A couple of weeks ago, a guy(friend/slash maybe more) said that i should call him if i want to hang out. i called him maybe a week later and we had a very long conversation where he invited me over to taste a recipe he had made. i asked him when i could come over and he couldn't tell me a time. he said that i should call him again when i got back from my mini vacation which i did. i asked him what he was doing that day and he had a whole list of to dos. we chatted on and off for about 30mins b/c the phone was getting cut off. i told him to call me back that evening and he said ok. he never called back. he also did not call the next day, and i don't know if he's going to call today. do i have a right to be mad at him for this? i really can't judge what's normal anymore when it comes to this guy, so do chime in. i really want to go off at him, but i donno if i even have a basis for being angry except that he didn't call me back, which i find to be rude.
2007-08-16 04:42:23 · 18 answers · asked by moosekid 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have the right to feel however you choose to feel, however I don't see how being mad will make a difference...the dude seems kinda flaky. Stop putting much hope or expectation on him calling or asking you over and find other things to do that entertain you.
You want to feel mad because he's not behaving as you want him to...stop having expectations beyond what he says he's going to do. It's okay to be upset if he says "I'll call tomorrow" and he doesn't call, but otherwise let it go.
2007-08-16 04:48:25 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you do have the right to be mad. Personally I hate it when someone tells me they will call me back and the don't'. No matter if its a friend or a guy I'm talking to. If you two had plans and he did not call back that's just wrong. Don;t bother going off on him. Its not worth it....The next time just do the same to him. Oh and don't call him. Let him call you and don't answer. Call him back the next day.
2007-08-16 11:59:17 · answer #2 · answered by Susan G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK ladies, hear this - IF A MAN DOES NOT RETURN YOUR CALL WHEN HE SAYS HE WILL, THEN HE'S JUST NOT INTO YOU'!!!!! If he was, he would have made a strong point to at least fit you in his busy schedule, because the conversations with you are so deep that he cannot go on without them.... Enough said - Stop the chase, it leads no where but a one night stand booty call * guess what he's not the one that's going to be crying in his "Cheerios".....You will...
2007-08-16 11:54:17 · answer #3 · answered by Lords of Stockton 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok from whatever perspective you are coming from, friendship or otherwise, he didn't call when he said he would. You can't really get mad AT him but maybe when you see him next just explain in your world when people say they are going to do something they do it. I wouldn't make a big issue out of it though, he could just be really busy and it simply slipped his mind.
2007-08-16 11:48:33 · answer #4 · answered by samba 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a guy does not call you back it means - I have found a hotter girl and I do not want to have to explain why I do not want to talk to you anymore. I am asserting he made a good call not to call you from your psycho tenancies. You have no right to be mad; go read the Dr. Phil book and get over it.
2007-08-16 11:47:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but it really sounds like he's just not that interested in you. If you are mad at him strickly on a friend basis, then yes, I would be a little mad at my guy or girl friends for blowing me off. If you're mad at him b/c you're interested in having more with him...move on, you deserve a guy who wants to talk to you so badly he would call you back at any time of day.
2007-08-16 11:46:53 · answer #6 · answered by missy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go off on friends because you depend on them for friendship...this guy sounds like a casual aquaintance and you cannot go off on him...he never really made a committment of frienship. Just put your concentration on others and forget him...he evidently does not feel for you as you do for him or he would have made time for you by now. You see? You are causing yourself grief when it is not called for here. Good luck.
2007-08-16 11:57:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you should sweat it maybe he has a problem or maybe you want to be more of a friend than he want to be.
I think dont be mad just deal with other friends and leave him alone to call or come see you. i mean you can ask and tell him whats on your mind but dont take it personal.
2007-08-16 11:50:59 · answer #8 · answered by sunrisedrifter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its rude, but it could be he is getting nervous if he knows that the relationship is progressing, or maybe he is loosing interest because things have taken so long to get moving. or he is getting the impression that you are loosing interest so he is loosing it as well. I don't think that I would be mad per say but it is rude.
2007-08-16 11:47:56 · answer #9 · answered by crutchduck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was rude and a very poor start to a relationship, though it sounds as if he isn't that interested in you. Just move on and don't waster another thought on him.
2007-08-16 11:46:30 · answer #10 · answered by Zombie Birdhouse 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋