was moving on with my life. On this summons was his address and a second address scratch out with one line. Which I thought was pretty stupid because now I know where you live, duh. But I have no intentions of going to his house.... But he lied. Why did he do this!!!
2007-08-16 11:00:31 · 10 answers · asked by TopContributorModerator 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
I mean why did he file a false order of protection against me, making up all those lies, and what should I do. Is this going to be on my record. Do I have to appear in court because I really dont want to see him. I am worried and I just dont get why he did that.
2007-08-16 11:02:25 · update #1
Some of you are so fkcing dumb...HAvent you ever heard of a man lying about his marital status. hello dummies it happens all the time, and that is what happened hear. I dont have to explain the whole story to you. But me dating a married man has nothing to with why he did this. Once he got his number changed, he should have left well enough alone. Talk that shhh to someone else.
2007-08-16 11:15:23 · update #2
DAMMIT YOU ALL CAN NOT READ. OK HE FILED THE SUIT ON 8-8-2007 AND THE LAST TIME I TALKED TO HIM WAS 7-31-2007 AND I WAS NOT THREATENING HIM, GEEZ. THIS IS WHY I AM PUZZLED. HE SAID ON HIS SUIT THAT I CALLED YESTERDAY, WHICH WOULD HAVE MADE IT 8-7-2007, RIGHT....I DONT HAVE HIS NEW NUMBER. I HAD NOT SPOKEN TO HIM SINCE JULY....DAMN DAMN DAMN. I AM SO DEAD SERIOUS HERE. HE DOES NOT HAVE ANY REASON TO FILE A RESTRAINING ORDER AGAINST ME, I DID NOT DO ANYTHING. WHY WOULD HE LIE LIKE THIS IS MY QUESTION
2007-08-16 11:37:26 · update #3
TO THE COP, ABSOLUTELY. AND I WILL FILE A COUNTERSUIT AGINST HIM FOR THESE LIES. WHY THE HELL WOULD HE DO THIS TO ME
2007-08-16 11:40:27 · update #4
BECAUSE YOU ARE A THREAT TO HIS LIVELY HOOD. NOW DON'T FLY OFF THE HANDLE. THINK . IF HIS WIFE WAS TO FIND OUT WHAT DO YOU THINK WILL HAPPEN?SO HE'S DONE THIS SO AS HIS WAY OF PROTECTING HIS LIVELYHOOD. IT MAKES HIM LOOK TO HIS WIFE LIKE YOUR THE ONE MAKING THE ADVANCES AND HE'S THE ONE TRYING TO PUSH YOU AWAY. HIS WIFE MAY HAVE FOUND OUT AND HE'S TRYING TO PUT IT ALL BACK ON YOU. MAKE SENCE...
2007-08-21 17:09:24 · answer #1 · answered by thumper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Another one of his many 'friends' is probably harassing him and he thinks it's you or even someone using your name. It will be nice to get it cleared up and make up. No sense having ill will on either side. It clogs the brain like clots clog the arteries. Oh, what a relief it is. To leave Difficult World, where everything is difficult, just say, "I live in Easy World, where everything is easy." You don't have to click your heals or anything. Can I offer some advice? You have to study all your life and here's a site with some real good free ebooks. A word to the wise. trans4mind and you will get some worthwhile people in your life. The new information science is finding out that they don't have in the schools yet. It's necessary to keep up as things are changing fast and stress just keeps going up. luv
2007-08-16 13:53:16 · answer #2 · answered by hb12 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is either paraniod (aluminum hat wearer), a fool, or up to something!
You say you did not know where he lived, but the restraining order gave you that information! Now WHY would he give you this information after the fact?
He is either very dumb ... or very SMART! Dumb says he is "purging his soul of sin", SMART says he is planning an "accident" for his current old lady, and needs a "fall guy" (queue dramatic music)
THAT WOULD BE YOU HONEY!
He puts the whack on his old lady, and shows "proof" that you had an axe to grind and his address! Do I need to draw you a picture?
He winds up free of his current old lady, and YOU! You wind up as a "person of interest" in the death of the current "Mrs. Scumbag" and he is free as a bird, spending the insurance money on the next potential "Mrs. Scumbag".
Plain as the nose on your face, it's a set up friend!
2007-08-16 18:21:17 · answer #3 · answered by ornery and mean 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he had to do this to convince his wife that your are just some crazy weirdo..that's what married, evil cheating men do. Join the club. Some guy did something like this to me but I didn't initially know that he was married. I thought he was single and that I was very lucky to meet a nice, single, upstanding man like him. He told me he was a Baptist and believed in God and the 2nd amendment, and yada yada. I had no idea he was a married, cheating man.
He's probably trying to hide the truth from his wife. He sounds like a con artist and a manipulator, making himself look like the victim when he is really the bad guy here.
2007-08-16 11:05:10 · answer #4 · answered by anothercrazyho 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If a restraining order is granted, it has to tell you where he lives and works. that is the only way you no where you can't go. I have to agree with the answer that said he is afraid of his wife. Nothing else makes sense to me.
2007-08-16 13:03:20 · answer #5 · answered by STEVEN F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can trace the problem back to yourself for getting together with a married man like that. Have some decency and you won't run into these types of problems.
Bad people tend to deal with other bad people, so don't complain when you run into a bad person while in the process of being a bad person yourself.
2007-08-16 11:08:26 · answer #6 · answered by pinchhazard 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When his wife found out, she was VERY PISSED OFF. She forced him into doing this and wants to destroy your life like she thinks you did to hers.
Go ahead and contest it and have them show some proof. The burden lies on them. If you don't, it is on your record and some jobs are no out of reach for you and so is weapon ownership.
2007-08-16 11:27:59 · answer #7 · answered by California Street Cop 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the District Attorney in your county. If he made false statements, he can be charged with filing a false police report. If the allegations are false, you can sue him for libel.
2007-08-16 11:04:46 · answer #8 · answered by regerugged 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
any time you lower your self to go out with another women's husband then there's always going to be trouble. let this be a life lesson. i don't mean to be rude but i just cant find any sympathy for you.
2007-08-16 11:11:11 · answer #9 · answered by BLOODHOUND 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because he is a jerk. forget it and move on with your life.
2007-08-20 17:51:23 · answer #10 · answered by luciousgreeneyedlady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋