Someone I know saw someone for awhile and during that time they they thought it was good, however, it did not last. Over time, they realized that it was wrong and they were used. For whatever reason, they still talk to this person from time to time. It seems pathetic to go back and be on speaking terms with that person and looks like they did not really regret it.
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2007-08-16 07:46:36 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By the way, it is not me on either side.
2007-08-16 07:47:17 · update #1
It was very brief and the person who "regrets" it does not speak very well of the other. I just wonder why keep going back to a person that hurt mistreated you.
2007-08-16 07:58:05 · update #2
It does seem a bit pathetic, on the other hand, I still talk to a guy who told me I was too homely/old/fat to be his date once... so I can't say much. I am not sure why I do still talk to him, I think, because I feel sorry for him. The "pretty, perfect" girl he wanted to go out with, robbed him and nearly killed him, AND gave him crabs... and then I wouldn't take him back either as a boyfriend, so he married a DIFFERENT old, fat, homely woman, who beats up on him...*sigh* hehehehehe roflmao I sure do feel sorry for him, you BET I do. I think I talk to him for the laughs.
2007-08-16 16:38:21 · answer #1 · answered by Baby'sMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think it's pathetic. It sounds like the guy (or girl) turned out to be a player, but maybe he had some good aspects to his personality and continued to at least be friendly. Isn't that much nicer than the kind of user who stabs you through the heart with an icepick. Seriously wouldn't the world be a better place if everyone realized that just because two people messed around and it didn't work out, doesn't mean they can't be friendly after or at least have human decency.
2007-08-16 15:02:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pathetic is such a strong word. Because these two people had a history together, it's hard to let go at times. I'm sure that by being friends, they will come to appreciate one another over time, and no one will use the other. I still talk to my friend who treated me awful in high school. But time passes and people can grow and change. It's not pathetic. That person still sees something good in the other.
2007-08-16 14:54:10 · answer #3 · answered by sandy w 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you break something...and it's not an accident. You try to fix it don't you? You try until it's fixed. . . deep inside this person that regrets it...thinks that the person will ''magically'' be different.
I always hoped that things would be different. I was in the same situation. When I went back about 3 times...I realized the fourth time that this person would always remain this way and that it was just a waste of my energy and emotions having feelings for him. Eventually my mind caught up to my heart and I decided to ditch him for good. . . I'm not going to lie...deep in my heart I hope that when I see him...he wants to be with me still...I guess it's just hope that keeps us around. (fyi we're not even friends anymore)
2007-08-16 15:53:37 · answer #4 · answered by ForeignTerritory 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only speak for myself in this case. I know that when I was younger I had a boyfriend who was cheating on me. The only way I found out is becasue he had gotten another girl pregnant and his cousin told me. We broke up however we remained friends. I think that it is possible to remain friends if you forgive a person. Its not pathetic its sincerity becasue you care and its not necessarily that you want this person back but you might believe that they are better suited for you in a different position. Maybe as a boyfriend/girlfriend they sucked. but as just a friend they are the best. I can see that you are concerned for your friend but like I said its just possible that, that person got over it and forgave instead of harboring animosity
2007-08-16 15:20:47 · answer #5 · answered by baby_phat23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it's not pathetic...some people are better off friends then going out...I know this because it has happened to me...this guy that I went out last year was so awesome and we were friends for a long time so we decided to go out...and it worked for a little while but we both realized that we was not right for each other...we broke up and now we are better friends then we were before we went out...so if you know someone who is like this you really should not think it is pathetic you should just be glad that they still like each other enough to still be friends.
2007-08-16 14:59:07 · answer #6 · answered by kristine_star2008 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People's pasts are a strange thing. The way they handle them is just as strange. Do not, as they say, look through windows. You don't know what the dynamic is, nor why they do it. It is possible that it's just a matter of having forgiven them. It's also possible that it is an extremely unhealthy codependent relationship that could end in a lifetime of therapy. You don't, nor will you most likely ever know, which it is.
Long story short, don't look through windows, and most certainly don't ask us to look through the window you have framed inside of the window you are looking through. The odds of us having even the vaguest insight are infinitesimal.
2007-08-16 14:55:22 · answer #7 · answered by Exosus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not pathetic for them to be on speaking terms. As long as they do not regret it it would be fine. Most people who come apart never speak to each other afterword. It is nice to know some people do.
2007-08-16 14:59:02 · answer #8 · answered by smartdumbgirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not pathetic. Each saw enough good in the other to remain friends.
2007-08-16 14:51:03 · answer #9 · answered by Lady G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be a waste of my precious time to continue hating or disliking that person. It's just easier to be cordial and move on with my own life.
2007-08-16 14:53:34 · answer #10 · answered by jstgrace 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋