Who did you allow in to view your labor. I want my husband and mother to be in the room.?

Question

Am I obligated to invite my mother in law as well?

Answer 1

Many hospitals have a limit on how many people can be in the labor/delivery room during a birth. you are by no means obligated to have anyone in that room and that includes your husband.

If you are concern about asking you mother-in-law to not be there (but visit at another time) then ask you husband to do the asking on your behalf. He will be able to frame the statement in such a way that she will not be offended.

Answer 2

Absolutely not! This is your labor and your decision. Everyone around should respect that.

If you are worried about hurt feelings or a huge family debate:You can always compromise as I did. I was only allowed two people at a time. During times when I was fully covered and knew I was up to it I would let my mother switch places in the waiting room with my mother inlaw. That way she got to feel a part of the process with out actually seeing the birth or bothering me!

Good luck, what an exciting time!!

Answer 3

My husband, my mom, my mother in law, my aunt. I had to have my mom banned from the room b/c she can't handle seeing me in pain and kept talking about suing the hospital for not helping me with my pain better. You can have anyone you want. My mom didn't even know she was being banned. Also, my mother in law turned out to be a great help for me. You never know. But, again, the hospital will listen to your wishes. If you don't want your mom-in-law in there, it's not a problem for them to keep her out. If she asks you why later, just tell her the hospital limits the number of extra people in the room. I don't think she'd be mad or even ask why only your husband and mom were in there. Chances are, she'll be more understanding than you expect.

Answer 4

It is up to you to have whomever you want in there.
You are not obligated to have your mother-in-law.

I had my husband and both parents in the labor room with me.
My dad had his face behind a newspaper the whole time.
My husband couldn't make up his mind whether he wanted to watch or not.
And my mom was like RIGHT THERE, if you know what I'm saying.

Good luck!

Answer 5

NO!! It's your birth, only invite who you want there. Trust me, if there is someone you don't fully want there, things will stall.

It's a very sensitive thing to explain to your MIL that she can't be in the room. It's your vagina! You dont' want anyone around to witness the birth that hasn't seen your vagina before!
Let her know that you are just too modest to have an audience. Tell her to come to the hospital so she can see the baby just as soon as you are cleaned up and she can be one of the first people you let into the room. Let her know that she is important to you and you still want her there.

Tread lightly. Good luck!

Answer 6

You invite whoever you want to witness the birth of your child. Some hospitals will limit the number of people in the room to 1-3 people. Check with the hospital you are registered for delivery at.

I had my mother and husband for the birth of my second child and just my husband for the birth of our first child, but I also invited the soon-to-be god mother of my first baby and she declined.

Answer 7

I allowed everyone in the room until I had to push then I kicked everyone out (including my mom and mother in law) except my husband

Answer 8

This is your decision. Your body, your labor and your choice. I had my husband only and it was perfect for us. Our son's birth was very personal to us and we didn't want to share it with anyone.

My mother was in the room for my first child and I didn't appreciate her shouting out my daughters name when she was born before I even saw her. I had a few names in the running and when she saw her she shouted out " Oh she is a Brenna" I wanted my son's birth to be for us only and it was wonderful.

I have a friend who held a revolving door during labor and had 4 people with her including her husband when she delivered and she loved it.

This is a time when you need and deserve the right to choose what you prefer.

Good luck with your new miracle.

Answer 9

You can have who ever YOU want to be in the room to be in there, and even if you change yer mind you are allowed to kick them out. When I was being induced, I was going to have my Aunt, Mom, and my husband in the room. But I was not going to have his mother in there, it is all up to you hun. In the long run I had a c-section and they only allowed one person in the operating room.

Answer 10

I was only allowed to have two people. I had my mom and husband. This is your call, you're not obligated to invite anyone if you don't want them there.