Should I Feel This Way? Help Please!! Adults?

Question

Me and my Bf have been together for two years now. I love him and I know he loves me. But lately I've been feeling a little to attached to him. I find myself wondering what he is doing all day long, I feel a little lost without him. When I'm out with my girlfriends all I think about is him. What does all this mean? I am so confused and pist with myself that Im ready to call it off?

I am 24yrs old I have never felt this way before in my life.

Answer 1

Sounds like you're in love! Hopefully the same is being reciprocate from him. If so, how wonderful! That's the stuff dreams are made of! Try not to loose yourself in him though. You will be much more appealing to him if you have your own interests.

Sounds like you may be trying to put a wall around your heart since you said you're ready to call it off. If so, don't do it just because you are scared of the unknown. It may make you miss out on one of the most beautiful things life has to offer. It's better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all!

Answer 2

As hard as it sounds, try to focus on your friendship with him. No matter what, you guys are together because you had a strong friendship in the first place. Keep your energy geared toward remaining a good friend to him. No matter what happens, at least you will stay friends together. It's okay that you are feeling attached to him. Why does that disappoint you so much? Let your thoughts about him inspire you to write poems, draw pictures, play music, and even think about him while you are with your girlfriends. It's normal to obsess about guys. They are lovely and different and SO natural. Remember that he is your friend still, however, and you can talk to him about your feelings. If you want to break up, fine, but it doesn't sound like you want to. Just enjoy what is going on, including the intensity of it. If you focus on remaining a good friend to him, you won't do anything you will later regret.

Answer 3

Don't break up with him. Trust me, it'll only make the problem worse.

Do you have any vacation time available? Even a weekend trip would be good. Just go somewhere fun or relaxing or whatever you're craving right now, and focus on you. I can't promise you won't think about him (if you care about him, I'd be more worried if you didn't), but you should be distracted enough by all the sights and activities not to obsess over it, and you'll come back feeling a lot more independent.

Answer 4

Unless you want to torture yourself more why call it off when you feel so strongly about this person. When you are young your feelings can become a little over exagerated, even though I don't doubt you have strong feelings for him you need to force yourself to have other interests other than him otherwise you will find yourself quite alone as friends get tired of lovesick pals. If he feels the same about you and your feelings for each other are of the same strength then have a great time but remember the rule keep your independance and friends, boys come and go.

Answer 5

It means you've stepped into a state of "dependancy" and it's not actually a bad thing. It's like the 2 of you have become more of a "1" and you feel and express that by always keeping him on the front of your mind. I'm the exact same way. I don't let it interfere with my life or anything, I just accept that that's how much I love him!

Answer 6

I'm 25, and I know what you're feeling. It sounds to me like you're almost afraid of these feelings. It sounds like you love him...it's ok to miss him while he's gone, and think about him all the time. I'm recently engaged, and I feel these things anytime we're apart. It's only a problem, in my opinion, if it gets to the point where you're jealous if he's not with you all the time, or if you're removing yourself from any friendships or activities that don't include him. It's healthy to have your own friends and your own activities to do without him, but it's also healthy to miss him. Distance makes the heart grow fonder.
Give it a chance, it sounds like you found something really amazing.

Answer 7

This just means that you really care about him and he is your favorite person in the world to be around. You are probably at that stage in the relationship that you really realize his worth and you truly value having him in your life. However, I wouldn't suggest breaking up with him. You just need to find other ways to consumer your mind and time. You definitely don't want to make him your whole world because beleive it or not there are other people that probably deserve to be in your life. You just need to change your mind frame and learned to apperciate other people and time because life is to short to take for granted other people.

Answer 8

Twinkle

From what u have said it sounds like its time for u to have more commitment.

You feel isolated whilst not being alone, ur emotional needs are changing, so expect to feel distant & insecure at times.

Maybe its time for some honest soul searching so that u can see what it is that u are now ready for.

Pam

Answer 9

Make sure you have a life of your own, Dwelling on him all the time is not good. Smothering him will drive him away. It's good that you feel that way but don't carry it too far. Develop goals and hobbies of your own.

Answer 10

Don't cut it off.

It sounds like you're really in love with the guy. Maybe you're feeling this way cause you're ready to take it to the next level. Either Marriage or move in with him.