I was with their father for five years, and we split in December. He hasn't spoken to us since then, which has really impacted my daughter a lot. I have a lot more to consider now. When should I let my childern meet a guy I am dating? What type of activities should we do together? Also, how will she feel if it doesn't work out with him...I am pretty confused as you can probably tell. I would appreciate any and all advise. Thank you!
2007-08-16 07:54:09 · 3 answers · asked by Autumn H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go slow, but do date. Play the field for a while until you get your feet wet. Don't introduce the "guy" to the kids until you find one you like and there is a reasonable chance that it may work. Don't hide the kids. Be open and honest and up front. Some guys like a girl with kids and some don't. My daughter was left with two little ones when Charlie was killed in Baghdad a few years ago, and now is living "happily every after". But she shopped a lot and was very picky the second time around. Got a great guy. I didn't like him at first, but I was wrong.
2007-08-16 07:57:42 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dont let your children meet any guys until you get to know him, and feel that he may be around for a while. first thing to try is to meet him at a park or playground, someplace like that. Get there b4 him and start doing activities w/ the kids and have him walk up to you guys and join in the fun. Try to keep your daughter from getting to attached to him, if it doesnt work out, it should be a lot easier on her.
Good Luck
2007-08-16 08:04:10 · answer #2 · answered by DRIVER 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Only introduce this new gentleman to your children after several dates, in order to establish a comfort zone with you and him first. After gettting a feel for him and his feel for your kids, then introduce him to the kids. Things you can all do together is bowling, miniature golf, movies, or visiting a local park. Anything that involves fun and games is a good measuring tool for his interaction with your kids also. The last thing you want to do is to parade a bunch of men in front of your kids. That sends the wrong signal to them about you and as their mother, that would be detrimental to their already changing life. Good luck!
2007-08-16 08:02:42 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. Semi-Evil 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋