This is an email I got from my EX BF. I told him I couldn't be "just friends" and that I wanted to work things out. What does it mean to you??? The last line sounds like he is still holding onto hope of working out stuff later.
"I will for apologize for anything I might have said that was mean or wrongful to say. The emotions are very high between the both us at this time, and things are said that shouldn’t be said.I understand that you can’t wait forever on our relationship. I will say thank you for this weekend, I enjoyed every bit of it, and it was great! I really don’t know, nor will I ever understand, why we love each other so strongly, but yet turn around and hurt each others feelings with stupid things, it don’t make much sense to me. I have a lot of love for you and I always will, who knows maybe the answer will come out later, maybe not..."
2007-08-16 10:54:17 · 30 answers · asked by starryeyed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds to me like you two are holding onto something that you once had, but is no longer there. Trust is the base of any relationship, if you don't have trust, there will be no relationship. It sounds like you two both care about each other, but obviously not enough to stop playing games with each other. Get out, get out and away from this situation as soon as you can. Sure it will be hard, but there is always someone else out there.
Remember the saying...................
Boys are not worth crying over and the one who is, won't make you cry.
2007-08-16 11:01:06 · answer #1 · answered by cdc92281 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
good thing I can translate teen-boy!
I will for apologize for anything I might have said that was mean or wrongful to say. - He's sorry. He knows he said something but he can't remember.
The emotions are very high between the both us at this time, and things are said that shouldn’t be said. - For once he really told you how he felt without holding anything back. He also knows you did the same. Sometimes the truth hurts.
I understand that you can’t wait forever on our relationship. - He doesn't want to string you along. He can't give you what you think you need from him in the relationship.
I will say thank you for this weekend, I enjoyed every bit of it, and it was great! - He had fun with you this weekened.... but it really doesn't change anything between you two.
I really don’t know, nor will I ever understand, why we love each other so strongly, but yet turn around and hurt each others feelings with stupid things, it don’t make much sense to me. - He can't figure out why when you like each other so much you say and/or do things that seem to be only to hurt the other.
I have a lot of love for you and I always will, who knows maybe the answer will come out later, maybe not... - He will always have a special place in his heart for you.. but for now.. you and the relationship is just now what he needs/wants right now. Maybe later - after he has had time to grow a little more and you have had time to grow as well. then maybe you will both learn why you hurt each other so deeply each time. But until then.. you both need to live your own lives and go your own way.
2007-08-16 11:05:43 · answer #2 · answered by .... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a really nice "let down" letter. I mean, if you're STILL not together AFTER it, then that should give you your answer.
His letter is very nice, concillatory. He's trying not to upset you by telling you some truth, mixed just some standard things a guy would say to let you down easy. For example...
"I understand that you can't wait forever on our relationship. I will say thank you for this weekend..."
Well, well, what's missing here? He didn't add to the first sentence "so let's try to work it out." Or even "so let's give it a week and then talk about it." He went right on to thanking your for some time you spent together and how much he appreciated it. Doesn't sound like a make-up is pending. Just that he's stating fact.
"I have a lot of love for you and I always will..."
Yeah, doesn't mean that he wants to come back to you. He's still stating fact.
"...who knows maybe the answer will come out later, maybe not..."
How much clearer can he be? He doesn't know why you guys are drawn to each other, and he not sure if the reason will ever be known. Still doesn't even remotely say anything about you getting back together to figure it out, though.
Try to move on. I know this is a hard process, sometimes it's a long one, too. Let this guy's nice note be the end of it. Cherish that you had a really cool dude who isn't a jerk and wants everything to be fine with you even though he's not with you. Who knows, you two may reconcile, but it doesn't seem like that time is now.
2007-08-16 11:07:19 · answer #3 · answered by dangerouspoet 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Whether or not you understand the meaning of the last line, he's clearly saying he still loves you. I think it's a classic case of you can't live with or without each other. I'd email him back to ask him what he means by the last line. You don't want to let your mind run away with you trying to work out what it means, cos you could be way off and end up getting hurt again. You's need to communicate without rhymes and riddles.
2007-08-16 11:01:40 · answer #4 · answered by Introverted extrovert 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to sit down with him and hav a very candid discussion. Let him know where you stand and what are your expectations. Let him know that you're looking for longevity and all the petty immaturity needs to stop. Find out from him what he really wants, what are his intentions and where is he looking to go in the relationship. Does he intend to keep treating you like one of his friends, or is he willing to step it up and start behaving like a REAL MAN who genuinely loves and appreciates his girl and who's not afraid to show it through his actions.
2007-08-16 11:43:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I needed more details before answering this question. So I went to your profile and looked at passed questions you have asked. Its clear to me and my assistant that this guy is no longer interested in being with you as far as a relationship. He is still interested in having Sex with you when its convenient for him. Sex is always the last thing to stop in a relationship. The best advise to you is to stop seeing him completely and ignore his calls and attempts to see you. If you don't you are only stringing out this heartbreak longer than it should be. Hes only keeping you around until something better comes along and when it does you are getting the boot. You can do better for youself.
2007-08-16 11:07:24 · answer #6 · answered by funkyballs 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes sometimes. But it usually only bothers me when Im having a good conversation with them and they take like 10 or 15 minutes to respond to my text. It irritates me a little :P
2016-05-20 16:43:28 · answer #7 · answered by juanita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he would like to be with you, but is doubting if it woud work or not.
I think you should propose the idea of "re-getting to know each other"
As in you will not date, just be friends. If you still contstantly argue and things, it isn't meant to be. But, if you find yourself having a good time with each other (not in a physical way) and liking one anothers company, you may have a chance. He will realize this, too.
And just remember, treat him like you would want to be treated.
Best of luck!
2007-08-16 10:59:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He still and believes that you strongly love each other.He also realize that it is only stupid thing makes you separate,he is still with the hope that one day you'll be together again.
2007-08-16 11:09:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
From what I read, he doesn't think he can commit to your right now. Perhaps there are other things going on in his life, or maybe he's just not ready for a relationship. Give him time :]
2007-08-16 10:59:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋