Why does God allow things like this to happen???

Question

You know I don't understand why the best of us end up with the worst. It seems to me that the nice guys end up with the unfaithful, selfish and greedy women. The nice women end up with the beating, unfaithful and rude men. In your opinion why is it that such complete opposites really do attract eachother, leaving one person generally hurt because they don't have enough power and control in themself to put up a fight?

You know....don't come at me saying there is no god, because this is my question not yours.
Also I do believe God lets everything happen for a reason. I am not blaming him at all, I am just merely asking why does this happen to the best of us?

Thank you Jackie B, you are the only person so far that has understood what I was trying to ask.
I am not shaking my fist at God at all, and I speak to God more when I am grateful than when I need him.

Answer 1

Wow, "flipperwhipper" or whatever your name is... this girl's obviously hurting... and needing some words of wisdom... and you throw that out there? LOL! The main line says God in it... the rest of it is says nothing about Him... it's just a genuine question about why relationships are so hard... but there you go, spouting off your "facts" like word vomit- Gotta love the Super Atheists! ;) Always ready to remind everyone what you believe... not caring whether or not anyone actually cares...

Anyway, I wish I knew what to tell you... I've been asking myself a similar question for the past couple of months. My boyfriend has a temper... it's been really crappy... but I do know that when someone realizes they've got a nice, laid back, good hearted person, who's probably going to stick around even if they're not great to you... they get very comfortable being rude. You've got to start off with a little control... establish who you are and what's acceptable and what isn't. I'm finding in this relationship that there's no getting rid of that impression I gave off for so long- I didn't nip it in the bud... he already knows I'll take his crap, and he's not going to back down. In short, I don't think there's any specific reason that opposites attract... it just depends on the people involved. I think the better question is why do opposites stay together when they already know it's not working?

Answer 2

The Christian God allows for free will and never guarantees that his faithful will have nothing but happy lives. The choices they make during their life are meant to be lessons and whether those lessons are good or bad completely depends on the choices they make. Sometimes we must endure hardship in order to learn and grow stronger and so even in the case where a person has nothing to do with their situation (rape, violent crime, etc), Christians are asked to have faith that they are given some reason to endure such hardships. However, in the situations where a woman chooses to stay with a man who is abusive - it is her choice whether to stay or go. No matter how hard it might be to leave the person, it is a far better choice than staying in a situation like that.

Answer 3

First off, it's not God's fault...I agree with BabeHeart.

Secondly, I know exactly what you mean on the relationship end of things. I've heard so many women say so many times how they want a nice guy - yet I have been told by so many women that I am too nice (?!?)

I don't think I am, I am perfectly capable of being a total ******. But I don't take things out on my partner, like work or other frustrations.

I like to talk things out, amicably, like adults - I treat women with respect and I think some don't understand that.

I'm truthful, honest, loyal...I'm the closest thing to a dog there is but with all the benefits of personality and great sex too, lol.

Answer 4

Why do people always blame God for their wrong choices?

Can we change it to :

Why do you allow things like this to happen??? Instead.

God does not interfere when not consulted beforehand on things ..yet when things start to go south they are the first to shake their fists at God.

My guess is when these individuals start allowing God into all aspects of their lives and not just on holidays or a Sunday visit at church. When they learn to start taking these things to Him in prayer and listen for an answer. I'm not talking about audibly. However ..He will open their eyes to see warning signs that it may not be a good idea to become involved with someone so controlling and hateful.

Life with an atheists is not easier and don't wind up throwing yourself from a frying pan into a fire with this idea either.

So if your the abused person..then I say pick yourself up and start fresh from the begining by putting God first.
Pray about it spend time in His word.
Do something constructive for yourself that makes you feel good and is healthy.
Do your research if you are married on getting a good Christian marriage counselor, start socializing with the right people, put your foot down and be determined that you deserve better than that and they are out there.

Keep focused and for God will lead you to the right person .

Answer 5

GREAT QUESTION!!!!

We as humans have asked god this question for years. I really dont have the answers to questions like this. I can state my opinion, but its not necessarily right. I think in a way, great people sometimes are put in peoples lives to improve their lives, and give them sunshines, but sometimes people dont appreciate sunshine, and would rather have rain and storms, so they create the storms with their selfishness. As a great person, you must stand strong and love yourself before you allow yourself to love someone else, which may assist in preventing you from getting hurt by someone who is selfish and doesnt care about your feelings. It does always seem that one person is taking more than giving. i guess thats how the majority of relationships work. But hey thank him for grace and mercy, because thats how we make it through each and everyday.

Answer 6

Thats not the workings of God sweetie. HE has no intentions of harming anyone, in anyway. I'm sorry that you've been hurt. I think we all go through things in life for a reason. It's just a matter of what you choose to do with what you have learned. Taking everything that you have learned and turn it into a positive.

I notice a lot of people basically saying to take responsiblity for your screw up's in life. Dont listen to them... because sometimes you have no control of the out comes that may happen. You can control if your man cheat, beats, is rude etc. So dont think for one min. that it's your fault. Like I said though... if you dont learn from it, THEN it becomes your fault.

Answer 7

I believe god lets things happen for a reason. You should never stay with someone that hurts you in anyway. And God uses that as a leason learned. Think about it if you never got hurt in a realtionship do you think the realtionship you want to keep would be a good one? Probably not you wouldnt know what to do if something bad happened. I have has horrible boyfriends in the past that have hit me and tried other things but I have grown up all from that and no I a completey in love with my boyfriend now because he would never do any of that to me. You just have to keep a look out and if a guy/women treats you bad get the hell outa that realtionship.

Answer 8

I don't think God lets that happen. People choose who they are going to have relationships with. If you take things slow, get to know a person and don't sleep with them on the first or second date, and don't move in with them or have kids with them in the first year, then when you find out they aren't the person you want or need, it's a lot easier to break up. Respect yourself and demand that a man respect you. People will treat you as bad as you let them. I know it sucks to be alone and lonely, but being with a jerk isn't any fun either.

Answer 9

Read Job in the Bible for the answer as to understanding what God does.

As to your generalization, people end up having done to them what they let other people do to them. There is no such thing as a victim; only people that let themselves be victims.

Answer 10

I don't understand what this has to do with God as we all have Free Will and make our own choices. So if you are making a poor choice in a relationship then blame yourself not God.

2nd men bend over backwards for the bitc* woman because they put themselves first and make it know that they are confident and the guy is lucky to have them. The nice girl is seen as week and lets guys walk all over her in addition to her sitting around and making her world revolve around a guy.