HAS ANYONE EVER TOLD YOU THAT YOU WERE RUDE? OR VISE VERSA?
Q: WHAT IS THE PURPOSE FOR ETIQUETTE, MANNERS, OR DECORUM? WHY DOES IT EXIST?
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2007-08-16 07:24:56 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Yes, it IS rude for people to point out you're being rude (excluded are parents trying to teach their children proper behavior but ONLY if they do the correcting in private there are few things worse than witnessing a parent haranguing their child in public)
Etiquette and manners are there to 'level the playing field'. We are all treating each other with respect and using table manners that will not gross out out dinner partners. Etiquette and manners are there to make civilization, well,, civil.
2007-08-16 07:38:36 · answer #1 · answered by TeaQueen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend that is a complete clod in the manners department. She seriously makes major faux pas all the time. I sometimes tell her when she is being rude (but of course I do it out of earshot of anyone else) because she has a really hard time of it.
The purpose of manners is basically to make everyone feel comfortable in a group setting. We all know somethings aren't acceptable, so we all stick to the same rules so we can all have a good time and get along.
2007-08-16 18:28:36 · answer #2 · answered by missbeans 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is only rude to mention that someone is being rude IF you do it in front of others. If you take someone aside privately and let them know that their actions were interpreted as rude, there is nothing wrong with that. It's all in the delivery of the information.
Etiquette and matters exists out of the concern for the comfort of others around us. When reciprocated, we all benefit.
2007-08-16 18:23:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The graceful thing is to not mention at all that someone has bad manners. To do so shows that you have no regard for the feelings of others.
It is perfectly respectable to give advice on manners when teaching a child or when one is asked.
2007-08-16 07:51:34 · answer #4 · answered by beckini 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We live in a subjective world and as such are prone to live by a code of ethics that are shaped by the common likes and dislikes of the area and culture we live. By setting a standard code of conduct people can work together better knowing what is and is not acceptable. It builds character and admiration for your fellow man when you have statutes to adhere to. A place for everything and everything in its place! Manners and such help by creating a moral backbone for the community.
2007-08-16 15:06:10 · answer #5 · answered by "Ask Dr. Stupid" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a bad habit of indirectly pointing out the rudeness and ignorance of others when out in public (especially in stores). When someone shows total disregard for you by butting in front of you, parking their cart in the middle of the aisle, or another selfish act . . . I generally comment very loudly to either myself or whoever I am with, "Wow, isn't she rude" or something to that affect. I never directly tell a stranger of their rudeness . . . but sure I suppose my comments are rude as well.
Etiquette exists because without it many situations would be a free for all. It's simply a form of self government.
2007-08-16 07:38:15 · answer #6 · answered by thatgirl 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I went to a BBQ for a family friends graduation party and there was an older guy there with such a potty mouth. I was getting so frustrated at his lack of respect. He kept saying "ti ts" the f word everything you can think of. Now I am 21, clearly I have said those words and heard them plenty, but there were kids there no older then 13, one of them being my little brother. So I asked the guy to please watch his mouth because I thought it was a bit rude and out of line, he looked at me like I was so rude for confronting him for being rude! It was really ridiculous!
2007-08-16 07:36:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-10 08:58:21 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you politely point out that someone is out of line, and are not rude/short/abrupt when you say it, then it's not rude at all.
In fact, it's a service to those around you that are having to pur up with the rude person
2007-08-16 07:35:08 · answer #9 · answered by xylina_69 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah,especially when it's said by the mother-in-law
it makes me want to punch her
would that be rude?
2007-08-16 09:03:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋