Am I weird? Girls still make me nervous. I've never had a relationship. I know they're going to say no. Once I was in one I'd probably take it to slow for her to be interested. Am I a loser? Everyone's already dated by now and I haven't.
2007-08-16 04:15:52 · 6 answers · asked by sclark977 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No your not weird after all your just not sure about them yet but there's nothing wrong with that, people evolve in their own ways, maybe you'll pick up the relationship thing down the road. Just enjoy what your doing now and let things fall into place you never know a relationship could fall in your lap unexpectedly.
2007-08-16 04:21:24 · answer #1 · answered by bm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The people saying "just relax" are wrong. While I would say you are definitely behind the curve in that you have not had a relationship yet, it's never too late to start. Especially since you seem to want to change that. It's how you go about changing it that will dictate your success or failure therein.
I would guess by the way you wrote your question that you are a natural introvert. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THIS. However, if you just go about your business and never talk to women, you're never going to get one either-- hence the problem with the "just relax" answer.
So you have to find a way to start interacting with women. I'm not saying you need to go to a bar every night and start getting laid 8 days a week. I am an introvert as well, and I tend to find that other introverts enjoy random hookups about as much as I do (not very much at all). They key here is to realize that being an introvert does not mean you cannot have success with women. It's just slightly different path to getting there.
I would start by reading "The Game" by Neal Strauss. It's a book written for Pick Up Artists, but it's an extremely good read, and it has lots of relevant information for ALL men, not just those trying to get laid. This should teach you how to actually become more confident, and with that, the ability and desire to start talking to women (and eventually find one) should naturally ensue.
Feel free to ask me if you have any questions, mb2k2burch@yahoo.com
2007-08-16 11:45:10 · answer #2 · answered by The Dating Guru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My popularity flipped when I learned intuition. Ok. Look at most questions. It's almost all emotions and judgments. Emotions are most peoples weak point. They even say we are two or three years old emotionally. Emotions are stronger than reason and if we don't understand them they lead us by the nose If we don't know that love comes from within and get in touch with it, we are needy, Needy people drain other people. Most people are too needy.
As far as judgement or negative words, we should use positive and descriptive words they're more accurate and appealing. Why not search Answers for that question, because so many ask the same questions? If you see an answer you like, click on the picture and read their other answers. The results in your life will amaze you.
2007-08-16 11:23:00 · answer #3 · answered by hb12 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's ok-ur still young. u never know what they'll say if u ask them out on a date. but first get to know her-not even like a date date but like w/friends or out in a group, do lots of talking and stuff. just hang out. then see where u go/how u feel from there.
GOOD LUCK
2007-08-16 11:24:43 · answer #4 · answered by dragonbabe08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude dont worry i havent dated yet ever and im 20 as well =)
So just chill, u just need to talk to more girls
2007-08-16 11:26:36 · answer #5 · answered by David Tan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no ur not weird and i'm never been on a date or in a relatioship....and u aint a loser.
2007-08-16 11:20:59 · answer #6 · answered by ღ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋