Okay so last night, my boyfriend and I went out to see the new Bourne movie (Which was fab!) We sat in the car afterwards and just chatted for a while.
Before we knew it, our t-shirts were on the floor and we were in the back seat going crazy. (Perhaps it was seeing so much action in the movie that did it? ) Anyways, he took off my bra and gripped me so tightly and so hard.
It was great, but this morning I woke up and my breasts are bruised. It's like I've been beaten, but it wasn't like that at all..
Can anyone give me some advice on how I can get him to be more gentle? How can I know how hard is TOO hard? As I loved the feeling at the time....
Thanks in advance.
ps, don't ask me to find another guy, I love him and I've never met anyone who can satisfy me like he does.
2007-08-16 06:44:08 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well im afraid you cant have it both ways, you like the feeling of him squeezing you but you don’t want the bruises, you have to get rid of one, either the feeling or the squeezing !!(hey, that rhymes!!)
just tell him that even though you really enjoyed it, he was too strong and left you in pain, im sure he wouldn’t like the idea of physically hurting you!!!!!!!, tell him that he needs to be more gentle but keep stressing the fact that it was enjoyable while it was happening and he satisfies you more than anyone else!!, that will really boost his ego and he wont mind being told that in a way, you didn’t like what he was doing!!
good luck!
2007-08-16 07:00:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL.. oh man if i a show you my boobs you'd see that I have the same problem with my boyfriend.. But unlike your man my man is a biter as well and likes to bite my shoulders and back and i have bruises their as well. And everyone is always asking me how I always get these bruises and I just smile and say, "well what can I say I like it rough." I always try to make a joke out of it. At first it didn't bother me. That was until we went to the lake and my bathing suit top wouldn't cover my brusies and I felt a lil uncomfortable. So I told him he needed to be a lil less aggressive I showed him my bruises and he was suprised by the brusies he had left me. He felt bad but I told him not to because at the time it was not hurting me. So now he tries to be more gentle but every once in a while we get rough and I do get bruises but that's cuz I bruise easily.. It's not like he's abusing me. So i suggest next time you to get rough make sure you don't have any special events coming up where you have to wear a blouse that shows off your goodies ;-) Until than have fun!!
2007-08-16 07:08:53 · answer #2 · answered by Jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do the same thing again before the bruises heal and let him see what he did, and tell him to be a little more gentle this time. If he's a good guy he'll feel bad and be more gentle.
2007-08-16 06:51:58 · answer #3 · answered by Living in BFE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any more pressure than it would take to squeeze a small orange would be to much and is likely to take away a lot of your pleasure.
There is a down side any bruises which become dark in colour rather than red the next morning can greatly increase the chances of you getting breast cancer later in life, if you doubt this ask any doctor..
2007-08-16 18:08:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him to be more gentle that last time u bruised some but u love the feeling of his hands on u.
2007-08-16 06:50:42 · answer #5 · answered by Pres 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him when you talk to him today that you're covered in bruises and as much as you liked it...he needs to be a little more gentle! Just say in a real cute little voice, "I'm fragile. You need to be careful with me." or "I bruise like a peach." Use the excuse that you can't wear a bathing suit looking like you just got beat half to death!! Just come out and tell him. If you're close enough to have sex...you should be close enough to talk about it. Good luck!
2007-08-16 06:51:23 · answer #6 · answered by geminiqtpie22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can frankly tell him to go a little easy on the wrestling holds.Where a full nelson is applied you can suggest a half nelson.If both frankness and subtlety don't work, you could always give him a bit of his own back by trying
a half-bobbit on him.He should then get the message loud and clear.If all else fails,you have to learn to grin and bear it.
2007-08-16 07:01:31 · answer #7 · answered by ramchandra b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe you just bruise easier than most people..i know i can get a really hard punch and not bruise at all.. let him do it again but just tell him to maybe be more caressing instead of gropeing/ man handling. Maybe his mind is too "into the moment" to realize how hard hes really touching you. maybe slow the intensity down a notch. hope this helps
2007-08-16 06:54:40 · answer #8 · answered by greenthumbs22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, just tell him! Men generally prefer that you tell them up front and be honest! I would show him the bruises he left and just say "Maybe we could do it again but a little gentler this time. You're amazing...I just can't keep getting bruised like this!" and smile and kiss him. He's not going to like that he hurt you anyway. He'll appreciate the truth.
2007-08-16 06:50:34 · answer #9 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Show him your breats today. Tell him what you've told us. Also tell him you liked it. Just because it leaves a mark, doesn't mean it's a bad thing and doesn't mean it has to stop. Especially if the mark can be hidden. It's between the two of you.
Take care not to get too carried away though, because some things can be permanent.....
2007-08-16 06:52:08 · answer #10 · answered by JustAskin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋