Please help, anyone can answer this!! Especailly old "users"?

Question

My brother is living very dangerously, he's a drunk, and to my knowledge very deeply into cocaine.
He's been into drugs since he was 13 and he'd going to be 28 in Feb, but his life is just getting worst and worst. His personality is just disappearing, last time I saw him I barely reconzied him.
He has always had a problem with authority, he gets his back up when I've tried to talk to him before. And down plays and says things like "he used to do cocaine every few hours but, only rarely does it now" which I can't believe....of course." But you can't fight with him.
How can I approach him?? Any suggestions on what to say to reach someone like this?
If there's anyone out there that was steeped in drugs answering....what would you have listened to.
I KNOW I don't have much time with him......everything in me says he's almost reached the end of this lifestyle.....in the bad way. My heart breaks, he's the only sibling I have.

I know he's OD twice and maybe other times....he's pulled through...he was almost beaten to death, rock bottom is 6 ft under for him?

Yeah he's got a court date going, because him and his girlfriend were fitting, she hit him he hit her, he phoned the cops.....etc.etc. it's in the report he'd done a line of cocaine....where do I phone to get a judge to force him into rehab? THe police?

Answer 1

I think you need to get a group of trusted people w/ you and confront him. kind of like a intervention. well, i guess thats what it is. but i mean. i don't have any experience w/ drugs or alcohol. so i wouldn't know what to do. sorry. if all else fails. try to send him to rehab.

Answer 2

Hi Hun. I'm sorry your brother is addicted. But there is little you can do. Alcohol and drugs are more powerful than the love for someone. It happens hundreds of times a day, and the only solution is for him to hit bottom and get help in a rehab. Often he will have to get arrested or almost OD to get the help that he needs. NO ONE wants to be an adddict and ruin their lives. Their psyche is broken and the drugs and alcohol is want helps them with the emotional and mental pain. You can not do anything for him to stop. Just love him and tell him how much you care and how much this hurts you. Tell him you will always be there for him, but can't help him until he wants help. Try some Al-Anon meetings for YOU, so you can better understand the dynamics of addiction and the disease. Because it is a disease. And the brain and body are addicted and can't stop. This urge is more powerful than any emotion. I'm soooo sorry you have to go through this, but you can help yourself by getting into a support group to help you! Call the AA hotline, first listing in the phone book, and ask them were a local meeting is for you. They will even send someone to take you. Once you have a sponsor to talk to everyday, this will help you even more. And you will find a better understanding of the disease and how to help your brother. I wish you the very best. M

Answer 3

Check out Narcotics Anonymous on their website below. One thing they do say, you can't make him want to help himself, he's got to want to do it. At this point, the only way to go is down. Once down, the only way is up. He is not going to stop at this point, no matter who says what to him. It will happen when he hits bottom and by then, he will have no friends, no job, no future, only now. If you really love him and nothing you say can stop him, then the only thing you can do is let him go.

After he hits bottom (trust me, you do not want to be there), the only thing that can help him is Narcotics Anonymous and the people in it. They help each other to keep clean, and once an addict, always an addict. The steps to keeping clean will not be easy, and all it takes is falling off the wagon once to go back to where you started. They have meetings and that is where they share their stories and get better (if they choose to). They have to be able to face the real reasons they turned to drugs to deal with it, and probably have to change their lifestyle if they want to get better. Not everyone wants to get better. Some like it where they are.

Good luck.

Answer 4

I've never done drugs but I am a mother and have brothers. As hard as it is once they reach a certain age we can't help them anymore they have to have a reason to want to get clean.
Have you tried talking to a counselor, someone with experience that might help you sit and talk to your brother and between the both of you make him understand that is he doesn't stop he will die and that you need him around because you love him and he is your only brother.
Please have someone with this type of experience involved because there is a good chance that he will listen to them and this way you'll know that whatever happens you did everything you could to help him.
Good Luck
MP

Answer 5

Get him help right now, at any means nessary!! A friend just took his life because he couldnt pay for the drugs he was using and it kills me.. i leaving for the military and i should have been there, but there is NO EXCUSE!!! If you love him you will do what ever it takes, do you know anybody in the military who can get him off of his butt, find him a girl, take him out, but NEVER give him money. He needs some inspiration but more importantly, he needs a friend, somebody who can care and listen because hes probably hurting inside. Please, dont wait a single second, do everything to save him, PLEASE, dont make the same mistake i did and think that somebody else will help!!!

Answer 6

I would suggest using what is referred to as "tough love". I know you really don't want to hear about this right now, but it is the best thing you can give your brother. I would suggest getting him to a drug rehab place. Do you have anyone that can help you, such as parents, close friends, that could give you the support you need to try and get him help. This is way more than you can handle and you can't try to convince him of too much of anything. I would also suggest a prayer cirlce, there are a lot of on-line prayer groups to help people such as yourself and your brother get through this very trying ordeal. Believe me You are going to need HELP!!!!

Answer 7

I know this is a hard thing to do but you could always go and get him in trouble with the cops. If he goes to jail then he can't hurt himself anymore and can maybe grow up. I know it hurts to think about doing something like this but I did it for my boyfriend. He was addicted to Meth and I gave the cops a tip and sure enough he went away for two years. But if I hadn't I think that he would of been dead in that two years. He is a totally different person and won't ever go back to doing that stuff again.

Answer 8

Where is he getting the money for his drugs? The kindest thing you and your family can do is to turn him in for say stealing or stop giving him any money,if he still lives @ home throw him out. Its tough love. Also get him into a substance abuse unit. Insurance should pay for it. If no insurance than they have free care at hospitals for the needy. NOTHING you or anyone says to him will make any difference unless you distance your self from him and that will let him know he must get help.

Answer 9

I had an ex-boyfriend with the same problem. It's harder to help them when they refuse to help themselves. I know this sounds like a jerk thing to do but, if you know he has drugs on him, call the cops. It sucks to do that to someone you love but that's why you have to do it. Your only other option is to have him involuntarilly committed to an inpatient rehab center. You will have to talk to your local Magistrate for advice on how to go about doing this. That's my ex's family ended up doing. It actually took 2 or 3 times in rehab but he eventually got clean.

Answer 10

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Answer 11

'Bumpusemt' has the answer.

Clearly, this guy does not know rock bottom. I know plenty of people like that and unfortunately, YOU cannot do a thing to help. It takes a combination of HIM and professionals. If he is like some of the losers I've known, that may or may not happen, but you can only hope for the best.