Ryt heres the thing I've just fell out with my BF and i wont 2 know how you can tell the difference between lusting after someone and loving someone, I do really care for him and wouldn't like anything ever to happen to him (Istill even get butterflies when i think about him) but at the same time i cant help myself but think about sex when, i'm near him. I'm thinking about taking him back and starting again but i dont want to for the wrong reasons....If you know what i mean bcoz i'm not even that sure(jst trying to get my point across the best way ) =)
2007-08-16 04:50:40 · 15 answers · asked by x.:Summer_Rain:.x 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Love is gentler. Love sticks around and lust burns out.
2007-08-16 04:57:14 · answer #1 · answered by sci55 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have feelings for him and you enjoy being with him but you also get saucy thoughts then I would have to say this could be love rather than lust. However if your thoughts are purely or perhaps mostly of a sexual nature and there are no other feelings and you can live without him other than getting together just for sex then it must be lust. I hope the above makes sense. Many people make the mistake of thinking they are both the same, one is for self gratuitous and the other is far deeper which has more meaning to it.
Sounds like you have just had a fall out not an entire split up. You still get butterflies when you see him so there is some excitement there which is good. When you see him next maybe you could discuss with him how you feel, he may feel the same.
2007-08-16 12:07:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love and lust change gradually in time. You can start lusting someone right away but eventually that fades out. You can't start loving someone, that has to grow from sharing your lives, first as BF and GF and then whatever happens next. If it's the right guy, you'll both know to start out again. If not, then it was just lust. Take him back and see what happens, if it falls out again and you take him back and it falls out again well there's your answer. If it sticks, well, there's your answer too.
2007-08-16 11:59:31 · answer #3 · answered by Rob 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to love someone to want to jump on his bones when you see him, that is lust.
The butterflies could be you thinking of sex and that isn't love, you say you care for him and that's why you're struggling to separate the two.
My advice would be that if you are thinking about taking him back then think hard what it is that you want out of the relationship, if it's just the sex then I would let it be, as you will only cause further hurt to him and yourself.
Move on and find someone that makes you work for it, If you get back together it could destroy what friendship you have with him now. Good luck and have safe sex ;D
2007-08-16 12:01:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes the line between lust and love is crossed.. feelings of lust can be mistaken for love just like that. try to think of all the reasons why you love him. if most of what you come up with is only for his body and charm. maybe you should consider that as lust. when you really love someone, you are willing to lay down your life for them and care for them when no one else will. no matter how they look or act that day.. if you really love him, you will feel so much more than just sexual attraction.
2007-08-16 12:02:37 · answer #5 · answered by kat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a bit of both there darling. I wold describe lust as a raw phsycial attraction. Quite simply it is an animal instinct and all you want to do is eat them alive sexually. Love is more to do with an emotional connection. You need someone more in the form emotional dependance and stability. Hope it assists.
2007-08-16 12:01:51 · answer #6 · answered by A . Z . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have both lust and love for your bf. The lust is the sex and the love is caring about who he is and what you can do for him. If you still feel both of those for him, why not get back together?
2007-08-16 11:57:26 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as he didnt cheat on you take him back. im guessing you are quite young. you dont need to be with someone you love, after being with them a bit longer you might fall in love, and if you dont, there are plenty more fish in the sea. love is when you love someone unconditionally and would do anything for them, die for them and want them to be happy unconditionally even if that means you make yourself unhappy in the process, lust is when you find someone sexy and the butterflies thing can happen when you lust after someone. hope that helps! do what you feel is right. if you want to be with him then get back with him, if you dont really miss him then dont bother. go look elsewhere! and if he cheated on your cut his knob off!
2007-08-16 11:57:21 · answer #8 · answered by Lethal-Lizzle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lust is a temporary thing, like an infatuation or a crush. Love is more serious and can last forever. When you truly love someone, a piece of them remains in your heart long after there gone.
2007-08-16 11:56:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you think of sex only when you are with him then it is not lust, but if you fantasise about other guys also then it is lust.
if still in doubt then think of him as a person & not a sexy guy. if you get butterflies then also, it is a proven love.
remember sex is not bad if it enhances love. it is rather a blessing then. but only getting physical pleasure out of it & not having any mental satisfaction is a sure sign of lust.
2007-08-16 11:57:42 · answer #10 · answered by karan s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋