my ex girl friend is going to get married tonight, i want to call her but im so hesitated.
in first we were so closed friends, and we felt a different feeling towards each other, then we broke up.
in brief, i think that she will be upset if i didnt call her tonight.
so, please help me in this.....
2007-08-16 04:22:28 · 61 answers · asked by Faith Of Love 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why would you want to contact your ex particularly when she's getting married. I think what people are missing here is that you 'were' friends. Meaning you're not now. She's moved on so should you.
How about this... Did she send you an invitation? Did she call to tell you she was getting married? If not then she has already told you what she expects.
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2007-08-16 04:26:11 · answer #1 · answered by elurle 6 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Mr. Faith of Love,
If you dont have feelings for your ex, please do not call her on her wedding day week or month. You may think that you ended as friends , but its not right. It would have been correct to tell her Congrats when she got engaged. If you call they were will be a cloud of doubt and may think that you still love her there for a cancellation for her wedding. She wont get upset if you dont call because this the BEGINING OF HER NEW LIFE AS A MARRIED WOMAN i didnt mean to yell but i did it in caps so you could see it more clearly. She is getting married please DO NOT RUIN THEIR DAY. You had your chance and for some reason things didnt work out, leave it alone. Be the bigger man and simply walk away. If you were getting married how would you feel if your future bride's ex boyfriend called her on that very day, you would be fumming so leave it alone and dont cause problems for them.
2007-08-16 04:33:38 · answer #2 · answered by theredapple 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, if you had forgotten about the wedding and you didnt congratulate her then it is the only reason which could make you not do it.
You are now thinking about doing it but you dont know what to do, what is stopping you? i think you will be happy to see someone that you spent happy moments with for certain days deserves more than that.
Just do it, you have nothing to loose, you even bothered yourself and posted a question, so you care about her feelings, so do it.
2007-08-16 04:27:33 · answer #3 · answered by 123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel the need to call her? You're not apart of eachothers lives anymore. You're history, just an ex boyfriend. However if you two have been friends and her soon to be husband approves of it, and you have no old mixed up feelings for her and you both know that you feel completely at ease with just being friends, than yea sure...I think that it would be ok.
2007-08-16 04:39:14 · answer #4 · answered by AlliK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Text her. That way it takes the pressure off of a forced conversation and she'll still know you're thinking of her and happy for her. Plus, if she's getting married tonight, she's in the midst of a panic attack and doing a million things to get ready, she probably doesn't have a lot of time for phone calls. Texting is your best bet. It's not too personal, but she'll know you're behind her.
2007-08-16 04:29:26 · answer #5 · answered by lost realist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just call her. Tell her you wanted to congradulate her and that you hope everything works out for the best in her new life. If that is too much for you. Try a text message or an e-mail and just mention you would've called but you figured she'd be very busy getting ready and you didn't want to take up too much of her time.
2007-08-16 04:28:46 · answer #6 · answered by myworldwillneverbewhatiexpected 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you conversate on a daily basis?? If the answer is yes, then a phone call will be pleasant - If your that great of friends then why were'nt you invited to the wedding ?? Sounds like you guys are not thay close?? Hmm, I dedect something else that you are not telling us.... Let her lead her life & go on with yours - You will not be happy till you find your own happiness - Good Luck!!!
2007-08-16 04:34:44 · answer #7 · answered by Lords of Stockton 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You flatter yourself. You will be one of the last people on her mind tonight when she gets married. She won't be very upset, if it even crosses her mind at all. That said, it is always nice to call and congratulate a friend for getting married. I wouldn't do it TONIGHT, though. She is going to be very busy, and it will appear like you are trying to cause her a problem. Leave her alone and call later.
2007-08-16 04:27:26 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If today is her wedding day I can say from experience she has allot going on. The last thing on my mind the day I was getting married or even prior to my wedding was my ex. I would not call as if you are it is not just to say congratulations.
2007-08-16 04:28:02 · answer #9 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys are still good friends, I don't think that there is anything wrong with wishing her well. You know her well enough that you think she might be upset if you did not congratulate her. I say go for it!
2007-08-16 04:27:33 · answer #10 · answered by ♥chicks♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋