2007-08-16 08:39:47 · 28 answers · asked by helens 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
it depends on the level of disagreement you are at. If your husband is adament that he doesn't want anymore kids it is going to be pretty hard to try to make him think otherwise. you need to sit down and talk to him about your reasons for wanting more and his for not. Do you have enough income to do it. Would you have to stop working to stay home with the child or do you have daycare in mind. Those are things that you have to think about when deciding to have more. Sure, it would be nice to have another one but can you really do it together. If it is going to cause resentment between the two of you then I would lay off of the subject for awhile and see if in the future he changes his mind. In the mean time focus on the ones you have.
2007-08-16 08:53:25 · answer #1 · answered by hazeleyes1279 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get family counseling. This is not a simple issue. You have to find out what are the motives behind each decision: to have more children or not to have any more. A child's life is at stake, not just your feelings. A third party (professional counselor) can help you sort it out.
(I am shocked at all the stupid heartless answers you received. Why are these people on the forum?)
2007-08-16 08:53:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your relationship but if theres anything Ive learned that theres a good chance in time hell come around. For argument sake mention that you do most of the work anyhow. Good luck, this ones really dependent on your relationship dynamic - in mine Id just pester and hed eventually see way but some men are more stubborn. Be sure to tell him how important it is to you. Ask him to sit and talk, tell him you need to at least tell him why its important to you before he shuts the door on it. Try to reason with him.
2007-08-16 08:50:01 · answer #3 · answered by kittycat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should discuss it rationally as adults.. Give pro's and con's of having another child.. Be realistic and set goals..
Are you financially stable.. Are you able to work? Do the both of you work already? Childcare expenses, housing, clothing etc.. Having children in this day and age isn't cheap and he may just be rational about NOT having anymore.. How close in age are your children.. How old are you as compared to your husband.. etc.... That sort of discussion..
2007-08-16 08:45:37 · answer #4 · answered by pebblespro 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-10 09:05:01 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you haven't already, You need to sit down with him and have an in depth convo. with him! Don't pull this oops I got pregnant. It should be a dissension between the both of you! You need to look at his views of why he doesn't want children and he needs to look at your views of why you do want more children. That is what it really comes down to, how you both feel about it together!
2007-08-16 08:58:38 · answer #6 · answered by luckykitty8304 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the one that wants more children must always give in to the one that doesn't.
Don't get pregnant "by accident". I know a marriage that ended when a woman did that.
If you're having baby lust try a puppy to satisfy it.
2007-08-16 08:44:50 · answer #7 · answered by Sean 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ideal time to talk about this would have been before you became life partners. The general way to handle it is to wait until everyone agrees. Maybe your DH would be open to foster care.
2007-08-16 09:04:22 · answer #8 · answered by Question Addict 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like me and my wife. You need to sit down and go over what eachothers pros and cons are for having more children. It needs to be a joint decision. It may take a long time for one of you to change your mind.
2007-08-16 08:44:28 · answer #9 · answered by RC 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
get a dog
or one of you will have to give in
cant have it both ways
I suggest asking him why he doesnt want more kids
maybe there is an issue at hand that doesnt have anything to do with kids
2007-08-16 08:43:18 · answer #10 · answered by babydoll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋