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me and my gf have been dating for almost eight months now. her mom and dad have not been getting along well so they may get a divorce. we already live 15 miles apart so we worked hard to see each other a lot the way it is. the problem is if her parents divorce she will move down to texas!! she said if this happens we would break up unless we could stay close. i think she wants me to move with her and i really would. this is the only girl i have loved this much. i am 19 by the way but i am scared to lose all that i got here. plus all my family would remain in nebraska but i told my gf i would never lose her or let her leave me. i wished her parents could jus work stuff out. my overall question is if your gf was moving from nebraska to texas with her mom, would you move with her?

Answer 1

Why dont you ask her if she can just move in and stay with you?? that way either of you will have to lose the lives you have in nebraska and you can be together.

Answer 2

You really have to weigh out your options here. Moving in with someone is always a big step!! How old is your gf? If she is old enough, why don't the 2 of you get an apartment together where your at? I don't know that I personally would move all the way to Texas!!! I had a hard time moving across town when I moved out...lol!! I still now only live about 5 min. from my mom. You really need to take some time, talk to your gf and your family, and figure out what the best choice is for all involved!! You may just want to try a long distance relationship before moving that far away!! As much as you may think you love somebody, things can always go wrong, and I would hate for that to happen after you gave everything up and moved away!! You also need to think about work down there, where would you live etc. there is a lot to think about and figure out before you take that step!! Hope this helps good luck, and keep us posted!!

Answer 3

You guys are pretty young right now and things DO change over the course of a relationship no matter how secure you feel about it right now. Look at her mom and dad and remember they were deeply in love at one time. At nineteen there are opportunitues for you everywhere including Texas but if you move I would do it because I have a good plan for my own personal future in Texas and would really like to live there. I would not do it on the strength of a very young (eight months is hardly long enough to discover everything about each other) relationship with a girl. You have to consider what happens if after you move she breaks up anyway and you are alone in Texas and don't think for one second that could never happen because it does every day. How many of your friends had great romances turn sour suddenly? Just think it out with your mind and allow yourself to see the ugly side of such a move as well as the good before you make the decision.

Answer 4

Why couldn't she live with her dad. She doesn't seem stable enough for a relationship until she is more mature. I doubt that will happen at home. If she could get some counseling she could mature enough, but I take it you are not financially stable. I would say you have to get emotionally stable too and then financially stable. The emotions are stronger then reason and they lead us. Obviously usually wrong. The only way you can follow you emotions is to quit what's here get a job in Texas and do college on line, since you've already put the cart in front of the horse. Or continue with college and hope a needy love starved person will wait for you. Hm If you could fill someones love needs, wouldn't that be nice, but if you don't get in touch with the infinite supply within by learning about emotions, two needy people will drain each other quick time. If that's clear then you have to heal yourself, heal her and go from their. Couples and individual counseling and read some books on the topics for life. There's plenty of free materials to download at trans4mind. com Then you still have to do the move thing somewhere. Choices have consequence and one direction loses the benefits of the other. That's the real world. Emotionally the rule is, "Go within, or go without." And of course you can't stay with inlaws for long unless they have a separate apartment.

Answer 5

it depends honey, if you have got your job and school in your city then it would be wise not ot lose that and try to persude her ad keep the relationship even if you are away, if she really loves you then she wouldnt risk losing you just because you are getting far from each other, i handled a relationship for 2 years while my bf was far away, he came back and then we moved together. weight the situation and see if she is worth leaving all you have tried so hard to get in you own city, you are young... see if you can make at least a better life in texas! life is not just kissing your love.

good luck

Answer 6

You really need to be thinking in the long run, I know you love her now, but is your life and future there? Would you miss your family?

Think if you move all the way down there, say your parents dont agree and you leave on bad terms, if anything happens you have nowhere else to go.

You need to imagine a friend of yours in this situation and think of what you'd say to him - ultimately its your decision, and some decisions you regret.

Answer 7

it's not ya'lls fault her parents r in it bad. and (WHAT'S WRONG w/TEXAS?!?!?!-i'm from north central TX)-lol j/k
anywhoo talk 2 het about the 2 of u moving in 2gether like getting ur own appartment or something-talk 2her and her parents and ur parents about it. when u want her 2 move in w/u or u tell her u will come or whatever ur showing her u really do care that much about her that u won't let anything get in the way of ur relationship!!! just talk 2 her about it.
GOOD LUCK

Answer 8

i know you love her but movin with her is not going to make things better if you guys are meant to be it will work out even wen u are apart,i was studyin overseas nd i had left bf back home and even with oceans apart we loved each other dearly it was not easy but we made it thru,dnt move wit her and lose al that you have,how will u guys survive with no earnings and remember that blood is thicker than water.