my gf (who is the hottest girl in my school) keeps on asking me if we could have sex but we're only turning 18soon... so what should i do?should i really have sex with her?but im not ready yet....well some of my friends think its a great idea but some are just like thats gross.
2007-08-16 09:13:52 · 59 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont listen to what anyone says dont do anything until your ready. So if you know 100% that your ready go ahead but if u have even 1% doubt dont. Its not like your ganna die if you dont, just take your time you'll enjoy it a lot more if your doing it when your ready than when your pressured into it.
2007-08-16 09:18:12 · answer #1 · answered by Mr.K 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Listen, even if she is the hottest girl on school, if you're not ready, then you're not ready. Do you want to look back in years to come and think that you lost your virginity because some girl that you were seeing and no longer have contact with practically forced you into it?
Remember, your experience of losing your virginity can affect your future relationships. You don't want to cause problems in a relationship in the future that could lead to something special because of some girl when you are 18.
Explain to her that you aren't ready, and if she continues to push you, then you need to decide if you really want to be in a relationship where you are constantly under pressure.
Sure, some guys at your school may think you're crazy for turning down the opportunity, but how realistic is it that you will still be in contact with a lot of them when you want to settle down and get married? Your opinion is more important, and you need to feel comfortable with the person you first have sex with...
I waited until I was 20. I am now 23, married to my first sexual partner, we have a 3 month old son, and we are still as happy as the day we met. If I had succumed to pressure, I may not be were I am now..... I am so happy I waited and was able to make my husband feel so special that I waited for him! There is no greater gift!
Good luck, take care, and follow your heart!
2007-08-16 09:23:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are not ready. So many young people jump in to sex. Great for you. Sex can be wonderful when you are ready. Not being responsible can cause an unwanted baby and marriage before you are ready. You can contract sexual
disease also. Your first time should be special and with somone you want to be with for a long time. Be careful and do the right thing. You will be happy you did.
2007-08-16 09:39:44 · answer #3 · answered by sandra g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not ready, of course the "responsible" answer would be to wait. But do we know we are really ready for these kinda things anyway? Almost all of my first experiences have been bad and I did it just to get it out of the way and I don't regret it. I mean, it's a life experience, not many people decide they want to risk drowning in order to learn to swim, i don't think all the toddlers in those swimming classes are ready to be there but once you get it out of the way, it doesn't seem like that big of a deal anymore.
Can I ask you why you aren't ready?
2007-08-16 09:20:43 · answer #4 · answered by Weird guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex not occur before:
1. You are ready to deal with a pregnancy, should it occur
2. You are ready to deal with an STD, should it occur
3. When you know how a woman can become pregnant (all the ways it can occur)
4. When you know what the various STDs are and how they are transmitted and how to help protect against them
5. When you are ready to insist your partner wear a condom (female) or insist that you wear one (male)
6. When you are on a reliable form of birth control and using it properly (female) or ensure that she is (male)
7. When you are ready to deal with any emotional issues that may come from being intimate with another person
Until you've got those things covered, you should not have sex.
2007-08-16 09:18:34 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready, just tell her. But I must say that you need to be prepared for the possibility that if you don't have sex with her, she might find someone else who will be more than glad to (especially if she is the hottest girl in school)!
2007-08-16 09:20:44 · answer #6 · answered by ♥chicks♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not ready then don't do it and if she can't understand and respect that you don't need to be with someone like that. Sex is not all is caked up to be especially when you're young. There are so many reprocussions that can come along with it that you may not be ready for as well. Go at your own pace . Good luck
2007-08-16 09:19:41 · answer #7 · answered by TheDramz24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well thats odd i thought you a (guy) would be asking her to have sex... well to tell you the truth this is your life you want your first time having sex to be great and YOU want to feel ready so i suggest you dont because your obviously not ready and its just going to feel weird .... so what if she dumps you she isnt right for you if she is forcing you
hope i helped
laurena
2007-08-16 09:19:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have 17 year old friends that think sex is gross???? Whatever....anyways, you should wait till your ready, but at the same time, dont wait too long or your girl will sleep with one of your friends that is ready
2007-08-16 09:18:29 · answer #9 · answered by leprechaun3833 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you really think your not ready then theirs no rush, you have the rest of your life for that kind of drama, that is unless you die tomarrow, god forbid. but if you do decide to have sex take it for me talk about it before because sex changes EVERYTHING in a relationship EVERYTIME. so if you think your ready make sure your really ready. the first time can be kind of scary and its always bad so dont be discouraged.
2007-08-16 09:20:51 · answer #10 · answered by Sha Sha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋