I'm talking about someone could be from work or meetings or random and that person is always wanting to shake hands with you or touch your shoulders or arms. Especially, if it's from the same sex. I'm a guy and I hate it when guys to that to me. This one guy at work kept wanting to shake hands everytime I say something he agrees with. Why's he do that? And I dont ' want to be impolite by not shaking back.
2007-08-16 08:28:24 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
To be frank and honest, not at all. In my case most people would still not love to touch anybody whatsoever.
2007-08-23 13:50:37 · answer #1 · answered by salimdist 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are people who would never touch a stranger, or be touched by one; however, some people are very outgoing and friendly and are more expressive. You can certainly feel if the person is sincere when shaking hands, by the way the person reacts if you are the one initiating it, or if the person is negative, has a lot of initiative, or is a "follower" rather than a leader, Those are the positive aspects of hand shaking. Now, if you are not comfortable with it, perhaps you could just mention it to the guy. The fact that he wants to shake hands when you say something he agrees with does not necessarily mean he has ulterior motives than be supportive. It does not mean either that he has homosexual tendencies and is testing the waters with you ! LOL.
Just be yourself and mention the fact that you would prefer not shaking hands every time he agrees with you.
Have a great week-end.
2007-08-24 06:47:57 · answer #2 · answered by montralia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have huge personal space issues and that drives me crazy! Although, if he does it a lot when he agrees with something you're saying, it could be a cultural thing. I don't know of many people who shake hands to say "yea, that's right, I totally agree!". So I would write it off as something he's used to doing. Its okay to not shake hands all the time. Just find some way to occupy your hands so he can't touch you. Also, if you stand sort of sideways with one foot extended a little, it deters people from getting too close to you and may help with your situation.
2007-08-24 07:18:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's obnoxious. I'm a touchy-feely person, but not with people who are simply aquaintances. I love to hug my friends, etc...but then again, I'm a girl so I guess that makes a difference. My best friend on the other hand hates being touched but I know it's because her parents aren't very loveable with her and she doesn't understand why my parents are always hugging me and telling me they love me. But that guy must just be really friendly or something...I don't know, I usually slap my guy friends around, not shake their hands. Whatever, that guy probably just feels really comfortable around you.
2007-08-16 09:10:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are more touchy than others. He may not realize that this is making you uncomfortable. You could always approach this person in private and say, "Hey Bill, I think it's great that we work together so well. I just wanted to let you know that I'm not super comfortable with touching in the workplace."
2007-08-17 19:18:48 · answer #5 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really like to be touched that much as it is, and when I hardly know them, it makes me a little anxious.
The first day I took my daughter to daycare, the lady that runs it kept rubbing my back and trying to hug me as a way of comforting me. I wasn't really asking to be hugged, and she violated my personal space bubble.
I think some people are just a little more affectionate than others, and enjoy the physical contact.
2007-08-16 08:50:55 · answer #6 · answered by Whooosh! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, since I'm a girl and if a girl kept doing that, that would be creepy. I would be creeped out. But if it is a hot guy, -actually even then I'd be freaked. No. I don't like people touching me, unless it's my close friends.
2007-08-16 08:45:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
different people have different touch zones. a smart touchy person usually knows if you are a touchy person or not. people have different body languages that give clues. i am very touchy and some people like hugs and others i don't go near. i don't like anyone touching my head though. touch my face or hair and i go ballistic.
it is well within your right to suggest that they are making you uncomfortable. nobody should discomfort other people at work. a friend of mine used to say "you are in my bubble" and while it comes off as quirky it worked for him.
2007-08-16 08:40:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't mind when women do it. Guys who do that to other guys are usually exhibiting some kind of dominance behavior and it's a pet peeve of mine. I had a boss once when I was younger who would do the whole shoulder-rub "hey buddy" stuff -- it wasn't a gay thing, it's a paternalistic thing.
2007-08-16 08:38:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It makes me very uncomfortable. Some people just seem to have a different notion of personal space than others.
2007-08-16 10:06:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋