In the last week my boyfriend and I have been fighting constantly. We love each other, but the other day we were talking and he mentioned starting school and "what's gonna happen then" We haven't been seeing eachother a lot lately and he said that he thinks we're going to grow apart and eventually break up... I'm starting to see what he meant about growing apart because he used to call me everynight before i went to bed, now we barely have time to even talk and when i do see him he usually ends up having something to do. It used to be that he would always want me to stay longer than i could. is it time for both of us to move on? I don't wanna break up with him because I'm in love with him but I think he feels differently... Any ideas?
2007-08-16 08:55:29 · 15 answers · asked by bee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
unfortunately the stress in going to school and every thing else has put distance between you two..
It would be better for the both of you to break it off and let each other deal with your own situations. If things smooth up and you start to talk again.. then get back together..
2007-08-16 08:59:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just got out of a 3 year relationship with a guy that went to a different college than me that was like this....for about 2 of the three years. Things used to be great. We were so close, things were perfect....and it eventually turned into us fighting, him distancing himself from me slowly but surely.
The thing is, you can make things work-- but you both have to WANT to. If he's already having doubts, and already backing out before you're even in the situation, it doesn't seem like a good sign.
If you're already noticing that he's calling less and isn't doing all that he can to see you, if I were you, I would let him go.....It will save you a lot of hurt in the future. I'm not saying that you couldnt make things work, but who wants to have a boyfriend that makes them feel like they arent important enough?
Like I said, I've gone through 2 years of listening to excuses...of always being the one who visits him at school and him never visiting me....of phone calls that insisted of him saying he didn't feel like talking. After awhile, you get tired of feeling like you aren't worth it to him.
I know you love him, but you know what, being with someone who doesn't love you the way you need to be loved, is WAY lonelier than being single.
I hope everything works out for you!
2007-08-16 16:03:07 · answer #2 · answered by autumn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what I would do if I were you would move on. Not necessarily "move on completely away". But maybe just take some time apart, until the two of you can establish a better schedule for spending time together.
This happened with my xbf, we broke up because I had more time to do what I wanted to do, and he worked 24/7. It became difficult for us and put a lot of pressure on our relationship. I wanted it to work out but he started accusing me of things that weren't happening when I'd go hang out with my girl friends, or my family. He grew insecure and possessive.
I believe it can work for some couples if you're willing to work at it. If he is willing to make it work, you can dedicate a day for the two of you to spend time together. But he seems to want to focus on school right now. Talk with him, see if there's anything he wants to do to save the relationship, if not then it may be time to move on.
=)
2007-08-16 16:02:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am in the same boat with you me and my gf have been to geather for about 4 years now. i feel like she does not want to be with me. when we are around her mom and dad she never huges me are gives me a kiss. but when we are around my mom and dad she huges me gives me a kiss. i love her with all of my heart i want to hang out all the time she does not. she used to call eveyr night and now its if she rembers. i do not want to loose her at all. i am not sure what to do she tells me every thing is ok and that she loves me. i have asked her how come she does not give me a hug are any thing in front of her mom and dad. she said that they are not like that they do not say that they love each other at all. what should i do i cant handol looseing her at all.
2007-08-16 16:04:40 · answer #4 · answered by sad man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its meant to be you 2 will find your way back to each other! keep in contact, but be willing to date other people and see if everything you think is so great about him really is...
2007-08-16 15:59:17 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I beleive you answered the question yourself.
Its already over dear. Time to move on. He isnt going to tell you.
2007-08-16 16:00:45 · answer #6 · answered by philip_jones2003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say, but girl is time to let him go. You can't have somebody by your side, if he is showing that doesn't want to be with you any more.
Be strong, if he is the man for you he will come back. trusth me....
2007-08-16 16:03:36 · answer #7 · answered by Be-yu-tiful Princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're still young, move on and see the world
2007-08-16 15:59:38 · answer #8 · answered by DRIVER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to him and tell him how your feeling. and if he wont make time for you, then you should break up and find a better guy
2007-08-16 16:00:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
visit him just need to spend time with him or @ least move to the next level
2007-08-16 16:01:05 · answer #10 · answered by weddy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋