My best friend who initially rejected me is now jealous because I hava a new gf. Does that mean she wants me or she just wants the attention i used to give her???
2007-08-16 05:09:57 · 19 answers · asked by malcom1000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
honestly its sounds like a little of both, she did not want you, but she also does not want anyone else to have you, so she is jealous that you moved on and know she does not have all your attention, so know she feels that you are not as close to her, and you two will not be able to do the things you use to do,
Because you have a Girlfriend.....
i hope it works out for you,,,,,, take care :)))))))))))))))))
2007-08-16 05:17:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's jealous because you dared move on to someone else. She either is upset because you are no longer doting on her or she's playing games with you....the "I don't want you but I don't want anyone else to have you" syndrome. You need to confront her and ask her point blank that if she doesn't like you 'that way' then why is she acting jealous now that you have found a new gf? If you are neglecting your friendship and are no longer spending time with/speaking to her, that's one thing; but if she's just jealous that you have someone in your life besides her, that's not fair to you. You should tell her that if she truly loves you as a friend, then she should want to see you happy.
There is also the possibility that when you were doting on her she wasn't interested, but now that someone else finds you appealing she is seeing what she missed out on. Be careful if that's the case. If you drop your new gf for your best friend, you may find yourself alone if she gets bored after you guys are together for a while. She may be the type that thinks the grass is always greener or gets off on the competition and once it's gone, so is her attraction.
Good luck!
2007-08-16 12:26:21 · answer #2 · answered by nspir8ion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just wants the attention that you use to give her. She probably misses the time and effort you put into her. I did the same thing to my best male friend because he liked me alot. However, when he let me know he like me I rejected him. Nonetheless, I would show him jealousy when he started dating another girl. Inspite of me being jealous I didn't want to be with him. I just missed the attention that he use to give me.
2007-08-16 12:23:56 · answer #3 · answered by Sexysass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she's probably as confused as you are? I went through this a long time ago. My friend asked me to be his gf, I said no we're just friends. We use to hang out ALL the time. When he got a gf, I was screaming jealous and couldn't figure out why. We talked it out and actually tried going out, didn't work but we understood what out true relationship was and made time for each other without his next gf around.
2007-08-16 12:18:41 · answer #4 · answered by floridacrain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you are in a seriouse position its hard to keep a girl bf and a gf i had a bf who was in the same position turned out his bf did have a crush on him and didnt know for sure until he had me. Bust! but he talked to her and it was just like what you said its the fact that he wasnt showing her the same
attention she was used to so jealousy set in. im sure your bestfriend cares about you but you have to consider the fact that beacause she's your bf she will always think thats she's better for you....though she wont say that ;thats how she feels.best advice is to sit her down and let her know that she does mean alot to you but so does your new gf and that you'ed rather keep her as best friends and keep the bond you alrady have:) hope i could help and shed a little light GOOD LUCK!
2007-08-16 12:23:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I rejected my best friends offer and then he hooked up with another girl. I was out of my mind jealous and I realized I did like him that way. Long story short, he came right out and asked me what my problem was, I told him, he left his girlfriend and we have been together ever since. (Almost 14 years. Married 12 1/2)
2007-08-16 12:20:14 · answer #6 · answered by mystic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is actually happening to me right now so I'm not really sure. But just give her as much attention as you used to and things should be fine. Unless she likes you, which in that case, uh not really sure.
2007-08-16 12:15:07 · answer #7 · answered by Greco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like both to me. she might have been to shy to tell you she had feelings for you and now that you have a gf she is hurt and doesn't know how to handle it. if you care about her at all friend or more then talk to her and straighten things out. try not to embarrass her she might get defensive.
2007-08-16 12:19:20 · answer #8 · answered by sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it is just the attention you give her. Girls are like that, we like attention. She rejected you so its her loss.
2007-08-16 12:14:57 · answer #9 · answered by jstrachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The attention. People need to feel like they are important...
But its just a mind game, so you don't need to be bothered with it.
2007-08-16 12:14:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋