i fyour parents didnt like your bf/gf and told you not to see them anymore would you still see them anyways
2007-08-16 04:23:06 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im not in this situation i know i will someday but i was just wondering what othe rpeople would do thnks though
2007-08-16 05:03:47 · update #1
listen 2 ur heart
2007-08-16 04:28:17 · answer #1 · answered by ღ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends. Honestly, in the overall scheme of things and considering your age, it is probably not worth the trouble. What I suggest is this: sit down and have a talk with them. Be mature and show them that you are ready for a relationship through your maturity in handling the problem. Then just ask them: WHY do they not like your boyfriend? Maybe they have a really good reason. If so, then you would be best off heeding their warning. That said, I have to admit that if all that failed, I probably would see them behind my parents' back. I always showed my parents that I was responsible and intelligent when making decisions, however, so it never came down to that. Sometimes treating with your parents with respect is the best way to get them to treat YOU with respect. So think about it carefully before you make up your mind. Good luck!
2007-08-16 11:32:20 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends why they don't like him.
Parents, having grown up and having seen people the way they act as teens and what the resulting adult was like have a way of telling how your life would be affected with the continual prescence of that person.
I know, seeing a group of people that fit into this group of categories all not finishing school, being lazy, getting into drinking and drugs and really not thinking about anything but the here and now. Now, if I see my daughter dating someone who matched that type of personality when they were younger, then it makes sense that I relay that "i have seen these types of people grow up and they aren't the type of person you want in your life'
Of course, there are always exceptions where people are able to leave the road they are on and achieve great things and people that leave the great road and fall heavy, but for the most part, we have seen the paths and we know the destination.
Part of it also comes down to trust. Why would your parents be saying this? To hurt you? To ruin fun? We tell the kids things because we want to spare them unnecessary pain, make it easy to live as an adult and maintain healthy relationships.
Why would a bf try to steer you clear from your parent's advice. Because it may stop you from doing what he wants you to do.
I always treated decisions (when made as a teen like this)
If you were the mom and you were saying to your daughter what your parents are telling you, would you want her to listen to you??
If you saw that this boy wasn't good for her (in your eyes) would you want her to ignore you and see him anyway?
That's the main question you have to ask yourself
2007-08-16 11:37:08 · answer #3 · answered by brettj666 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you felt that that person was worth it, after giving it great consideration and came to the conclusion that the love was real and lasting. Considering the reasons your parents felt that way, if it was only paranoias, then the answer would be "yes."
However, think very carefully, because parents are there forever, physically and spiritually. 99.9% of the time b/f & g/f will disappear.
Took me a million years to realize that.
2007-08-16 11:32:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would find out why they feel that i shouldn't see that person anymore and instead of just going against them because they are my parents (which is what most people do) i would take the time to seriously look back and determine whether or not my parents are right about that person. then i would make a decision that was best for me.
2007-08-16 11:31:41 · answer #5 · answered by Victoria J 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well ummm ya.... if i really liked this guy.... 4 ex not the same situation but pretty close... my parents told my im not allowed 2 date... but i still do i have a boyfriend of almost 10 months on the 19.... and were happy my parents dont have a clue cuz the would be pissed!!
2007-08-16 11:38:32 · answer #6 · answered by mass19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I might be a little more guarded with the girl (After all, maybe my parents saw something I couldnt see in my lovestruck eyes), but I wouldn't stop dating her just because they didn't like her.
2007-08-16 11:32:27 · answer #7 · answered by Expat Mike 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deside who you are to be with not your parents. Listen to your heart. Make sure if you do still see him or her show your parents respect dont just do it out of spite!
Good Luck.
2007-08-16 11:30:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your parents tell you know, they must have a good reason. Listen to them. You'll understand someday when you're a parent too!
2007-08-16 11:30:04 · answer #9 · answered by dinny's engaged!! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, i just wouldnt bring them to my house. I also would ask what they have against my gf
2007-08-16 11:31:14 · answer #10 · answered by daddynard1010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋