My parents think everyone online is a scammer and i met a girl online. I am 17 and she is 17 and we met online on this website called interpals. We started out as friends and now we are going out. She lives in MN and i live in SC and next summer i am planning to go see her but i need to warm my parents up to her but i have no way i can. I need serious help. I mean i have been talking to her on the phone and she is a nice girl. She sounds like a 17 year old girl and she seems to have a nice family. I dont know how i should break the news to my parents. I love her and She loves me and i dont know what to do.
2007-08-16 07:06:36 · 78 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
get a real gf
2007-08-16 07:10:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 6⤋
Not every one online is a scammer. My little sister met a guy online almost five years ago. At first my parents weren't too sure about the whole thing. But then they spoke on the phone and my sister got a webcam and they found outhe was a very nice guy. Well they met each other when he came to visit. We live in Nebraska and he in Baltimore. I am happy to say that they are still together he even moved out here to be with her and they are very happy. I can't say this will work out for every one. But just know it can happen
2007-08-22 12:35:34 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I met my bf online wooooo!!
Good for you, people tend to criticise relationships which start off via the Internet, but infact I believe that they are better because you can connect with them mentally, you know..?
Just tell your parents, mine didn't seem to mind too much. And it's almost always the guy who is a paedophile >.<
If the girl seems like she is 17, then she probably is!
So they should accept it..
If not, say you truly love her, maybe try and persuade 'em.
If they don't go for that, I think you should meet up with the girl. After all it is not really your parents business, so whatever makes you happy innit?
Once you have met her, if you decide to, which you should since you love her and alllll... Bring her home to meet your parents.. If they didn't believe you about her when you told 'em in the first place, it will be even sweeter when you show them how lovely of a girl she is!! They will be like O_O
Haha.. Good luck to you!!! =]
2007-08-16 07:20:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well by next year you will be 18 and honestly your parents can't tell you yes or no if you "love" this girl you will still "love" her in a year right. So my advise is let your parents know that you met and are talking to a girl on-line and you plan to go see her next summer. If you are a responsible young man then your parents should trust that you can take care of yourself. Promise that once you meet her in person if feelings are still the same that you will bring her to town for your parents to meet. Your parents love you and don't want to see you hurt. I recommend reserving some feeling for when you actually meet her spending time in person takes away what they want you see faster that just taking over the net where folks can tell you what they want you to know. Good Luck
2007-08-24 05:25:59 · answer #4 · answered by squekie0874 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to ease your parents into this, the best thing to start off with is by calling her a "friend". If you just come out with "I'm in love with her", they're not going to take you seriously. I would let them know that you want to plan a trip to MN next summer now so that they're used to the idea. Let them know you're saving your own money for the trip and do things that make you appear responsible, like keeping your room clean, doing your own laundry, helping out around the house, going to school/work everyday and things like that. They will see you as more responsible and take you seriously when you tell them later on that she's your "girlfriend". Apparently your parents must think you're immature if you're afraid to tell them. So prove them wrong.
BTW- I suggest telling your parents she's "only a friend" to avoid all the prying questions from your parents. By the time next summer rolls around and if you're still dating her, you can let them know she's your "girlfriend". But if it doesn't work out at least your parent's don't get the satisfaction of saying "I told you so". Think about it!
2007-08-16 07:20:55 · answer #5 · answered by goturanswer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait until after you meet her. Then if you really do hit it off, you can tell your parents that you met online and were just friends, though you were interested in more, perhaps... So you met. That way, you can make it look like you were being careful and not committing too much to someone you've never met. Once you are meeting the person then the fact that you met online shouldn't matter anymore. Lovers meet each other in many strange ways...
2007-08-16 07:14:40 · answer #6 · answered by yodadoe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your parents ever ask why you are so happy just tell them you met a great girl. Then start telling them everything you like about her and the things you guys have in common. Let them know how she makes you feel and then slowly tell them on how you joined into the interpals club and whats it's about, and that that is how you two met.
2007-08-24 03:35:29 · answer #7 · answered by overtaxed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait and see how things go as u get closer to next summer. Then sit down and say i have been talking to this girl for bout a year now and im not sure how it happen but i fell in love with her and id like to go see her. When the time comes u will know what to do.
2007-08-16 07:14:31 · answer #8 · answered by Pres 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your biggest problem is getting there. minors are unable to purchase a plane ticket with their guardians consent. but also... i don't think you love her bro. you might like her a whole lot... but i doubt you love her. Love is a very big deal. and at your age is extremely hard to find. but then again you might be the exception to the rule. anyway. my advise would be to tell your family that your just going to visit a friend up in that area. tell them you knew her from a while back and that her family invited you down for a couple of days. and then later when things become more serious, you can tell your family that all this happened over those couple of days. That's what i would do.
2007-08-16 07:17:12 · answer #9 · answered by Joker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jackie B'S advice was pretty good: you should introduce her to your parents via web cam...and tell them that she used to live here but moved etc...that was pretty good advice. don't just tell them outright that you "fell in love with a girl", i mean i wouldn't one day say that to my mom (even if i'd actually met the guy). Start by saying soomething like "so, i've been talking to this girl online for awhile" get them interested in her, then do the webcam thing, then, a while later, tell them that you're crazy about her and would love to meet her one summer. If i were you i wouldn't actually use the word "love", i don't know your parents, but, i know if i said that to my mom at 17 she'd laugh in my face and that would be the end of her taking whoever it was i was interested in seriously. Be mature about it and show your parents that you're going to be. Good Luck.
2007-08-16 07:20:03 · answer #10 · answered by ludo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your parents and her parents should meet. It's the right way to do things. I would never let my kid date someone without first meeting the parents. You can tell a lot about a person by their family, so this is important to them. I would think her parents would feel ths same way. How about pics? are there any? Your parents will want to know as much as possible about this girl, what she looks like, where she lives, her school, her parents, etc. That would be a first step and you should expect it.
2007-08-16 07:16:29 · answer #11 · answered by Karan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋