My dad died last week, how can I get over the grief?

Question

Everyone in my family says I"m too sensitive. and my mom gets mad when she sees me crying. she hated him

Answer 1

I'm sorry for your loss. You have every right to grieve. You have to, or you'll never move on and become all that you can be.

As for your mom...we all have them, and believe it or not, she is also grieving. However, she has no right to attempt to control your emotions.

You need a support system. If possible, seek counseling.

One group is Adult Children of Alcoholics. Don't let the name throw you, in case there is no alcohol involved.

You'll be shocked at the dysfunctional family issue you'll be exposed to. Also books on co-dependency, may also help.

Don't try to get over the grief, it's like trying to run on a broken leg. You're injured, and the injury has to heal.

Try some of these suggestions, and know you're not alone.

God Bless.

Answer 2

You are NOT TOO sensitive!!! You loved him...I am 53 years old and I still cry over my mom dying...And that was 8 yrs ago.
It doesn't matter how old you are, that was your daddy. Just as she was my mommy... A piece of your heart went to heaven without you,
But the good news is Your Daddy is saving you a very special place.
I truly beleive that we will see our loved ones when "our job here is thru."
And it will be a grand meeting!!! And it will be worth all the tears we had shed.
So just take comfort that your Dad is watching over you and he knows your sorrow..But he was a good and loving Dad and he would not want you to make yourself suffer too long.. Go to a counselor at school, or your Pastor and ask for help in dealing with the grief you feel.. And don't worry about anyone who doesn't understand... Some people just don't feel it as deeply.
We all need a hand sometimes...
Bless you
Luka

Answer 3

It's a natural feeling your having and for anyone to say other wise is wrong, you need to release or it can turn into something negative, it's not about being sensitive it's about someone naming your dad is someone you spent and grew alot from, most people don't realize what they have till it's gone and not saying you, the pain your having seems like your having for everyone they are all mad and bitter and your trying to keep your head up but to cry is your release and it takes alot for a person to cry if you get mad or are just arrogant is most natural responses as defensiveness you take the time you need noone can tell you how long it can last to be honest it's been 17 years for me and theres not a day that goes by that I don't think of her or cry for her or to her, but you have make sure your life is not consumed by this....Live and Love Life To The Fullest And Never Let Noone Ever Put You Down!!!!! HOPE THIS HELPS

Answer 4

No, you are not to sensitive, i think it's called being human, cry if that helps, i lost my mom about 4 yr ago, and i still cry about now, sometimes crying helps, just always keep in mind that you're dad is in a better place, always remember all the good times you had. And even tough it might not seem like it, eventually it wont hurt as bad, you just need time to grief that's all.

Answer 5

I am so sorry that your Mother isn't more understanding. Your relationship with your Father is YOUR relationship. You have ever right to love him and also, to mourn him however you feel. In fact, if you don't do so, you will hold in feelings that could cause you trouble in your future relationships. It would seem that you must mourn without your Mother's help, BUT by all means, do mourn, as it;'s the only way to get over it. You will always love your Father and no one can take away your right to have good memories of him. My advice to you dear, is to cry and cry, until you can't cry any more. It helps to get that pain out. I lost my Mother when I was 13, and it was hard. My Dad did not want me to cry, so I understand what you're going through. I will say a prayer for you, that you will be comforted.

Answer 6

OMG I am so sorry ok well first if you need to cry and I don't blam you because losing a familey member is a hard time go into your room or the bathroom where ever where your mother won't see you and also it's not your falt you cry your mom don't understand that he is your father you loved him

and also remember that he is in a happier place with no hatride and meaness he is happy now

and try remembering the good days where you and him where having a good time and smiling and having fun and spending time toghter
and also youi can talk to anyone of your friends or someone who is close to you like a aunt or teacher but not yuor mom she is jyust mean

Good luck with feeling better
ALways Keep Smiling trough everything


Missy,

Answer 7

You are a normal sensitive girl - not too sensitive, for sure ... your mom is insensitive ... it sounds like she has no heart (sorry to say that). My dad died 32 years ago and I still see him in my dreams and cry looking at his photos.

Do what your heart tells you to do. Again - you are a good person no matter what the other people say. It's only time will make your emotional wound not as sharp. But if you loved your dad, you may have the wound many many years ahead.

Answer 8

The loss of a parent is one of the most painful things that a person will go through. Regardless of how old you are or how dependent on that parent you were, or even how much you liked them at the time of their death, there is an innate sense of loss that will remain with you for the rest of your life. it is perfectly normal and healthy to express your sadness through tears. Everyone expresses themselves differently and perhaps your mom's anger is her way of expressing the pain that she is feeling. It has only been a week so it's hard to believe that the pain gets more bearable, but it does, slowly.
My heart goes out to you. I suggest you find a caring adult or friend who can objectively listen to how you feel, let you cry, or just quietly be there for you.

Answer 9

First of all, I am sorry for your loss.
I don't know what it is to loose a father but when the day comes, I will seek the Lord to help me with my sadness. I know that my father will be in a better place and that I will see him again. I know that I have spent time with him and have told him that I love him every time I see him, so I would have no regrets.
Seek the Lord with all your heart. Ask God to guide you and give you strength each passing day and to heal the hole in your heart. You have to take it one day at a time. If you need to cry, do so in your own privacy so that your mother doesn't have anything negative to say to you.
She needs to put her anger aside and comfort you because the man you both lost is still your father no matter what. God will guide you and your mother. Let her know that she can get on with her life if only she can forgive him. That is up to her. Mean while, read the Bible, everyday if you can. It will help you with anything that you are going through. You just have to Believe and have Faith in God.
I will also say a prayer for you. -God Bless.

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Answer 10

I am so sorry for the loss of your father. Your mother's behaviour is inappropriate and inexcusable. Grief is a long process and you will not get over the loss of a parent quickly. You need to explain to your mother that you and she had very different relationships with this man. Your mother, knew him as a husband and she obviously harbours a great deal of resentment towards him. You, however, knew him as a father. The relationships of husband/wife and father/daughter are very different and your mother must recognize this. While she is angry at the man, you are dealing with the loss of your father. I hope your mother can gain some insight into this before she ruins a relationship with you.